Okay... I have been depressed all day long. not a happy thanksgiving at all. I have known this older man that works at a gas station for about 2 months. and he is dying of cancer. I cried over him today... and I have been snapy and mainly depressed. How in the world do I become happy again? I was the same way yesterday. I have been taking it out on my boyfriend too.
Any happy songs?
Suggestions of something to get my mind off of it ?
Happy thanksgiving to all of you!
2006-11-23 09:43:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
you have a big heart.
Dont cry over him...just continue to be nice, stop in and chat with him occasionally and that will mean the world to him.
Dont be mean to everyone else...just try and be happy. Think, he will be going to THE perfect place with THE perfect person...no pain, no suffering.......if anything, be jealous- Hes Heaven bound and we're stuck here in hell on Earth.
It'll be ok. Talk to your friends and family about this. Talking to people makes it easier on you and then too, they will understand whats wrong with you.
Stay strong
2006-11-23 09:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First Happy Thanksgiving! This is the cycle of life and we all must go through it , i am not trying to make you more depressed but the first way to tackle this is by understanding the reason why this is happening? Okay first as from what you have said it seems that this person is very close to you meaning a mentor or a person that has helped you by giving words of advice or just simply someone that was always there to talk. Okay now its your turn to return the favor, I mean don't get upset with your boyfriend but tell him how much this man means to you get him involved, don't push people away in this time when you and the elderly man is in need spend your time as a couple with the man if you can. Take him a plate of food, send him a mix CD of your favorite music and his, Get to know him and understand the life that he has lived. That's basically all I can say the rest is for you to do, Take action on the situation?
2006-11-23 09:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Roshan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends Grandmother is dying of old age, they have given her no more then two days to live. I keep myself from being sad about it by offering to help my friend with her 3 children as much as I can. This makes me feel like I am helping out some how.
My suggestion to you would be to bring him a nice get well soon card or home made cookies or something. Grieving over someones illness is normal and healthy, it is good that you recognize it and want to find a way to feel better. Go for a long walk with your boyfriend or maybe to a funny movie. That always makes me feel better.
I wish you luck!
2006-11-23 09:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Becky R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, there's nothing better to snap me out of depression than to do something good for someone else. In the end, we both benefit! Find someone who needs your help - you may not be able to cure your friend's cancer, but you can help him and enjoy his company while he's still here. It may be a kind word; it may be taking him some sort of treat like cookies - it could be a hundred things. I think it's fine if you need to cry - there's nothing wrong with it, and sometimes we need to cry things out to feel better. After you have done that, though, look around you to see the good things in the world, and what you can do to make it better, and I guarantee you'll be happier for your efforts.
2006-11-23 09:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and attempt to get her to communicate such as her father and mother... by her chatting with them supplies her extra concepts on wether or no longer she needs to save it or perhaps adoption she has extra concepts now than she will be able to later. Her father and mother will locate out finally purely make sensible that's now to not late. And be a reliable pal and attempt to assist/practise guide her to make the options she needs and by no ability what each person "needs" her to do because she am has to administration it later on in life no remember what she comes to a decision... and prefer the lady previously suggested her father and mother will develop to the conception and likely there's a danger they're going to free it although the gained't damage her or the toddler. So inspire her to make her judgements which will earnings her contained in the right.
2016-11-29 10:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the words on Homer Simpson "All things can be cured by our good friend alcohol"
OR better yet quit crying be happy that you were blessed with good health and get over it. There is always a reason to cry find a reason to be happy
2006-11-23 09:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Todd C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing ...you can stop being annoyed at your self for careing ..crying because someone you know is dying of cancer is very human....but think ..if he were in your shoes and had your health and energy ..he would want to live every day to the max and enjoy it ...dont you think he would want that for you too ..say to your self ..I am fit healthy and I have energy and get up and do something you enjoy ..that may be reading a book ..listening to music ..or just chilling out in a long lazy bath ...you decide what you want to do.......oh ..if you really want to help that man that is ill..just listen to what he has to say you may learn a lot from him about living life
2006-11-23 09:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with dying/death in regards to someone we care about is always difficult. I have found that senior citizens are much more okay with it than we are. They are actually looking forward to stepping into the next dimension of life.
Think about your own body for a minute. Now try to fathom what it will feel like when you gradually become a bit weaker, your skin is not as strong and is changing its durability. Your hair is not only a different color but it feels different than it use to. Your eyes, ears, nose, mouth and sense of feeling/touch have changed. Everything is old and weaker. Your mind is not as sharp as you would like and or as you are familiar with. Your strength and stamina is nothing like it use to be. In addition, sometimes there is a variety of health issues you never had to deal with before. You look in the mirror and you know in your heart you are in there but your body is so very different. You have attended so very many funerals of friends/family you have known for so long. Realizing you are one of the few left, you wonder whose next? Will it be me? Am I ready? On the other hand, will it be my dear friend next door? Most of your family is dead along with the majority of your social environment you grew up around. You do not feel as good as you use to. You have pains and aches you never had before. It is life's process. You realize it now more than ever before in your life and it is okay. You want to go on to the next life because you know you too will see all the dear friends you miss and family members you have loved so much. You have a desire to feel good again. You are truly tired of being in this old body. So many seniors have told me they are looking forward to dying and or passing on to their next and new body/life. It is as though they are excited deep down inside. Of course, they are pulled by the human force to stay here because they do not want to leave us and will miss us but deep down inside it is truly okay with them to pass on. I have finally come to understand them now. However, it is still so hard to deal with because of my selfishness. “I am selfish, I will miss them, and I am not ready to let them go. I can only hear what they tell me. I cannot yet "feel" what they feel. There is a difference. It is like the old saying
“Until you have walked in my shoes"
Try your best to spend quality time with this person. Know it will be okay for them. Try to let them know it will be okay for you too. It will lift a heavy burden from them especially if you have close relations.
The feelings between you
and the older friend you have will go
through phases. The older friend will
be sad not for them self-but for you.
If you can come to some terms of acceptance with one another, it helps the one that is passing on and it will help you to some degree that you have truly been open about your feelings with one another. It is as though you have made peace with it.
Take care
No, to your question I know you have.
It stays with you forever. You will have moments of grief. Yes, it still hurts.
What get's you through it is you know they have no pain and all is well for "them" now.
2006-11-24 05:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a gentle heart. God bless you. but you must get it that everyone hurts dear. just relax and pray.
2006-11-23 12:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I use to look for someone to chat with either you don't know who is this...
2006-11-23 09:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋