I have a bad habit of pushing people away, and I hate it, but I can't seem to help it. I like this guy, and he likes me, but I'm afraid I'll push him away, and I really really don't want to. What to do?
2006-11-23 08:53:33 · 11 answers · asked by x3lockandloadx3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop being foolish (no offense). You will never have anyone if you keep acting stupidly! You will just end up settleing! Don't be that stupid chick that falls for guys that ignore her and play games. If you've got something right in front of you go for it... If it doesn't work out then push him away!
2006-11-23 08:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have a nasty habit of pushing people away when you start feeling close to someone and if you do say see that's what I do and see if he has the patients to stay, if he does well he may be the right guy for you.
2006-11-23 16:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my three friends (All in our late 20's) have formed a team to help out our neighborhood. I wear a Jar Jar Binks costume and am the leader. Then there is the guy who wears the Grimace costume, he is the strong man. Then there is the guy who is a convicted sex offender, he wears a trenchcoat like the matrix. And lastly, their is "The Professional", he wears a cardboard Burgerking crown and a fake muscle suit. We walk around town and knock on random doors. When the person answers, I dance and do a Jar Jar quote, then make a loud screech with an air horn. While the person is reeling from the sound, the sex offender confesses that he is a sex offender (as required by his parole). Then the grimace throws some leaves and dirt into the persons house. And lastly, Muscle King plays 'me so horny' on his boombox and we dance. We have done this to hundreds of houses. Are we some kind of kings? I don't know how?
2006-11-23 16:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jar Jar Binks Molested Me! Help! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't explain what you do to push people away. If you know what you normally do to push people away, then try and listen to what you say and how you act, and try and stop yourself as soon as you feel yourself doing it. OR, you could tell this guy that you have this problem (push people away). If you start to do it, he can help you identify what you're doing and you can talk about it and work on it together.
2006-11-23 16:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a psychologist or anything like that, so this is just a guess. It sounds like a defense mechanism. This isn't wrong, it's there for a reason. Maybe someone hurt you or embarrassed you when you were young, so see if you can pin point the cause of it. I think the cause is less important than knowing your doing it, which is the case.
Try a change in attitude. This needs to come from the heart.
2006-11-23 17:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are afraid that you will push him away and see if he understands...if not...then he isn't the right guy...and if he tells you that he is okay with it...I promise you that you won't push him away...he will make you feel great inside!
2006-11-23 16:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with another guy and if you push him away then tell your guy you like that you want ot go out with him and tell him your habit
2006-11-23 16:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by my mom ND dad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one but, just take it slow. let him slowly fall into your heart. Just make sure you dont go to fast.
2006-11-23 16:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing. i don`t know what to do with the guys that i like and if they like me, it`s even harder for me to go out with them. it`s hard for me to admit that i like him. and i always just end up with guys that i don`t have feelings for. well. anyways good luck ! =]
2006-11-23 16:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and talk to him and to him how u feel
2006-11-23 17:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋