I havent ever really had a boyfriend, and when i'm around them and they touch me or something, i feel, a little uncomfortiable, but theres this guy that i like, and i just want to know if i sound ready to have sex....i'm going to be living with him, hes my b/fs brother, and i'm going to live with my best friend, and i'm going to be sleeping right next to him room! but i really do think i'm ready......if he wanted to.
2006-11-23 09:37:58 · 17 answers · asked by babyice201 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 17 years old.
2006-11-23 09:40:17 · update #1
if u had to ask this question then u r not ready.
2006-11-23 09:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, if you aren't even in a relationship with a guy, you probably want to hold off jumping into having sex with him. Some people are into casual sex but it is a way to get hurt easily or feel cheapened by it -- especially for your first time, you will probably be happier if it is with someone you know you care for in an established relationship.
Secondly, you might want to consider what going through with this will do with you and your best friend. I don't know exactly how she will take it (or even if she knows you like her brother that way), but it might really make things awkward between you and her if she finds out you are sleeping with her brother. (Especially if she finds out not by you telling her.)
Finally, and more generally, if you are not sure whether you are ready to have sex with someone, it's probably better to wait. If it is the right person for you, waiting a little won't hurt. If it isn't the right person, waiting could save you a big mistake.
2006-11-23 09:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by M W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety not because you think you are in love makes you want to jump in a type of relationship like that sit and think because he may not be the right person for you and you could make the worst mistake of your life by sleeping with him make sex is a big thing and it can hurt you emotionally and physically and i am sure at 17 you are not ready for this type of commitment you should be thinking of going to college getting ahead in life not thinking like that 1) suppose you get pregnant and he says he isn't ready for a child what do you do then 2) suppose you catch a disease these things have to be thought of before making him the one that takes that special gift from you. I hope you make the right decision as you seem to be a smart girl.
2006-11-23 10:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by antionette_jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into it...you sound sort of insecure which is normal all girls do at the begining. But just because your really into your bf's brother doesn't mean he's the one. Guys have lots of tendencies to let girls know that they want something but when they get it they jst leave you and don't talk to you anymore because all they were looking for was sex. So like i said don't rush into it you'll know when the time is right. When you feel comfortable being around a guy with him touching you and all then that will be right the time. Take your time.
2006-11-23 09:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by sneakie1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself whether or not you are ready to commit something as big as that with him? Is he the right one for you? Don't just jump into it if you really don't feel ready....
If you have feelings, trust and love between you and this guy, then you should, but only if it feels right. Don't just let do it for the sake of it, because you are most likely going to regret it later on in life. And don't do it either if someone pressuring you into doing it, because no-one should make you feel uncomfortable in any way at all or touch you in a way that you don't like...
It is your decision and at the end of the day, it's all about how you feel and whether you feel mature and ready enough to make this big step...
Think it over and then listen to both your heart and your head...
I hope this helps!
xxx
2006-11-23 09:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by hunny_bun15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juding by the circumstances thats not smart. don't ever sleep with your best friends brother unless you talk to your friend first!! you could lose both of them!!!! IT will be super strange for your friend.! Think about it a little more carefully. .... Is this a guy you could marry? if yes go ahead and do it. But isn't the best present you could give your one true love the fact that you waited all your life for him!? then again .... being a virgin can be no fun .... But think about where you stand on this situation. You said "if he wanted to" it should be the other way " if you wanted to" but if you really think you are ready go ahead just check with your friend first.
2006-11-23 09:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in Doubt, cope out LOL Honey don't waste your goods, you have waited this long why not go al the way, once you come to a certain point in your life when youfeel comfortable then thats the time, and I promise it will be worth the wait, not guaranteeing that the performance will be great, but you will feel better inside about yourself, wait for love and it will make it so much better, or better yet, if you love Jesus, ask him to lead you in life. Its better to be pure in the heart and the body. Give your life to God and he will give you someone that is specially made for you. Man will deceive you but God will never Leave U, Learn to love God First He will lead you
2006-11-23 09:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Twissta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your not ready i would wait if i were for you. This could cost your best friend and also really hurt you. it is hasty decisions like this that hurt woman when they sleep with a man and then he leaves her right after. Wait you have tones of time and will probably date many different types of people.
2006-11-23 09:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have sex. You are uncomfortable and also you are ONLY 17. You should wait until you find the right guy
2006-11-23 09:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by lil babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking the question, you're not ready. When it happens your heart and mind will know....don't be in a rush!!
2006-11-23 09:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by puck4doug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time is on your wedding night and not one day before. That's how you'll know. Hold off until then.
2006-11-23 09:39:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋