Basically I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship- I really like my boyfriend. he's away for work but we'll see each other next year when he comes back.
Meanwhile i've met a guy...and i somehow am starting to have strong feelings for him too. We were just friends at first but after sharing many things together, i've realised I feel so good in his company, and I'm starting to develop feelings for him.
The thing is that, my boyfriend and i were serious about each ohter, we had even made marriage plans! but my feelings for him are fading.
help, what do i do? any advice welcome
2006-11-23 10:42:12 · 12 answers · asked by hunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe what you should do is take a break from you bf if you have strong feelings for this guy but do you think that maybe ur feelings are not feelings for the 2nd guy but just this void that you want to fill just someone to have and care for and be cared by. think about it this way if you really love your boyfriend and you think that not having him in your life will be a mistake and you will miss him and be unhappy without him and will look back and say I wish i hadn't broken up with him, if you feel that he is the most important person in your life, if he is truly someone you have a deep connection with then don't risk ur relationship with you bf. this is a test of your feelings and only you can decide who you prefer and who you have stronger feelings for and a deeper connection with, someone whom you can count on, someone who you'll call when you have a problem knowing the person will help you and make you feel better--even ten years from now...thats the guy you need to stick with. but only you can evaluate your feelings and make a decision. whatever you do be truthful and smart don't cheat on your bf. if you want to be with the other guy break up with ur bf and then be with him. Good luck to you whatever you end up doing let both your heart and your brain decide, not just one!
2006-11-23 10:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is away and you are probably lonely don't let this be the reason that you start seeing someone else, you are only 18 and have all the time in the world, keep the guy as a friend, wait until you see your boyfriend again and if the feelings are still there they will come back.
2006-11-23 18:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should choose the present guy if you are having strong feelings for him. For your boy friend since he is away and you are not sure what is going on behind your back. Absence should make your heart grow fonder but in your case it is an out of sight out of mind situation. Your love for him is not strong enough. You are easily attracted to other guys when you are still committed to him. Only time can decide for your real feelings. Introduce them to each other and see their reaction. If your BF fights back for your affection then he is really serious with you.
2006-11-23 18:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What if the guy that is closer to you dosent feel the same way.
If you think he does put them on a test ask them a question about yourself and see who responds better.
Also think if one of them couldnt maintain you and if the closer guy is ready for a comitment.You might even be to young to get married but that is up to you, you should be a buissnes women for a while then get serious because once you get married its like whats next is kids.Maybe you should wait especially at 18.
2006-11-23 18:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the new guy is just filling the empty space that your boyfriend left behind. If you have second thoughts about your relationship than marriage shouldn't be a thought. You're still young, you could bounce foreward, you still have a lot of time to play the field.
2006-11-23 18:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't paint yourself as a hapless victim. You're being greedy, selfish, and irresponsible. Too many people are unwilling to make sacrifices for those they claim to love. Don't drop the word and then when it becomes demanding, decide that your feelings are conveniently "fading". That's a crock. You either deserve your boyfriend or you don't. Get off the fence and make a choice.
2006-11-23 18:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well are u sure i mean verry sure that you have fellings for the other guy like itnimate feelings not just friendly feelings if so maybe you shouldn't consider marrage with the 1st guy because if your feeling can change so rapidly then you can't be in the same kind of love that you were in when you met its not fair to the guy you wana marry because marrage is commitment no strong feeling for anyone other then him sorry good luck
2006-11-23 18:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by baby g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one that you've just met is the one I think you should choose. It's just me though. I think that long distance relationships just don't work. No matter what the circumstances.
2006-11-23 18:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by 2-cool-2-b-me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't cheat on him.if u deside to do something with someone else have the respect that u would want givin to u,and break up first.once a cheater always a cheater.don't do that to yourself.you will have to live with it forever!
2006-11-23 18:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by marshall m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not much to do..
You will probably lose your long distance b/f...
2006-11-23 18:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋