I have gained weight after I quit smoking and my boyfriend gained weight as well when he quit.Now he doesn't want to have sex with me since I have gained the weight.We have been together for 7 years now and he says that he loves me but if you love somebody you love them for them.I still love him the same as I did before he gained the weight,I would never stop loving him for anything.He means the world to me and I am a very lucky lady to have him!Why would he do this to me ?
2006-11-23 08:14:40 · 16 answers · asked by curious69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he has a different perspective on love and relationships and it sounds kind of one sided. The thing about love is that action speaks louder than words. By showing someone you care is more important than saying it.
He also forgets that physical appearance no matter how good looking a person is only lasts for so long. We all eventually get wrinkles, chunky, bald, etc; Real love goes beyond those things, and I speak from having been married for over 37 years. I am not the slim good looking guy I was but my wife loves me just the same. She is no longer slim, and I don't care. Over the years she has shown me by actions that she loves me. We have gone through good times and bad times together, nothing was ever measured on the appearance score card, but by being there for one another and knowing the person beside you is with you for the long journey of life.
2006-11-23 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by John E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can't just be the weight. Something else is going on. That is a dumb excuse for something really serious. If you guys are in love and you are his only woman and you guys are still close, he would still totally have sex with you no matter how you looked. Even if he is really extremely displeased with you (although he shouldn't be) guys have sex with ugly fat girls all the time. It may be his own insecurities he's facing, or it may be other bigger issues that have come up. Either way you guys need to have a serious talk.
2006-11-23 08:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by CheezyYumYums 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it the weight or something else. It may not be you it may be him. If he has been gaining weight that may be the problem he is becoming lethargic and just doesn't want the work out. Try jumping him the workout may do the both some good.
2006-11-23 08:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is the one uncofortible with his own weight and that he is the one who might be uncofortible being naked in front of you - and YES even after 7 years.
You need to address this problem as the issue might be a lot deeper then you think, because quite frankly, this sounds like an excuse.
2006-11-23 08:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry babe but he sounds like an *******!
Thats just stupid what he's saying, telling you know...your really good for quitting smoking so think about number 1
Sometimes love can blind you!
Think whats best for you innit! Stay the way you are and find someone who will love you better...
(you know the sex gets better elsewhere, lol) shhhhhhhhhh
2006-11-23 08:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Fayeboo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He might not be as interested in you as he once was earlier in the relationship. I mean c'mon what man would turn down sex with a woman he loves?
2006-11-23 08:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by TravisButtaz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
then you need to let him go because if he doesn't respect you for gaining weight than he needs to go. because i know i am a beautiful big girl and i love my body to the fullest i don't care what people say about me because i love me for me ow much did you gain and how much to you weigh email me at fox2154@yahoo.com
2006-11-23 08:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by ||BOOTyMEAT|| 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so lucky if that's his attitude. You could try losing the weight and then when he comes around wanting some tell him, "Lose some weight first. Then we'll talk."
2006-11-23 08:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dark 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm bowled over at how teenagers experience approximately oral intercourse additionally. they do no longer even evaluate it intercourse. there's a e book out now referred to as (i think of) the hot Goodnight Kiss or some element on the factor of that. Its approximately women at age 13-14 giving boys/adult men oral intercourse and getting money. the ladies folk are doing 4-5 boys a night. and that they think of its no enormous deal. The e book became in line with a study in Canada inspite of the undeniable fact that it happens throughout. My granddaughter is in center college and that i became bowled over at what the 6th grade women write on the tub room partitions. those women do no longer think of of oral as intercourse so as that they think approximately themselves virgins additionally. If there is not any penetration they experience they are no longer having intercourse. i'm with you on it being surprising. How did issues substitute plenty? You do could desire to communicate inclusive of your daughter. no longer with disgust nonetheless, please.which will force her remote from you and he or she'll by no ability experience you recognize and isn't any longer user-friendly with you. talking approximately intercourse inclusive of your youngsters is often somewhat awkward till now each and every thing. It became for me besides. purely be calm and proceed to be that way. She'll be plenty extra in all probability to hearken to and to communicate in self assurance to you. we ought to consistently confirm that our youthful women folk understand that oral intercourse is intercourse. to no longer be taken gently or used as a thank you for dinner, etc. we could desire to make those women comprehend that they are worth and particular and that they do no longer owe anyone a BJ. i think they could desire to appreciate that its no longer in basic terms intercourse that needs to used in a definite dating. that each and all and sundry intercourse is particular and a recent they could desire to share with somebody they think approximately a companion no longer a classification mate.
2016-10-17 11:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl wake up and smell the coffe he dont llove you. how much weight did you gain?how much do you weight?email me at parnellbrandi@yahoo.com
2006-11-23 08:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by TYRA 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋