Me and my boyfriend dated for a little over 2 years and we used to fight alot so he called it off [talking about our relationship] i felt so bad because i love him alot he's my best friend. And now he's talking about he doesn't want to get back together because we fight too much but he wants something that sort of like friends with benefits..the only differnce being that we both love each other..i don't understand this and i don't like it i want to be able to sy he's my boyfriend not my friend with benefits. It's now been about 3 weeks and i really need him..we talk everyday and still act like were together but it's not the same because my mind is always teloing me it's not the what it used to be because he's just your friend. I want to get back with him but i don't know about him. What should i do.
2006-11-23 09:19:20 · 4 answers · asked by sneakie1001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow sweetie
you have gotten yourself in an emotional tangle that you will not get out of unless you make yourself.
All you are doing is sitting around getting yourself all worked up about a guy that probably only wants to get his rocks off. Its the sad truth. Women think on things way too much. when you say you both still love each other he agrees because he knows it is what you want to hear, when all he is thinking about is doing you.
I don't know you but from the small paragraph you wrote you would seem to have a lot of good qualities that any other (great) man would die for.
I say Move On Sister!!!
This guy seems like a Jerk!
2006-11-23 09:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jonnygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he just said he wants to be friends, then that's cool, you should try that for a while and maybe it'll help you both remember what you liked in each other so much in the first place and help you fight less.
But the fact that he wants to be friends with "benefits", tells me that he probably already gave up on the relationship, he just doesn't want to give up the sex. I'd tell him, if you want to be friends, then lets be friends like normal people and not complicate things.
2006-11-23 17:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg. we have the same prob...wow. Carson and I broke up after 2.5yrs together...over fighting....its harder than hell to be 'just friends' with him...especially being the 'friends with benefits' I love him to death, but its just not going to be. I thought I would never find someone else after my (ex) husband and I divorced-found Carson, and now its over with us too.
Im thinking the friends with bene. has got to stop. Dont see eachother daily, maybe talk daily...but maybe he'll realize how much he misses you when you're not around so much. Semi worked for me. =) Good luck.
2006-11-23 17:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a happy relationship, I would not want be be in a relationship where I was always fighting.
2006-11-23 17:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋