2006-11-23 08:41:40 · 6 answers · asked by Rd2go 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
More details were asked for...I am meticulously planning my exit. I have lived for 40 years with a pain and emptiness I can no longer deal with. I adore my girls but I think they have heard Mommy cry herself to sleep enough and the aching has become to intense. I have made financial plans so they will be taken care of , left explicit details in my will and made videos telling them of my love for them. They deserve better than me, I am not the person they need to teach them to be strong, healthy woman.
2006-11-23 09:00:48 · update #1
Young kids are really concerned about the basics like what will happen to them. How will the practical things in life change for them....home school, friends, being loved. Next they want to know what will happen to you. Give them honest talk about what you believe. If you have not engaged in talks about faith, then doing a "some people think this. and some people think that" talk gives them a variety of things to chose from to find the one that comforts them the most. When they ask what you think, tell them. It is an opportunity to model to your children loving parenting in the preparations you make for their security, and also how you meet your death will be the greatest lesson they may ever learn. Fear of death is one that all humanity struggles with. Those who have no fear, live life most fully I think. I recommend levity in the heaviest places. I especially recommend being a part of life until the moment you are not.
2006-11-23 09:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by SnowQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While many might applaude your meticulous planning and desire to best prepare your daughters for your suicide, I would have to say you're actually being extremely selfish (which is the opposite of what a mother should be). Your daughters did not ask to be born, but they have been, and they're your responsibility to care for. There's no BEST way to prepare ANYONE for an impending suicide of a loved one. There's hardly a best way to prepare a loved one for a terminal illness. Now your nightly tears will undoubtedly be replaced with their own. Be sure to include a "It's not you, it's me" in your video. That works for breakups, right?
2006-11-24 14:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very honestly, I think it depends on your girls individually. If you feel this is the best thing to do (Remember that none of these other people, nor myself, know you or your situation so make up your own mind without our influence.), no one knows your daughters as well as you do. Sit down with them and explain to them what is going on if they are old enough. If they aren't old enough, maybe it is best to do nothing more than what you've already done. Explain to them that you love them more than anything in the world and that they did not cause you to do what you did (will do). However, tell them that you have to do what is right for you and that you feel seperated from this world and want to move on. Then hug them and tell them with your whole heart that you DO love them and to never forget that.
2006-11-23 09:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by fromatoms2adam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! More details are definitely needed... Have you been diagnosed with a terminal illness? Or do you just have a feeling of impending doom? What are the ages of your girls? What kind of relationship do you have with them? Do you have financial plans put in place for that eventuality?
2006-11-23 08:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old they are. I find that the truth is the best answer if the kids are about 6yrs or older
2006-11-23 08:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to think of the people you are going to leave behind you, you are trying to show your daughters to be strong but leaving them this way isnt the way to do it? this is for if you are contemplating suicide you are not really saying deetails
good luck xx
2006-11-23 09:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋