My girl 1urned 13 some months ago and gave me a hard time. She became disrespectful, took to fighting me and disagreeing wth me on pratically everything. Sometimes it was almost impossible to keep my temper, though we've never spanked our kids. My husband went on business trip and some days later I got stressed, work, fights ate home, and spent 10 days in a clinic. During this time my girl changed drastically, became sweet, lovely, apologized for fighting me so much, was of great help and always with an extraordinary good will. She treated me with much love and attention, I can say she was simply WONDERFUL. So wonderful that I myself started thinking that maybe she wasn't so sassy and disrespectful as I used to think, but maybe just childish, maybe she was just looking for a kind aof self affirmation, hormones. Now, I'm Ok, back to work and she is still lovely and sweet, though she is back to her normal life, hanging out with friends, playing sports. But everyday she says Mom I love ya
2006-11-23 09:01:39 · 9 answers · asked by Carla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If from now on my daughter is 30% of what she was when I was in the clinic, I'll be a happy mom!
2006-11-23 09:02:25 · update #1
She realized she could lose you and it scared her. I would be more concerned that she isnt being so good becasue she is living in fear. She could be holding in some emotional stuff that could come out eventually. You need to talk to her and make sure she is really ok.
2006-11-23 09:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's always hard to deal with young teenagers obviously the reason being that there hormones are changing and so are they. They want to be different people and feel independent. So it's a good possibility that your daughter might change along the way but try and understand her because im pretty sure that you know what it's like to know what it is to have a boyfriend and go out with only friends to the movies,beach, and parties. Try and give her some space but at the same time talk to her about the things that she will experience. Let her know what she could be confronted with. Im sure she will appreciate how much you show her you care. Instead of trying to maintain a mother daughter relationship try and make a best friend relationship talk to your daughter about your old ex-boyfriends and past relationships let her in on personal stuff so she can get the idea that you trust her to let you know whwne something is wrong or when she needs your advice. Good luck
2006-11-23 09:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by sneakie1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She saw you in danger and became afraid of your death. Most children go through the rebellious age, and what she had been doing was normal. I, too, would suggest councilling for this new good-girl behavior, though. It's great that she's acting well, and let her know you appreciate it. You just need to be aware that she's in a lot of fear, and probably afraid to be rude or speak her mind at all just because the last thing she says to you could be in argument.
It's about time you quit revelling in her acting perfect and let her be herself a little more. Don't spoil her, of course, but put as much effort into it as she is right now. If you don't, she could grow up in that fear and never grow out into the world. Then, the day you really DO die (Heaven willing, it'll be a long time from now, of course) she may not be ready even then to live alone and may break down. She needs help with that now, before it's embedded permanantly into her pysche.
2006-11-23 09:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by anything_but_this_again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your daughter learn a lesson that she can lose her mom if she causes you too much stress. This lesson come as a shock to her and that shock made so much impact that she start being sweet and wonderful daughter to you.
Instead of wondering if she is going to be so good all the time, you should show her your appreciation and let her know how much you proud of her.
She is still 13. Her life will change her. For better or worse, she will need your confirmation on that.
2006-11-23 09:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by camellia_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom said when I turned that age, I became more of a 'smart elic' but she quickly reminded me who was in charge. You never get too old for a mother to turn your over the knee. I have been spanked twice in my entire life, threatened to be spanked many more....but a threat is enough for me.
Teenage years will be a little harder because this is a time when children are learning who they are. Peers have a lot of influence on children now. Continue to be a caring, loving, gentle yet hard at times, mom and you'll make it. Keep in mind, even tho you decide not to spank your kids, you need to let her know whos boss if things start to go bad.
2006-11-23 09:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hopefully :yes
probably:no
shes at that age... and as everyone will say its hormones..the thing you have to understand is that she is trying to make her transition into the world as a young adult.. she will disagree and test her power over you for a while.. probably until its time for college.. kids like to know that they posses the power over you... basically you have to treat her in this stage of her life more of as a friend than as before.. dont talk down to her too much and respect her opinions and what she feels. sadly she wont be your little girl forever and shes trying to show you that she wants to be treated more maturly
all in all she is in a stage of life that requires her to act differently... theres little you can do but treating her in a friendlyer and less parenting and mature respectful way will help this transition become easier (of course keep some limits but treat her more maturely)
2006-11-23 09:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by curls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm she should be but you have to treat her with respect to get respect back(if u already r) but even if she does she will grow out of it its just a stage every kid goes thru irt trust me just give it some time she will get older and have responibilities and all that,just trust me let alone ignore it she'll grow out of it i have 4 kids now 3 grls (triplets) one boy.They are treated fairly and i am treat fairly so enless theres something maybe happening at home or u arnt treating other poeple fairly then nothing else should be wrong.Thankyou.
2006-11-23 09:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other forms of getting your children to act right however, the bible does state "spare the rod spoil the child"
2006-11-23 09:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by nattabomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi!!!
Keep treating your girl with love....keep the communication... but let her grows....
2006-11-23 09:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by marido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋