what do u think of teen moms that take care of the baby and go to school?

Question

hi i am a teen mom of a little girl named calli im 13 and my husband is 14 and we both go to school still and take care of calli when we get back we take her to me friends mom that watchs kids and she goes there form 7:45- 3:20 then we get her and take care of her and she is the best baby ever she barly crys we ove her so much she is only 2 months old and so cute so what do u think

Answer 1

Yes, you can do whatever you put your heart into.

Answer 2

This is just a response to the woman with the rant about them being heros...bet you'd be mad at them if they aborted too wouldn't ya? or if they gave the baby up for adoption too. As a teen mom myself, although I doubt this is a real story, there's unfortunately nothing in the world most teen parents can do to make the rest of the world happy. If you abort you're a bad person and a murderer, if you put up for adoption you're abandoning your child and still a bad person, if you have the baby and try to raise them to be a good and wonderful person you're making the best of a "bad situation" but you're still an awful person in the first place. Well thanks all but I'm not a bad person. I'm a wonderful mom and although I made a mistake in having sex without multiple forms of protection, condoms aren't 100% kids, my daughter is the biggest miracle in my life. She's the best thing I've ever done and the best thing in my world. Without her I would have no reason to be. If you are a real person then I applaud you for turning what SOME people woudl turn a mistake into the biggest joy of your life.

Answer 3

well...uh...i don't think you are looking for another lecture on being responsible and "what were you thinking" so i'm not sure what you are asking. is calli cute? i have no doubt. is she a good baby? as opposed to a "bad" baby? i don't believe they can be good or bad. only the parents can. i'm happy for you that she doesn't cry much. be prepared. rite now she just eats and sleeps. she's awake for a little bit, makes faces, noises whatever. soon she'll actually stay awake most of the day. most importantly...what have you got for social support network? parents? social workers? councellors? teachers? if you don't have a network in place, make one! look up teen parenting in your local area on the internet, get involved in a group and some classes.....good luck. oh ya, and good for you, going to school and raising a baby at the same time! that's not easy!

Answer 4

It's good that you're taking responsitbily for your actions. My friend had a baby when she was a teenager,tho a little bit older, but still,if you think you're old enough or responsible enough to have sex then you should deal with the consequences should there be any. And you are which is very good of you! Plus,it's a good thing that the baby will grow up having her biological parents.

Answer 5

Well done for not dropping out of school and taking responsibility!

Comment to "Amelia"
In one sentence you say that the "Poor, helpless child" is being cared for by someone else for most of the day, then in a complete contradiction you say that "Heroes are those who don't rely on the welfare system". If she were a little older and working to provide for her daughter, her child would still be in childcare but for longer hours. The only way to stay with your child all day without childcare is to rely on welfare when the father is too young to work. Better that they took responsibility for their actions and are staying at school to gain an education rather than drop out and rely on welfare. If the child is being cared for and is not being mistreated...who are we to judge? Age doesn't necessarily have a factor to whether the parents can be "better parents", alot of teen Mums do a better job than some 30+ year olds!

Answer 6

let me get this straight...you're 13, married, has a baby, all at the same time?! what happened? how did you get married, and do you know that for the rest of your life, you will struggle every day. you are barely a "teen mom". i don't know if you will make it as a couple. it will be a long tough road. i hope that you will graduate high school. good luck to you, it makes me sad that it's happened, but you have to make the most of it. she is only 2 mths now, and cute and all, but the hardest part has yet to come. i hope that you have help.

Answer 7

I think u r awfully young to be a mom and he too young to be a father. BUT since its too late for that! I admire you for finishing school and keeping a life with your baby thru it all. It sounds like u have a great support system in your family! Keep going strong girl! U can do it? HUSBAND? hmmmmmmmmmm

Answer 8

This probably wasn't the way you imagined your life to be, but I am glad to see that you are doing so well.
Some teen moms don't have such a good support system, so you are really lucky.
I think you are a daughter to be proud of.
Please - both you and your husband - go to college and get good jobs. Do it for your daughter. She deserves the best.

Answer 9

If your statements are true good for you. However I find it hard to believe that the parents of a 13 and 14 year old would consent to marriage.

Answer 10

I think that its very responsible of you. Life won't be easy, I was a mom and in school too. I had my parents help and support and I made it. Congrats for doing the right thing.

(And btw, in some places if the female is pregnant parental consent for a marrige is not needed regardless of age.)

Answer 11

First I want to say keep going to school! So many young moms drop out, and they end up doing nothing with their lives. It must be hard for you and your husband being so young and having so much responsibility. Good Luck to you and your new family!