My mom and grandmas often accuse my father (in a nice way) of saying inappropriate things or acting inappropriate. It's not bad stuff. Sometimes when my mom is upset with my dad she will call him her Third Child. Also on even important things like going to the doctor she often has to schedule an appointment for him and will go with him to make sure he doesnt blow the visit. An example of one of my dad's inappropriate comments (there are many) was over the summer my boyfriend and I were wearing shorts and sitting real close to each other on the couch (we were JUST sitting together, nothing else). Suddenly Jamie had a strong physical reaction that only a healthy young boy can have (he was blushing as red as a beet and squirming around lol lol) and my dad said we better feed him some saltpeter. I didnt know what that meant at the time but my mom did (my dad is an ex marine) and she got REALLY mad at him. Oh I know what it means now. Do males ever completely mature?
2006-11-23 06:28:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, it sounds like your dad was just trying to defuse the situation with humor. Often "guy humor" can be a bit rough-and-ready (and if he's ex-military, he's heard a lot saltier things than that).
Maturity is a relative thing. It is easy for women to get exasperated sometimes with men who do "stupid guy things" like yell at the TV broadcast of their favorite sports team. Keep in mind that women drive us guys crazy with things that we don't understand.....
A few stereotypical examples: shopping, the need to gossip/speculate about friends, the need to keep talking about "emotional stuff" especially when it's already been talked about -- for guys, often, saying something once means it's been Said and it stands until it is specifically amended or unsaid.
Also, of course, some men are more mature than others (ditto for women). When you look at a couple, like your parents, sometimes you have to wonder if the reason they are together is *because* your mom is a more serious "motherly" type and your dad is a more freewheeling "kid" type and they are together, in part, because they need that from each other.
More generally, guys aren't into dealing with touchy-feely emotional stuff directly when they can avoid it, generally. One avoidance mechanism (or way of dealing with it without dealing with it directly) is through humor. Think of the alternative: would you have preferred your dad to have sat down and had a serious, earnest, explicit chat with your boyfriend and/or you about his reaction, or would have that been at *least* as embarrassing (and much more prolonged) than cracking a joke about it and moving on?
2006-11-23 07:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by M W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men just as some women do not mature with what is supposed to be adulthood at a specified time. It has been said but not proven that most men do not reach maturity until they are in their mid-fifties.
I find that as positive rather than negative to some degree. It means that a man has a younger spirit for a longer time and we would all like to keep a little bit of a child in us so we can always enjoy things like amusement parks, and jumping in mud puddles.
What I am saying is too many adults grow old in their mind fast and to be a little immature as long as it does not hurt someone is not a big negative, it can be positive, because if both parents act old it is pretty sad for the children and young adults around them.
Being inappropriate comes at all ages.
2006-11-23 06:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by John E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha! Ha! That's funny. No. We have a different type of sense of humour (not all guys are the same, by the way). I'll get down and play with my son and nephews all the time (under 5), while my wife would just sit back and be the one who always says "don't do this, don't do that".
The old saying, "Boys will be boys" is quite true. I like to have fun (maybe even at inappropriate times) and this is probably where your dad gets himself in trouble with your mom.
Women just seem to be more sensible.
2006-11-23 06:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll understand in oh 20 years maybe ten if you are already asking these questions!(and you'll learn the positives about men staying 'young' at heart!!
2006-11-23 06:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by someone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we're just more open with our sense of humor.
2006-11-23 06:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men the same also not all women the same too
2006-11-23 06:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by lostship 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your da is the bomb
2006-11-23 07:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by fiddiefive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋