would you opt for plastic surgery i was always the target at school for bullies from male and female and always getting beaten i am 34 now and i finished work after my boss bullied me in the office she said i was different among other non related work issues i have been called ugly by dejays etc when just asking for a song if you had the money would you change your appearance for yourself or for others i would do it for myself i was last called freak show and i am fed up of all the nasty comments my face gets children even shout state on that when i go out so i tend not to go out too much fed up of the critisism that i recieve i have just recovered from a nervous breakdown and tried to end my life because of peoples judgements i know they say its what the inside that matters and beauty is only skin deep but even i dont like what i see in the mirror any more people use me and take advantage of me because i have no confidence i am always tearful and suffer with clinical depression
2006-11-23 08:43:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
TO ALL YOU KIND PEOPLE I GO TO THE DR AND I FEEL STUPID EXPLAINING MY CASE ETC THEY SAY YOU LOOK FINE ETC BUT I KNOW THEY ARE SAYING IT TO BE KIND ETC I SEE CPN WHO VISITS ME AT HOME AFTER MY BREAKDOWN AS I HATE GOING OUT NOW AS EVERYONE KNOW THAT I HAVE TRIED TO KILL MY SELF AFTER YEARS OF BULLYING AD COMMENTS TO MY POOR APPEARANCE I JUST SEEM NO END TO IT I ONLY GO NOW FOR SLEEPING TABLETS AS I AM LIKE THIS 24/7 I JUST CANT SEEM TO LIKE MY SELF LET ALONE LOVE MYSELF I HATE PEOPLE LOOKING AS ME AS I THINK THEY ARE LOKING ATME BECAUSE I AM STRANGE OR WEIRD LOOKING MY BEST FREIND SAYS THAT IM NORMAL AND TELLS ME TO SHUT UP ETC I JUST FEEL STUPID IVE EVEN ASKED FOR SMALL DONATIONS OFF CLOSE FAMILY ANND FRIENDS BUT GOT NOTHING THEY SAY IT ISNT THERE IT IS KIKE I HAVE LOST NY IDENTITY
2006-11-23 09:40:11 · update #1
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Do you think that perhaps if you did some work with some non-judgemental people it would help your self confidence before you tried surgery? Perhaps volunteering with cancer patients? Or rocking the small babies in the hospital? Or visiting the elderly? If you try giving of yourself you'll get so much in return. God loveyou, my friend. People are so cruel. My heart goes out to you.
2006-11-23 08:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I truly feel for you. Growing up, one older boy in my neighborhood would continually ask me if I took my ugly pills, always in front of my friends. I overheard one girl in my Jr. High school lunchroom say to a table full of others that she could not understand why I was so ugly because she know that my mother was beautiful.
By all means, check into plastic surgery. Make it your plan to research it completely. Go online. Compile all the information you can on this subject. Take your time. Make sure that you deal with a board certified surgeon. Speak to someone you trust about this and ask for their help; a doctor, therapist or a clergyman perhaps. Have some idea of what changes you are looking for, then find out if they are possible. Get a 2nd opinion. Even small changes can make big differences. I know that some surgeons will reduce their fees if money is a problem and your request is not a frivolous one.
Lastly, don't forget the power of prayer.
All the very best to you. I hope you are successful in your decision.
2006-11-23 09:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do feel for you for being picked on I was too as I was a kid just for being skinny, I had big ears, and a long neck. I'm still self consious excuse my spelling if it's wrong but even today I still dont care for the way I look either. I'm 36 now. Never got any help for what people thought of me I just rocked up I guess and today I could care less. I have a twisted spine with no lumbar. My spine is straight as a board with a twist. I have no curve in my neck that cause of wiplash that never got corrected. I drive a truck now in pain all the time stiff and sometimes cant even bend over. Needless to say I dont look very good alot of times either but I honestly dont care what people think I'm making a living a supporting my family and we have what we need. I honestly dont know if this helps you or not. I really dont have any good answers for you but just think about others too and sometimes only sometimes you have to put yourself aside. You need to find others that are worse off than you are and help them and you will feel better about yourself.
2006-11-23 09:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by martin1170_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is well known that the only reason people pick on other is to make themselves feel better, ive had problems in the past and i learnt that all these people are suffering inside its no excuse but sod them.
I dont care what i look like, as far as im concern im the most attractive man in the world, anybody that doesnt agree is either f#*'ing stupid or blind.
Never worry about what other people say only how you feel inside
2006-11-23 08:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by imstilldadaddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aint your fault honey, you should go and make an appt with a counselar to regain your confidence, but hey if your happy with your apearence why change it to suit others, next time some-one calls you ugly: on the street by wee neds just ignore(dinny incite a riot) but if at work just say look yeah i know but hay it doesnt bother me so dont let it bother you. people will soon stop callng you that because they will not get an upset/angry response
hope i help wja
2006-11-24 06:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry...I was picked on as a kid for being 'big' (fat sounds mean) =) Kids are stupid (im sorry, but they are) and theyre mean...mean kids come from mean parents.....unfort., its an endless cycle of stupid, mean people. I deal with morons everyday at work.
You will just have to try and learn not to let people get to you. It will be harder than hell to do so, but if you can get to that point, it will be ok.
Dont end your life, its not your choice nor your time. God has placed you here for a reason, when he wants you to come back home to Him, He will take you. Obviously, you are a strong person. God only gives you and takes from you what you as a person can handle. You have lived 30+yrs with evil stupidity at your doorstep. DONT give up.
If anything, try to find a local organization for self esteem. Honestly, if you need a friend, email me. I will be glad to talk to you.
2006-11-23 08:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for the way you feel, i would see a doctor about your concerns, because sometimes you can have surgery done on the nhs, now usually i dont agree with this, but your situation is very different to the sake of vanity, good luck, try and be happy
2006-11-23 08:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by button moon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are who u are. dont let some knobnecks put u down. hold ur head up high. its wots inside that counts and you sound really nice. i was picked on for being skinny but i didnt care, i had 2 kids and im a size 12 now. i look at some of those who picked on me and they have put loads of weight on so i could turn the tables and start on them, but i wont lower myself. email me if u wanna chat anytime!
2006-11-23 08:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by mishnbong 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let a cosmetologist/makeup professional help you. They may be able to give some tips to you without your seeking a plastic surgeon. Good luck!
2006-11-23 08:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋