ok there is this gurl i love with all my heart and she knows, but i know if she can make up her mind if she wants to date me or not. She was in a relationship with a guy for three years off and on and she says that she might still have feelings for him she said it would not be fair to me if we dated because she might still have feelings for him. what should i do. i love her alot and think about her all the time. Its like she is the one. i chould not live without her . so what do i do
2006-11-23 09:45:47 · 9 answers · asked by andrew h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep talking and let her feelings for him pass. It will just create problems if you try to get her now. Actually do stuff to help her lose these feelings.
2006-11-23 09:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Thegreatgk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be there for her. She is going through a difficult time right now. Coming out of a serious relationship like that, it really is hard to let go. Let her know that you understand and that you will be there with her, giving her the time she needs to get over him. For right now just be her friend. More than likely she will see, how well you treat her, and see that she deserves better. But let her see that her feelings do mean alot to you. Dont rush her, let her come to you. Love is patient, Love is Kind.
2006-11-23 17:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time without wasting your life away.
I think that you shld try dating some one else for a while and give this grl some time 2 sort heself out.
If she really is the one it will happen some day but in the mean time...give her spce and live a little.
2006-11-23 17:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi andrew,
She is lucky to have you being in love with her, but if she were the one for you then she would move on from this other man who is no longer a part of her life and fall in love back.
Your feelings are not shared and basically, what she was saying is that she isn't over this man - this is what she means by it not being fair on you. She won't be able to feel the same way about you whilst she is still getting over this man. She is going to miss out on something wonderful, but if she isn't going to feel anything back for you, then all you are going to feel is hurt because she will never be more than a friend to you.
I think the fact that she is unobtainable makes you yearn to want to be with her more. She is being honest with you at least, but until she gets over this man, she will be stuck feeling nothing for you in return. I think that you are going to be chasing after her heart for some time to come by the sound of it and you are not going to know where you stand if it continues to be this way.
Perhaps she likes this man because he gives up on her a lot? - this says a lot about what sort of man she does like and someone like you, who is reliable and trustworthy and honest isn't working for her because she is stuck on a man who isn't quite as great as you are?
This is her loss and to be frank with you, I think moving on is the only way you are ever going to find someone to love and who wants to be with you. She certainly doesn't, so all you are doing is wasting valuable time hoping for her to fall in love with you when in your mind, you know that she isn't going to.
This is sad and I truly feel for you, I have been there too but I did eventually move on and you will too. If she isn't going to get over someone who is unstable, then even if she had something with you, would she want a stable man who doesn't reject her on and off? it doesn't sound to me as if she would make you a happy man at all and because she yearns for instability of some sort - sorry to be blunt with you.
Like yourself a lot more than you do and find somone to like you just the way you are.
2006-11-23 18:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is honest enough to tell ya that she still have feelin's 4 this other guy, so at least she got that goin' 4 her. But i wouldn't push her too hard, make sure she is over him, but don't stop talkin' to her, that might make matters worse for u & her.
2006-11-23 17:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by metalbiblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
okay i think you sould say that you love her alot alot and ask her if she likes you a little and if she says yes ask her on one date and tell her she can still go out with the other guy still
2006-11-23 17:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a girl i would probably say for u to just give her sum time to think......maybe u could explain to her that if she just gave u a chance then maybe she would find out that she would see if she REALLY liked this OTHER guy or not...........explain ur feelings to her......or do sumthing SUPERRRRR sweet for her just to show her how much u care
2006-11-23 17:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think as a girl i would tell u u should wait till she is ready. and because she knows she is ready she will tell u herself. so wait for that day to come.
2006-11-23 17:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Hally berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her...but she does not?you should try to go closer to her..tell her about your fillings..but if she likes the other guys..she cant do anything..then you should try to forget her..get busy with somethings else you like.
2006-11-23 17:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by simanto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋