I am on disability and do not have much to spend. I am all ready in debt from fixing my car. Everytime I get them things they break them immediately no matter what it is such that I stopped getting them so much. All they did for awhile was ask me to buy and bring me more not how are you today when I went to visit their parents. I had to teach them to say thank you and the charities locally can provide for Christmas better for them. I sent most of what I would have given them to poor Indians in lower rural Mexico who are related to me by marriage because I got very upset when I brought them some toys recently to see them begin tearing them up and beating each other up with them immediately. They tear heads off Barbies, legs off stuffed toys of good quality. I just am to the point I do not want to get them anything because they are selfish destructive self centered children and the parents are tired of picking up broken toys all over and throwing them out that they also buy.
2006-11-23 10:32:03 · 23 answers · asked by Faerieeeiren 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks I am just so frustrated with these kids. The parents appreciate it all and say thank you but these kids drive me crazy they are so selfish for being so poor.
2006-11-23 12:45:37 · update #1
And destructive. Last year I stopped giving them things until Christmas when I made them promise to take care of the toys and picked the most durable I could find. But eventually they destroyed these also by ripping off heads etc. I have seen them take toys from their cousins I gave them and beat each other up with them breaking them in the process. Then they lied to a relative telling them the younger uncles broke the toys they were given. Their parents are fed up with it and said don't bring anything except something durable for the smaller children but they break these also. So I just sending it all to Mexico this year instead of giving any to them. But I still want something that will not be a burden to the parents that they will appreciate. I have thought about crayons and a big box of scrap drawing paper because they love it and no one ever gives them this at Christmas and it is easy for the parents to throw away.
2006-11-23 12:48:58 · update #2
I gave them some of my toys I collected and fixed up that I got all over which were beautiful when I finished them and it hurt me to see them destroyed so quickly after all the work I put into making them beautiful for poor children such that I am reluctant to have my heart hurt like this anymore.
2006-11-23 12:50:57 · update #3
get them not too cheap but not too much.
2006-11-23 10:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by not of this world boy. 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Even if you were stinking rich I would give you the same advice - don't buy them any more. Nothing. Zip. Zilch. The best thing you could do for this family is take them for a ride to a shelter and have them volunteer alongside you to serve dinner to people who truly have nothing. Sometimes when people receive charity, they become cold and resentful and this passes on to the children. Good old dad didn;t work hard to pay for this, so it has no value, we can always ask for more. The parents need some help FAST or the next gifts you'll be delivering will be to some juvenile detention centres! Don't feel bad. Drop a nice card off to the family and a box of mandarin oranges. Be cheerful and say that this year you've decided to buy a goat for a family in Africa. www.heifer.org. That's what my grandkids are getting and they always say thank you and are appreciative. but, when i suggested this idea, they said "Sure, gramma. that's what christmas is all about!" . If your group of kids chills you out when you arrive without boxes of toys, so be it. You can't win with them so you might as well please yourself - and God!
2006-11-23 11:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give some money to the parents for Christmas dinner instead.
Give the kids a stocking filled with fruit and candy and nuts. When they ask where the toys are, tell them, sorry, Santa does not bring toys to boys and girls who do not take care of them.
Sounds like the parents need to take control of their kids.
2006-11-23 10:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Make a donation to a Children`s charity in their name. That way, if they complained, it wouldn`t be too hard to point out how shallow and self-centered they are. Alternatively you could borrow a page from Santa`s book and give a lump of coal.
Personally, when I give a gift that is unappreciated in such a rude manner, I never give that person a gift again. They don`t deserve one.
2006-11-23 10:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i hear you and agree with you, my thought is to give the kids a snack box [healthy snacks like fruit, raisins, can soups, food that parents can control and cook for them. macroni and cheese , peanut butter and jelly, tuna, this will help the parents and the kids might not like it like the toys, be honest and tell them they do not take care of the toys so you are giving them food instead. might be that they will learn a lesson
2006-11-23 17:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound kind of spoiled..not poor. Poor children who go without love and respect the toys they are given so not to seem rude but id give them sugerless candy canes and a card and thats it. If they question it say you are to poor to afford anything else.THey dont need chocolate or candy they dont need any more toys and you dont need to throw away your money on brats who dont deserve toys.
2006-11-23 11:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Santa does not give toys to naughty kids! As they are so spoilt as to break everything why don't you just send them socks and jocks. They don't need toys. I don't think anyone expects you to waste the little money you have on unappreciated gifts.
2006-11-23 11:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Show them some love. Have a good talk with them to find out why they're acting as such. I know it's easy to talk and all but honestly, have determination, love and a ready joyful heart.
God bless you. Have faith. :)
2006-11-23 13:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by zeromeyzl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I must say I agree with the lump of coal situation. That would DEFINATELY get the message across loud and clear. A stick of pepermint candy and coal. PERFECT.
2006-11-23 16:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you may want to take a trip to the dollar store or start buying them underwear, they obviously aren't appreciating their gifts...hey you could always get them some savings bonds and give that to the parents.
2006-11-23 16:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy them something that they need. Maybe some clothes.. Ask there mother what kind of clothes do they need. Don't waste your money on things they are just going to destroy.
2006-11-23 10:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋