Now we are back together and in a good place. The issue I have is re: need. I used to tell my boyfriend that I need him---which made him uncomfortable. But now that my boyfriend is back--he says he needs me, can't be without me and I help him feel complete. This worries me because through the breakup I learned great strength and realized that we don't really 'need' anyone and that we are whole/complete unto ourselves. I'm not sure what to do now---as I love him but I don't want this to be an unhealthy relationship.
Some believe it is good and healthy to need your partner in a healthy relationship---others believe you should never need someone else cause that is dependency.
Any advice /suggestions? Is it okay to need in a healthy way? What do you think?
Thanks.
2006-11-23 08:56:01 · 8 answers · asked by C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he can be partially trying to make you feel secure.. he probably thinks you still feel the same way and is trying to show you that he is on the same page. my advice to you is to tell him calmly and nicely that you should start all over... tell him that you really like him and how he feels about you but that you would really like to start this relationship off right without any of the conflicts from the past.. that youd like to share that first kiss and evrything.. if you really "needs" you hell understand... also this will help you 2 have a better relationship.. by starting fresh but with great memories you can have a great time building up a stronger, better relationship
good luck and i hope this is the guy for you :)
2006-11-23 09:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by curls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some advice here goes it is okay to want your partner when it's a healthy relationship all because whne your in a healthy relationship your always going to feel like you want to see and hear your partner it's nothing bad. Because after all when your in a healthy relationship your partner is always going to end up being your loer and best friend so just trust that everything will be okay and if things don't work out then it wasn't meant to be and you always learn from every experience you go through and always come out stringer because after all the problems you come out knowing what you want.
2006-11-23 09:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by sneakie1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship with someone you love you are supposed to need them....need each other. Saying you can survive on your own and you don't need another just shows that you are not ready to be in a relationship. This is true in the case if you are getting married or are married...in a true love you learn to respect and need (depend) on the other person. The ones who say this is un-healthy don't have healthy relationships. If you go on not telling the one you love that you need them...the relationship will surely end.
2006-11-23 08:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look sweetheart, we are humans, we don't come with a user manual for our life and relationships...they say this and they say that...and they make theories of what is right to feel and what is wrong...and to every theory u find an opposite equally convincing one! the point is, it's OUR feelings, OUR needs, and OUR choice of what we feel comfortable with in our relationships. U've been in ur bf's shoes, and u know that "need" is a natural feeling that comes from getting used to someone and having him as an essential part of ur life, so u should know better. I say don't label ur feelings, and don't make categories or right and wrong, it's a LOVE relationship, it's not a business venture..just give in to nature's course, accept his insecurities if thats what u feel they are, and stop over-analyzing girl..just live and enjoy..bless u
2006-11-23 09:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in actuality you may desire to make the call your self . no one right here can practice you ways to. individually, i think that once a pair have wreck off and reconciled the sentiments is punctiliously diverse. it would desire to be ths actuality that the two certainly one of you have been relationship mutually for sometime and the two certainly one of you recognize one yet another character as much as specific enhance. you will possibly desire to think of over heavily over this count number as there is this way of asserting : " 2 wrongs do no longer make one precise". individually i think that this relation would possibly no longer have an consequence. yet you will possibly desire to be the only making the call. each and every of the superb to you
2016-10-04 07:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, nothing wrong with needing someone..we all need someone to love & someone to love us back..we all need someone to lean on to..you just hafta make sure that he is not depending too much on you..it's alright to need somebody but not to the extent that you really build your world on the person..you still hafta learn how to stand on your own..Ü
2006-11-23 08:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by -= Qtee =- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you need him too but you need your Independence too! its all about give and take.good luck to you both i wish you all the best
2006-11-23 08:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm doing that too. its hard though well good luck to u
2006-11-23 08:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kells 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋