HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO-IM SOO SAD. IVE KNOWN MY EX BF FOR A YEAR AND A HALF- I JUST FOUND OUT YESTERDAY THAT MY EX BF WHO I LOVE SOO MUCH HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND OR SO HE SAYS. WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GET BACK TOGETHER- I LOVE HIM SOO MUCH- WEVE BEEN BROKEN UP FOR 9 MONTHS- HE ALWAYS TELLS ME HE LOVES ME SOO MUCH AND CARES ABOUT ME- MY EX BF LOST HIS VIRGINITY TO ME(I KNOW FOR A FACT) I AM SOO LOST - I REALLY LOVED HIM- I MISS ALL THE MEMORIES WE SHARED- HE IS HANDICAPPED- HE HAS SPINA BIFIDA-HE HAS A LEARNING DISABILITY- HE HAS OTHER PROBLEMS- I WAS TALKING TO MY COUSIN LAST NIGHT BECAUSE I ALMOST SLIT MY WRIST- SHE TOLD ME THAT I SHOULD MOVE ON AND FIND BETTER- SHE SAID THAT I REALLY WOULDNT HAVE A GOOD LIFE WITH HIM BECAUSE HES HANDICAPPED AND IF I HAVE KIDS WITH HIM THEY WOULD TURN OUT MOST LIKELY HANDICAPPED- I LOVE AND MISS HIM SOO MUCH- WHAT SHOULD I DO?????? IM SOO CONFUSED- THIS IS REALLY BRINGING ME DOWN- WHAT SHOULD I DO? I'M 27 AND HE IS 23- PLEASE ANSWER BACK
2006-11-23 10:42:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can do better. Why are you willing to die over someone that has cheated on you? It doesn't matter if he is handicapped or not. Be strong girl, and move on with your life.
2006-11-23 11:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should slap your cousin for being such an insensitive person. If you really love him then you shouldn't care how your children come out. You say you love him then you should be able to forgive his one night stand.
He's a man its in his nature. If you have been able to ignore all his disabilities then you really do love him.
As for suicidal thoughts i think that is completely stupid. How is that going to solve your problem. You shouldn't just be thinking about yourself.
You should think about your family. The people who love and care for you. I'm sure he is deeply sorry for that one night and would be willing to do anything to be with you. How do you think he would feel if you killed yourself.
He would probably feel guilt and do the same thing to stop feeling guilty.
if you love him like you say you do you will sit down and have a talk with him and put the past behind the both of you.
You should not look back but ahead because your decisons can no longer affect the past only your future.
2006-11-23 11:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him forgive him get back with him, marry him. Spina Bifida is not hereditary it is caused by a lack of folic acid in a mothers diet and no ones fault. Your guy might be the next Stephen Hawking when he matures. Your marriage may be the one that is true and lasts 50 years. Listen to your heart.
2006-11-23 10:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by lona b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater. are you sure you love him or are you just empathetic because of his disability?i think personally that you should leave him but i cant say anything i love my man {of 5 years} but if he ever cheated i would let him go its not worth the heartache
2006-11-23 10:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Brianna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own sanity please try to get help getting back to you ex.when you do make ground rules and deal breakers with him. as for his handicap it is only if you think it is, You might check with a doctor to see if it is genetic, but other wise I would say go for it as he seems to be your world, and you can make it work
2006-11-23 10:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use your gut felling it is right 99% of the time
2006-11-23 10:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋