There's a man at my job who's highly religious, and he keeps asking me if i go to church, when I tell him no not really, he then tries to find out why and encourages me to go. I get extremely annoyed with this because it's not of his business how I choose to spend my free time. I don't appreciate he talks to me for the underlyning purpose of "recruting" me to get into his church. He also invited me to a function at his church and I just felt like saying..."do you NOT get it"? I'm not that interested, leave me alone. I feel in a way this is harrasment because he obviously knows I'm not a church goer and he still chooses to bring up the subject, what do you all think?
2006-11-23 10:26:36 · 20 answers · asked by califonialove 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If he is a supervisor, this is harrassment. If he is not, he should be reported to a supervisor.
Blessed Be
2006-11-23 10:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Celestian Vega 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems he doesn't understand how you feel. But then again, I'm not sure you've told him.
You haven't said that this person is your superior at work. If he isn't, then you can certainly tell him (politely) that you aren't interested - or that you have your own ideas on the subject and would rather not be pressured about it. If he is in a position to do damage to your standing in the company, then you have to ascertain what alternatives and assistance are open to you in your corporate structure. Above all proceed with care. He may just be a sincere believer who wants to "save" everyone in sight. Even though you would call me an atheist, I don't think that's such a big deal - as long as it doesn't cross certain lines. And remember, he may be just another guy trying to make a living and may not have a clue as to the possible consequences of his actions.
Summary: If possible, try to (gently) inform him of your wish to stay out of those activities. Only take more drastic action if you feel yourself unduly pressed or threatened. And remember, most guys usually get the hint after a while.
2006-11-23 10:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by JAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether or not this person has any authority over you at your workplace, and I do believe that would have a definite bearing.
Also, I didn't see where this guy was trying to use any force...like saying "come to church with me or you won't get that bonus", or anything like that, which would be harrassment...
I do see that you have a problem, however. I guess you'll just have to keep on being firm with him till he gets the message and leaves you alone. You could try talking to your supervisor, and he may be able to separate the two of you, but other than that, I really don't see an option.
(Damn that "free speech" thing, anyhow!! It should only apply to people who agree with us, right??)
Sorry!
2006-11-23 10:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harassment is not harassment, until we ask someone to stop what they
are doing, and they continue to do it.
A job is an important requirement to survival. The work environment is not
the place for these things. You have a legitmate complaint. But if you speak
up, it could get worse, as management resents having to handle these
things.
I KNOW!
2006-11-23 10:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by THE NEXT LEVEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be completely honest with him. Just tell him everything you just said here and if he doesn't leave you alone, then it's harrasment. But if he doesn't truly understand how ticked this makes you, he can't really be held responsible. MOST people will leave you alone if you tell them they're pissing you off.
2006-11-23 10:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dyanstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can only be considered harrassment if you have stated VERY CLEARLY that you are not interested in attending any function with his congregation, are not interested in his religion, and asked him to leave you alone about the subject. IF, AFTER THAT, he continues to bombard you with "invitations", to the point that he is interfering with your work, it becomes harrassment.
Talk to your mutual manager about this.
2006-11-23 10:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to your question is a definate YES, there is not a person in the world that is allowed to push either religious or political beliefes on anyone, at any time, they are allowed to express there views, but not force them upon anyone, talk to your boss about it
2006-11-23 10:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by peajay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll you could view it that way. On the other hand your annoying co-employee is just exercising his religious freedom. Can you be more tolerant of him?
Why not try this strategy: find out what he hates most, and try discussing it w/ him. Or, inviting him to do that. That will probably stop him.
2006-11-23 10:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been in that situation when a jehovas witness that i worked with tried to recruit me. Now me being me i just told her i dont believe in God and therefore she is wasting her time, my policy is be honest tell him to stop harrassing u and bugger off!!!!!
2006-11-23 10:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by kate 0504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To no volume by any ability. The organization has a employer to run, and the worker chooses to artwork for that organization. the worldwide would not, can not, and should no longer, revolve around anyone's faith. There are 6 billion human beings on the face of the earth, each and each with their own ideals. this is as much as the guy to stay their faith as they see extra healthful, no longer as much as something of the worldwide around them to house their faith. this is advantageous of an organization in the event that they attempt to time table shifts so as that non secular human beings have their worship days and holiday journeys off, inspite of the undeniable fact that it rather isn't any longer morally or ethically mandatory to accomplish that, nor ought to it rather is legally mandatory. If a Catholic can not fulfill a prescription for the "morning after pill" don't get a job as a pharmacist. As a vegetarian for ethical reasons, might i flow get a job in a slaughterhouse and then accuse them of violating my strongly held ideals for making me slaughter animals? some Christian is asked to artwork on Sunday and that they scream, "persecution!'. A Muslim needs to artwork in a outfits shop and her head headband violates the organization's gown code and he or she sues for "discrimination!". i'm ill of this nonsense.
2016-10-17 11:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I've met a few of those kind of people...
thats very sad though...
Even God does not force you to come to Him.
If you want Him out of your life He is such a gentleman and does get out of your life.
So I think your co-worker should do the same.
2006-11-23 10:32:06 · answer #11 · answered by Karina Maq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋