People say wait untill marrage. Others say, when you in love. My aunt made me promise not have sex untill I am 16. Please help, I really don't think I could wait untill after marrage.
2006-11-23 10:42:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would go with your aunt with 16 as an absolute minimum. Sex is a very serious step to be taken and even a 16 year old doesn't really have a great concept of "true love", much less someone 13 or 14. Don't just hand it out to anyone, and certainly don't sell yourself short before you're ready to do so. I knew people in college that were still virgins because they either had stronger convictions than their peers or they truly felt it was better to wait and give themselves only to the person they would marry.
2006-11-23 10:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A good "age" to have sex is when you are financially and emotionall prepared to be responsible for ALL of the consequences that come along with being sexually active. At 16 do you really think you will be financially prepared to go through a pregnancy/birth and 18 years worth of raising that child? The birth control methods on the market are not 100% effective and everytime you have unprotected sex you take the risk of a pregnancy. If you can't handle it finanicaly you're not ready.
Also there are teh STDS, HIV and HPV. Human Papilloma Virus is not preventable even by using a condom as it is spread by skin to skin contact and not bodily fluids, if your partner has it and ANY skinparts touch you can bet your sweet patootie you got it. I will also mention that HPV CAN be spread with or without an out break so even if he LOOKS normal doesn't mean he doesn't have it, and there is NO cure for HPV. FYI HPV causes cancer of the cervix as well and most of the time it requies REMOVAL of the cervix as well as the other reproductive parts because without the cervix you can't have babies.
HIV doesn't always present itself immediately, you can have the virus for 20 years before it presents itself/goes to full blown AIDS and so far there is NO cure.
Other STDS are costly to get rid of and on top of that your reputation will be in the toilet because any girl with an STD is at best a SKANK and no guy even the shitty ones will go out with you.
Then of course there is pregnancy. The cost of prenatal visits to the doctor as well as hospital costs for when you have the baby, well baby check ups aren't free and neither are emergency room visits. Also babies don't live in diapers and tee shirts forever, there are clothes and shoes to buy, you have to provide a roof over their heads and food for their stomachs for at least 18 years...then at the end of the 18 years is the college tuition which will more than likely be almost 10 times what tuition costs are today. Ahhh but you don't care because you figure if you do have a kid you'll simply go on welfare and let the taxpayers foot the bill because you want to "play".
2006-11-23 10:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until after marriage.
trust me, if the relationships you have before marriage include sex, you will be carrying that with you for the rest of your life. Contrary to what anyone will tell you, this is not a feeling you want to have.
Just look around you - every person you know that has had sex and is bragging about it is not telling you the truth. Every person that is miserable about it is hurting. And ANYONE who tells you you have to drive the car before you buy it is LYING.
There is plenty of life to live without entangling yourself with some bozo who only cares about getting in your pants. Live your life, study hard, get good grades, go to college, join a club or two and volunteer. Your life is full without sex at this time. And everything else will fall into place when you allow it to.
2006-11-23 10:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also keep in mind that there is a possibility for pregnancy. The only 100% birth control is abstinence. If an "accident" happened, would you be ready to deal with the consequences? i.e. a child or an abortion? I'd say wait until 18, then there are no "statutory" issues and you're legally an adult.
2006-11-23 10:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by El G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'livelovelearn'. Wait until you are ready to handle the potential consequences of your actions. You are young and you have plenty of time to find a guy who you feel is the right one. Don't settle for the first guy who comes along. You will know you are ready when you are. Listen to your gut. If you think you are going to, make sure you get your facts and be smart about it. I waited until I was -25- and I don't regret it. ~You are special and worth the wait ~. Good luck.
2006-11-23 17:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by AJA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it happen and too soon. Like it or not, after you "give yourself" to a guy he tends to move on with experimenting and leaves you as used. It isn't fair but it happens. Don't have sex until you are mature enough to deal with the enjoyment as well as the risks of it. And NEVER do it when it doesn't feel right. It probably isn't.
2006-11-23 10:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Milan J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
before everything if the guy loves and respects you he would not choose for to have intercourse with you at a youthful age. the lads that do are low lifes and do you choose for to lose your virginity to a scumbag who will probable unfold it around your finished college what you probably did? a guy it extremely is worth dropping it to will wait unitl you're the two mature, bodily and mentally, and could on no account stress you into intercourse- as quickly as somebody starts off doing this it's time to assert see you later to their sorry butt as you may nicely be beneficial they do no longer admire you, or perhaps care approximately you. Secondly females who substitute into sexually energetic at a youthful age are extra companies to cervical maximum cancers, because of the fact the HPV virus impacts youthful infants extra suitable than older youth and girls individuals. Thirdly, intercourse is a enormous deal, emotionally and bodily. you only get to lose your virginity as quickly as, so make beneficial it extremely is with somebody specific, whom you like and have confidence, and loves you in return. Fourthly, no technique of birth control is one hundred% stable, even while used completely. consequently every time you have intercourse, even secure intercourse, you depart your self in probability of being pregnant. Unprotected intercourse may additionally carry approximately STIs, that could impression your destiny fertility. extremely, in case you're thinking this, please do no longer. intercourse is astounding, yet only once you're in a loving, dedicated relationship. do no longer degrade your physique, wait until you meet the main astounding individual and that i promise it's going to be worth it.
2016-11-26 19:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're physically mature enough to have sex doesn't mean you're mentally mature enough to have sex. You should have no doubts about the person you have sex with. You should know he respects you and values you. You should feel exactly the same about him. Until that time, it doesn't matter what your age...you shouldn't do it.
2006-11-23 10:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No set age. But I would wait until I could handle that in every aspect.
2006-11-23 10:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Happens when it Happens,except if your under the age of 17. Under 17 DONT let it happen
2006-11-23 10:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by vindezeal 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋