whats wrong with me?

Question

my mom died about a month ago and everyone took it really hard but not me. Now it wasnt out of the blue, shed been sick for about three years and they told us she was going to die. i was in the room when she died and it was sad and i cried but im over it now but no one else seems to be is there something wrong with me because i moved on so fast. i wasnt even sad for a week it was liek a day and that was it i moved on, is that normal

Answer 1

I am very sorry about your mother but I assure you, there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has a way of grieving. You are fortunate to have grieved such a short time. Some people it takes longer than others. Considering she was ill for quite some time you must have prepared yourself for what might happen. God bless.

Answer 2

well it is. you knew that she might die and u accepted it quickly. anther answer is that maybe your not really emotional. i know im not. .. also it depends if you were close with ur mom? if u weere then read the bottom it answers that lol. and if you werent then there is ur answer.
i also can relate because my grandpa died about 2 months ago i was really close 2 him but when he died i wasnt sad because i knew that he would be watching over me and protecting me .you probelly had the same situation but with ur mom.
im sorry that your mom died and i wish the best of luck to you and ur family
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Answer 3

well thats good that you moved on really quickly. but it kind of looks like you dont care if your mother died. yea we know you miss her and thats okay but it makes more sense to be a little upset for more than just a day. maybe since you knew it was going to happen it didnt surprise you all that much but yea it is something really serious but there is nothing wrong with you. you jus heal quickly and sometimes thats a good thing. you dont let it bother you all that much and thats good. over all in dont think anything is wrong with you. sorry about your mom. hope everyone else feels better. its better than being sad all your life than being really unhappy. just look at it this way.

Answer 4

Probably you had already done your grieving over that three years. Sometimes, it can almost be a relief when the person finally passes (both for you and for that person).

However, some of that is still inside you and as you mature, you can expect for it to come back up (and that is okay).

Answer 5

You are fine. If you have known she was going to die for three years, you did a lot of pre-grieving, and acceptance. You also were there for her and don't have a lot of guilt to deal with. Most moms would not want lingering grief for their loved ones anyway. So...go forward and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 6

If she was sick for three years, you probably don't feel bad because she isn't suffering anymore. Her pain is gone. You miss her, but you know that it was the best for her. My friend at works friend's mom died of brain cancer and the girl didnt cry at the funeral because she knew her mom wasnt suffering anymore. We want the best for our parents, and it probably hurt you a lot more to see her sick.

Answer 7

you have been preparing for some time now and have made sure you have put it all in perspective.Some people deny the ultimatum but you seem to be a realist.My mum is in a home with dementia before her time and at the time you realise that those closest will never be the same again we have time to accept that their time may soon be up and emotionally we plan accordingly.

Answer 8

there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You probably grieved a lot when she was sick, and came to terms with it very early on that she wasn't going to be around anymore. You're also probably very glad that she's not suffering anymore. I'm very sorry about what happened. But I'm glad that you've been able to go on positively with your life.

Answer 9

Everyone experiences loss their own way--let them. You are lucky if you are truly over your loss. It is possible you've just stored it away to deal with later in your life. May God bless you! I am sorry for the loss you and your family have suffered--both the "death" and the "dying."

Answer 10

who knows what is normal? But I can say, that every one grieves differently. May be in your heart, you know that your Mom is in no more pain, and the fact that you know she was going to die, within your heart you excepted it. I always say, once you know that your loved one is at peace, then they are in God"s hands, who better hands they can be in!