I was in a relationship 4 5yrs. We had problems. I called her mothers house 1 nite looking for her and ended up getting in a argument with her mothers boyfriend. Needless to say I did use some profanity. I was wrong so I apologized to her mother but not her boyfriend. We decided to be friends shortly after that.It's been a year since we broke up and she claims she's not seeing anyone else and still loves me but, insist that we have problems. thats ok with me but, whenever she gets around her mother she turns her phone off and won't even talk to me when her mother is around her. I asked her about it and she gets defensive saying that she doesn't do that. I called her again today and of course she didn't answer her phone but called me when she got in her car and was on her way over her fathers house to have dinner with him. She is 38yrs old and acts like her mother has say so in who she dates. keep in mind I did apologize to her mother. Should I move on because I think shes ashamed.
2006-11-23 09:19:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, I do think that's a very poisonous relationship to hold onto. Can you imagine being married to her and having to deal with the in-laws and her brainwashing? She's 38! She should be able to stand up for herself.
Just my opinion.
2006-11-23 09:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something going on here unhealthy, you have been broke up for a year, so, you should not be asking her what or who she is dating. And there is probably some reason you have not told besides the cursing out of the mothers boyfriend. She probably can not speak with you when around her mother, she gets to much grief, from her mom and from you. You need to move on. This realationship seems a little wrecked. God bless****
2006-11-23 17:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me she just does not want to listen to her mom talk smack about you. So by turning off her phone she doesn't have to have any confrontation with her mom over you. She must care if she calls as soon as she leaves there. It sounds like you have a love hate relationship, which in turn builds up passion. You and her need to figure out if there is anyway to salvage your relationship. At that point you can then decide if you need to move on. All the Best.
2006-11-23 17:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really you should move on it seems to me that shes not ready to grow up you need someone that it more mature someone who makes there own decisions other than there mothers thats something a 12 year old dose you only live once dont waste your life waiting for someone to change..cuase that may never happen goodluck hope you find someone
2006-11-23 17:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by chelsae c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she just doesn't want to hear mom complain about you. so don't get so defensive about it let it go because if she really loves you and you guys work things out she wont care what her mom says
2006-11-23 17:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by lovely baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋