It has been over a month and I am still not over my break-up with my ex gf. The last time we spoke, she said that I should have no contact with her, whether if its via email, phone call, text message and even looking for her. She added that she is seeing someone and that we are totally over. I still hope to be friends at least. What is your best advice for me? I know I probably should not so anything now, but should I contact her later? So lost...
2006-11-23 07:20:26 · 13 answers · asked by Why... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What I gather from most of the answers is that there isn't really much hope?! Should I contact her probably in 2-3 months or just let it go... Seriously, I still hope to remain as friends.
2006-11-23 10:05:01 · update #1
One month could be just the begining of years of pain of having lost something you had. She doesnt want your friendship at all. She even doesnt want to see you; not even you being the last man standing on Earth. Friendship is not something you ask someone for. Besides, you dont want friendship. You want her back. The more you hope for that, the more destructive you will be to yourself and others. Besides, how can you be friend to someone who doesnt want to speak to you any more? Open your eyes. Normal people can stay friends when they break up, because life is life... but she doesnt give a sh for that.
The best thing you can do now is allow time to fade that bad feeling away, gather the best advices experience has given you not to make the same mistakes, and continue your search... You seem to be a good guy. One day you will realize again that the world is full of wonderful girls waiting for you.
One more thing. Dont try to understand her, because she is a female :P
2006-11-23 07:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sending you a text is at least some sort of effort. It shows she still cares about you whether it be love or friendship care. She might act like shes moved on but a lot of times people just convince themselves that to stick with their decision. If you do text her back, you shouldn't say anything else other than "thanks". You really have to play it limited with her, you can't text her a bunch of stuff or tell her u still have feelings for her and want to see her, that's only going to drive her away. If you play it cool though and have limited conversations when she texts you and just answer the basics then you should be fine. Eventually when she thinks you have moved on too, she'll most likely come back to you missing you. If she doesn't it's for the better then, everything happens for a reason and you just have to learn to move on, be happy and worry about yourself. In the long run you'll realize it was for the best. Just takes time
2016-05-22 23:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think breakin up with an ex can be the hardest thingbut I think u will knw if its still hope if..........................1)U and ur ex continue to c each other and smiling everytime u run into each other, 2)Ur ex still calls u and checks on u like more than once a week, 3)Ur ex doesn't get a bf after about a month of yall breakin up.......Thats all I have now but good luck sweetie.................
2006-11-23 07:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by *♥MiiSz uNiiQu3♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man i was in the same spot you were just a couple of weeks ago. but we are together now! But if she is seeing someone else then she must not really love you that much. Sorry. But maybe you should talk to her. See if you can still be friends!
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2006-11-23 07:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by pop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact her. She's made it clear that she doesn't want to be with you. You say you just want to be friends, but it's obvious you want more than that... you said it yourself that you're not over her. Do yourself a favor and move on. I promise you... there is a wonderful woman out there for you!! Good luck :)
2006-11-23 07:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Paul T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont contact her if she's already asked you not too. If you want to be friends respect what she's asked of you and it will make you seem more confident which is attractive-stalkers are not.
2006-11-23 07:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by karenschonert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep faith in your self, you still feel strongly towards her let her come to you i would send her just one email saying all you would like is to remain friends and your be there for her if she ever needs a shoulder to learn on.
2006-11-23 07:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by A A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, nothing wrong with trying to win back if you really love her..but if it's really true that she is seeing somebody else now, it would be better to just leave her alone & move on..
2006-11-23 07:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by -= Qtee =- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u must move on...!
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2006-11-23 07:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. She doesn't deserve you. Find someone that will treat you better.
2006-11-23 07:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋