me and my hunny are living in two seperate house holds at the time, and everytime he leaves my heart breaks and i cry it's not fair in my oppinion that life has to be this way i mean i'm 23 wks pregnant and we have to live in two seperate house holds until march when his lease is up.... i need help finding a way to keep my mind occupied... any ideas???
2006-11-23 07:04:06 · 17 answers · asked by Stacy ` B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you love him so its only natural to be upset when he leaves, but you should smile too because the sooner he leaves the sooner that you can see him again, but on the other hand, if he loves you as much as you love him he should stay with you, no matter if he has a lease or not.. theres no law that states just because of his lease he cant stay with you, mix it up a bit, you stay with him for a week and then he stays with you for a week, and by staying in the same house for a peroid of time you will find out more about each other, hmmm baby on the way, maybe you can spend time making blankets clothes ect for your baby. turn your tears into happy thoughts about the baby..
hope i didnt bore ya. lol gl 2 u
2006-11-23 07:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by boots 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Living apart is hard. At least you get to see each other -- try having to maintain a long-distance relationship sometime when you only get to see each other once or twice in a year. (Actually, don't. It's hard.)
As much as you miss him when you are apart, try to make a life for yourself as well. Find work/hobbies, so that everything in your existence doesn't entirely revolve around counting down the time until you can see him again. I'm not saying you should push him away or exclude him -- quite the opposite -- having your own life will not only fill and ease the time between being with him, but will give you more to talk about and share when you are together.
And, enjoy the time you do have together. When you are together don't make the mistake of spending half or all the time you've got worrying about him having to leave -- enjoy the time you have!
Even when you do finally get to move in together, though things will be much easier, it is not that you will be spending all your time together anyway -- there is work, and even just time when you are both at home but doing different things. Take the time to appreciate each other now and it can be that much easier not to take each other for granted when you are living together.
Good luck!
2006-11-23 07:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by M W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 23 weeeks pregnant, you will cry if he is there, or if he isn't. Your hormones are unbalanced, and you just have to deal with it until you have the baby. I cried a lot during my pregnancies....for no reason at all. A movie, a song...
What I found myself doing in times of heartache was read. It always occupies your mind and helps you get lost in another world. Sometimes the stories gives you insight and perspective on your own life.
Learn a craft....but reading is always good. Your baby feeds off of your emotions. If you dont want a baby that is crying all of the time, you might want to get focused on something else. It is REALLY difficult dealing with a new child...especially one that is constantly crying for no reason.
I have had 3 kids, and noticed that as newborns, they all seemed to immulate whatever emotion I fed on the most through my pregnancy. My youngest daughter slept through the night from day 1 of bringing her home. I was on a schedule, and so was she. My son cried ALL of the time until he was 2 yrs old, I was very sad during that pregnancy.
2006-11-23 07:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh I thought you were going to say you broke up. Just seperated, but in love and planning to reunite?!
Ever heard of the saying: Absence makes the heart grow fonder?
My husband was in the Marine Corp for the 1st 2 yrs of our marriage, and I cherished the strong emotions that our seperations brought out. I always used our time apart possitively, like taking really good care of myself and our baby and oh were those reunions fun....
Your pregnant, isnt your mind filled with happy thoughts of bringing this child into the world, and your baby having a daddy in his life? I was getting the nursury ready, creating a beautiful baby scrapbook, plus you guys can talk on the phone right? Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving...
2006-11-23 07:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let us address the fact that you are 23 weeks pg and you are going through throes of changind hormones. Also another fact to consider keep in mind the situation is not permanent. Mean while do your thing and keep life going - March isn't all that far away and as each day closes it brings March all the more closer.
2006-11-23 07:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a lease situation, he is forced to pay rent on the other place until the lease expires - but the lease cannot dictate where he sleeps. He can stay with you if he wants to....you need to find more why he heads home.
2006-11-23 07:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think you are emotional because you are pregnant unless he has another family there he isnt telling you about then there are no problems. I can understand that he doesnt want to mess up his credit who knows one day he may need to rent another apartment and it is not easy to do with bad rental history
2006-11-23 07:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww... well, my mother said that when she was pregnant, she would read and knit. Reading and knitting are great things to do when pregnant and lonely. Try watching t.v., or turning either that or some music on for some background noise, or try to do things with your family and friends if you can. I'll pray for you
2006-11-23 07:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm. You can go on walks. Surf the net. Draw. Write. Get a roomate?
Maybe?
2006-11-23 07:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 10:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by bassage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋