why my dog hates me and where do i find a person to adopt him?

Question

hi...i don't want u to think that i am a horrible person,but i am trying to give my dog away and i don't know where to take it because noone want's him.It is my husband's dog,and since i mouved in the dog barks at me and bites me,he does that only with me and i really start to hate him,we have so many problems in our marriage because of him,he hates me so mush,is a shar-pei and is 6 years old but is very agresive with me,ONLY WITH ME .i don't understand why.So please,can someone tell me where i can get help?Thank you

i only have problems with this dog,i love animals,i do have 3 cats and one dog in my parents house,but this dog is imposible,he just doesn't love me and i can not divorce my hubby for a dog....in the other way,my hubby love the dog a lot...he always tells me that he loves me but he loves the dog aswell and that he will only give him away if i find someone to take good care of him...i don't know what to do...i am a bit desperate now,as the dog is driving me crazy and creates problems in my marriage.....

thanks to all of you,very kind of you trying to help me out,thanks again!!!! i will try everything u told me!! :))

Answer 1

he sees you as a threat that is why! You have taken his owner away!! You have to show him (the dog that is) that you are boss over him. At the moment the dog sees your husband at the top of the heirarchy and sees you as bottom of the heirarchy and that is why he attacks you. You need to do some training with him to show him that you are the above him in the hierarchy! The reason he carrys on attacking you is because he is not afraid of you and he gets away with it, and thus maintains his position in the heirachy!

Answer 2

First of all, the dog doesn't hate you. He's threatened by you.

This problem is very workable and I hope that you and your husband would choose putting in the effort before giving the dog away. If not, neither of you should have pets at all and I hope you find him a good home.

As the others have stated, your issue is the heirchy in your house. There are lots of resources on Alpha training. A few simple techniques can correct this very easily. Get a behaviourist to come and evaluate your dog and your situation.

Otherwise, if your dog came from a breeder, check with them first. They may take the dog back (no matter how old). You can put ads up in vets offices, pet stores etc. Ask your vet, he/she may know someone that's looking for a dog.

Please take the time to interview thoroughly any potential adopters. Ask lots of questions and don't be afraid to ask for references. Ask why they want the dog...if they want him for looks, pass on them. Ask if they have previously owned any pets, and what happened to them? Ask what they would do if the adoption for any reason didn't work out? You might suggest they return the dog to you so you know he won't end up in a kill shelter.

Answer 3

Dogs live in packs, a family with a dog is a pack. You may find that your husband is viewed as the pack leader by the dog, and the dog see's you a the young pretender and has to put you in your place. Last in the pecking order. What has to be done is for your husband to let you feed the dog, and to make sure that he backs you up if the dog becomes aggressive. Try to be more assertive with the dog, take him for walks and make him go where you want to and not to let him pull you. If he pulls, walk backwards and turn around. eventually the dog will understand that you are above him in the pack and you will start to get on better. There are some behaviour trainers on the web, but the best place to ask is your local vet. They have contact details of dog trainers and dog psychologists.

Answer 4

It has been proven that dogs and cats have personalities, as do other animals and that they too have some form of intelligence. The dog has never had to share its "friend" (your husband) with another living creature before and finds you a threat in "their space". The dog has probably noticed that it gets less attention, and you get more, and NOT having a reasoning capacity (ie. that it will still have a place to stay, food etc and can't possibly fulfill a role as wife to your husband) it attacks you because its very existence feels threatened. Your husband... man, he sounds like he has a hard time making a sensible decision regarding the matter. What is he doing to protect you as his wife? Why don't you suggest to him that unless he does something you will have to go so that he can live in peace with his dog? If *that* doesnt get a response then honey, I dont know what will?

Answer 5

he probably doesn't hate you he thinks he is more dominant than you. When a new dog is introduced into a pack they will fight for dominance and this is the reason behind the behaviour
Do you ever tell him off and lay down the law? when your Husband is around and he is bad, stare at him in the eyes and shout at him. Your husband can back you up if he doesn't submit.
If you ever play with him and his toys make sure you never lose because this will put up you status.
you are probably best to go to a dog trainer (they usually have group lessons that don't cost too much) and get them to help you.

Answer 6

You need to become the pack leader and not be bullied by this guy. The problem is your husband needs to be on board with this change. He needs to step back and let YOU be the alpha. You need to feed the dog exclusively, You need to walk the dog exclusively, You need to brush the dog, bathe the dog, pet the dog exclusively. You need to have a lead (leash) on the dog constantly so it learns that You control it's every move.

http://www.leerburg.com has tons of information on dealing with dominant dogs. That's the situation you have. You need to be the Alpha, but it's not going to work if everyone in your home doesn't cooperate. Dogs respond to consistency - any break in the routine will confuse the dog. Ask your husband if he can cooperate, and if not, I suppose you should contact the ASPCA in your area to have the dog adopted. They will rehabilitate your dog too if it has aggression issues before it is adopted.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I empathize which includes your attachment to the dogs and the certainty which you extremely elect to maintain her. besides the undeniable fact that, i think of that's obvious that she isn't a stable in good shape on your enjoyed ones. If a dogs has bitten a newborn/toddlers thrice, that's a significant pink flag, no rely what the breed or the size. it ought to be that she ended up in the preserve for a similar reason: biting. i could PTS once you talk approximately which you ended up with a dogs who bit 2 toddlers, in all probability simply by fact somebody else surrendered her to the preserve. do you have chose it to ensue to somebody else's newborn? **EDIT: And yeah, the flicking needs to provide up. it relatively is not extreme-high quality and it relatively is pointless and damaging on your training. you're very welcome. i will tell which you're attempting to do the spectacular ingredient and which you have diverse compassion for this damaging domestic dog who has for sure drawn a coarse lot in life. thank you for attempting so not ordinary. i think of you have replied your individual question at this element, nevertheless, and you be attentive to that it's time to eliminate the dogs out of your place. Bless you for giving a dogs a house for even a quick volume of time. stable success which includes your determination. i be attentive to it is going to likely be tough.

Answer 8

That dog sees you as a threat, the dog wants to be above in the chain of command. Your hubby & dog are on the same level, you are well below them, you have to get above the dog, Your best bet is to log on to the the Victoria Stillwell website,shes a dog trainer,shes got her own tv show called "It,s me or the dog". She had a husky on the show with the same problem as yours, she turned that dog around in 2 weeks,,,give it a go you have nothing to lose.

Answer 9

are things really that bad have u spoke about this with your husband? u need find the reason why he is agressive to you is he being dominant over you for example do u make him wait for his dinner until you say eat it ? things like this have you tried taking him dog training clases and finding out some info there you should go and handle him there we go with our dog and it fun! if u think you could love this dog then try hard to sort out its problems give it a go hope thios helps.

Answer 10

If your hubby got the dog from a good breeder, they will take the dog back and find it a new home. So, call the breeder.

Or go to www.petfinder.com and find a sharpei rescue group near you and contact them.

Or go to the national web site:
http://www.sharpeirescue.com/

If a sharpei group can't help you, use petfinder to find a no-kill rescue group near you and contact them.

Good luck.