She allows her child to be destructive to other people's property and doesn't correct the child. I watched her child nearly destroy my computer keyboard while the mother (son's girlfriend) just watched without stopping her. There's more to this than that. The mother has relinguished some her mothering duties to my son. They have been dating about 2 months.
2006-11-23 10:47:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's your house ..your rules..and stick to them..keep a box of toys for her to play with @ your house..let your son know how you feel and as long as he is doing some of the mothering he should do some of the correcting..between the two of you maybe mom will catch on..
2006-11-23 10:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by jst4pat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mum of children without their parental father and grandparents, my suggestion is that maybe you should take your son's girlfriend out for lunch or whatever and be nice not sympathetic, because it is hard bringing up a child by yourself. Ask her if you can do anything to lift the pressure, even take out the youngster by yourself and set boundaries, if the little girl likes your company she will listen to you, if you get on with the girl and want to get on with your son and his girlfriend this will put you at the top of the mountain so to speak. Whatever you do , do not criticise her parental skills because this will cause an insecurity battle on all sides x
2006-11-23 11:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this woman needs to be told that her child's behaviour is not acceptable and she must be in control of him at all times at your home. as for your son having a say in the child this is wrong until the relationship is more permanent. In future if she does not keep the child under control feel free to reprimand both mother and child that should get a rise out of her
2006-11-23 10:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should say something, even if only for the fact that when she is in your home, she needs to respect your things. I'm assuming this isn't your son's child, so you have every right to set the rules of what goes on in your home.
2006-11-23 10:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by kasey08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she let her kid do that b/c she doesnt like you. Or that she is a young mom and doesnt know any better and 'her' mom isn't worth a bleep* either.
Try helping her with her son like, saying "no no alex... we don't break things in (whatever you call yourself)'s house.. ok?"
maybe she will get the hint...
if not, then i totally think you should try to talk to your son about it b/4 the girlfriend.
2006-11-23 10:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say something to her. Just politely explain to her that certain behaviors are not permitted in your home.Tell her that in your home you would like her to show more respect for you and your home by not allowing her child to touch things that are not to be touched by children.Explain to her that you not are picking on her and her son that it wouldn't matter whom was doing this you wouldn't allow it.I know that you don't want to hurt you son's feelings but if she doesn't agree to putting a stop to it tell her that her child is not welcome in your home until he learns to respect your home thereby respecting you.
2006-11-23 10:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the same way, he has 4 kids with his ex, these kids have absolutly no manners, respect, or self disipline. They used to come to my home and go totally crazy, they destroyed my couches, recliners, broke dishes, hid cooked food they didn't want to eat, all over my house, broke and stole, my childrens, toys, games, clothing etc...and everytime I tried to correct them, or mention it to their father, we had a huge fight. Finally I put my foot down, since it is My, and my kids house, if they can't respect our things, they are no longer welcome in it. Me and their dad are six years together, and I don't see them at all. It's also a long story, but it's a short solution, "YOUR HOUSE, YOUR RULES". Good Luck and take care.
2006-11-23 12:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by lilyvix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your house i would definitely correct the child from destroying or disrespecting my stuff. i would try and correct the child myself but if she will not listen then i would say, "girlfriend, i asked child to please leave my keyboard alone and she won't listen, can you come and get her please."
i would not dirently address her parenting skills. people are very sensitive over their children and it could cause a huge stink.
and, your son his gfs decisions are not any of your business. if you want to talk to him, then talk to him alone. do not bring it up to the both of them.
good luck.
2006-11-23 13:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly say something to your son and his girlfriend.If they get mad at you they'll know why you talked to them about it later when they can't stand the child destroying their stuff.
2006-11-23 11:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Shelby Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if the kid is messing up stuff in your house you have the right to say something. If you don't say anything, maybe the girl thinks that you don't mind it.
2006-11-23 11:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋