Getting hold of someone?

Question

I'm in Year 9 and I feel uncomfortable being one in a small crowd of people who hasn't got hold of a girl yet. The thing that puts me down most is one I dont have a girlfriend, and I crave a decent lengthy relationship, and two, if I ever got to the stage where I was to get hold of a girl, what the hell do I do, I'm sure others have this problem, so my question is, how did you handle your first kiss (not just a peck on the lips, I've done all that!), but do you have any tips of just to take it easy and not be totally bad at it, I hope you sort of know what I'm asking, and can give me the sort of answer I need!

I'm after this girl at the moment, I we out with her in Year 7 but shedumped me hours later, she didnt say why but I guessed it was because I didnt get hold of her, reason being because she's already got hold of someone, so I was intimidated and put under pressure, and also because she was quite popular at the time and we had a huge crowd around us, so I bottled out of it, she knows I've had feelings for her after that, but we've built a huge friendship and I'm stuck in the friend zone, we're best friends but I've always wanted to be with her, she says she's at getting hold of someone, she's dumped this guy cause apparently he wasnt good at it, and it piles more pressure on me, any other advice as well as what to do with my first tongue kiss, cause she doesnt have to be my first!

I'm after this girl at the moment, I went out with her in Year 7 but she dumped me hours later, she didnt say why but I guessed it was because I didnt get hold of her, reason being because she's already got hold of someone, so I was intimidated and put under pressure, and also because she was quite popular at the time and we had a huge crowd around us, so I bottled out of it, she knows I've had feelings for her after that, but we've built a huge friendship and I'm stuck in the friend zone, we're best friends but I've always wanted to be with her, she says she's at getting hold of someone, she's dumped this guy cause apparently he wasnt good at it, and it piles more pressure on me, any other advice as well as what to do with my first tongue kiss, cause she doesnt have to be my first!

Answer 1

Look you take your time, find someone you want to be with, don't go for someone just cos your mates are doing it, u'd be letting your principle's down and yourself, and if your mates take the Micky they're not such good mates after all... and as for every thing else you've asked advice on it'll will all come to you naturally i promise.. you seem very cool for your age and you'll figure it out.. when kissing don't have wet lips and for god sake don't stick your tongue down they're throat straight away.. take it slow u'll be great good luck

Answer 2

You have your whole life ahead of you, why push it?
I understand you want to have a girlfriend and you will...
You need to concentrate on your schooling and get into a good collage and in collage you will have women not girls to chose from.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

WHY THE HELL ARE SO DAMNED KEEN TO BE PART OF SOMEONE ELSES LIFE!!!!!!!!!!

Kiddo, enjoy your single life while you can, you have plenty of time for coupledom in the future!

As for the peck/ kiss, just go for it, but be careful not look like your eating her face!

Answer 4

hey...
i am in year 11 and i have the worst boyfriend you could ask for... he shows me little effection and is very rude towards me sometimes. However my point is, mingle with the girls. make them feel good and sexy, safe is also good lmao. talk to em like your there best mate. treat em, give em compliments. even go out with em over the weekends. Take them to the cinima or something. add me on msn and we can talk bout it, if ya like my addi is:
lois_british_dressage_fairy@ hotmail . com ..... or email me its up to you.
hope to talk to ya soon. much loves xxxxx

Answer 5

well it might sound wierd but it works try kissing you hand how you want to kiss the girl and keepm looking for the right girl she will cme i'm sure