I am 14 I am having a baby and that is that. The guy I am with is in Idaho if we can't be together now I expect him to send me money, call every night, and be here this summer, and for the birth of his baby may 9th...is that too much?
2006-11-23 10:01:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Skin Conditions
Your parents must be very proud!
2006-11-23 10:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First -- thanks for having the baby, and not an abortion.
I know I'm gonna sound very harsh, but I've seen lots of this, and know how things go. I'm glad that you aren't having an abortion -- but sad that you're not considering adoption, given the life that is ahead for the both of you.
To answer you -- Yes.
I mean, it would be great if the guy was responsible enough and mature enough to do that. But, given what you tell us, and the fact that he's 16, I wouldn't expect it to happen.
There is a reason why we want people to be married before they have babies. Obviously the guy didn't make those commitments, and you're asking him to be as committed as a hubby now, at age 16. It isn't likely to happen, especially when your parents and his parents aren't being supportive.
I'd like to think that this guy will make his money and come home to live with you. However, since you can't legally marry him, or have sex with him, for another 2 years. In addition, you'll have the pressures (financial and lifestyle) that comes with having a small baby. My hunch is that he'll move on, and you'll only have a small check once in a while to remember him by.
When you graduate from high school at age 18, the baby will be almost old enough to go to school. So, while most of the girls are looking for husbands, you'll have to look for husbands that will love you AND someone else's kid... that's a very tall order. It will be at least 10 years before you make enough money to support the two of you.
Feel free to IM or email me if you think I'm wrong... or just wanna talk. I'm pulling for you and the baby.
2006-11-23 18:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he will be supportive; however, at your age I would check via your parents with a competent Attorney if he ignores you.
2006-11-23 18:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by jwhfaye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's perfect. it's all of the responsibilites both of you should do for ur child to be healthy and see his/her dad. it's a great idea since you live far apart.
2006-11-23 18:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Norlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course that is not too much to ask. He owes it to you!
2006-11-23 18:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by pilljills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋