When is marriage to a divorced person ok for a Christian?

Question

Please only input that is based on the Bible. I know divorce is allowed and the person is free to remarry in the case of adultery. What if I meet a Christian girl, "Sue", that has been divorced for some other reason but no adultery was committed during the marriage, but since then, her ex has remarried or simply had sex with someone after the divorce to Sue was final. Since he has now had sexual relations with another, is Sue marriageable or forever offlimits to the Christian who does not want to be an adulterer.

Romy...the craziest question you've ever read here??? Geeesh, you haven't perused the questions here very much have you. By the way, if you try to follow the Word of God its not a crazy question. How I feel or how she feels has nothing to do with the will of God.

Answer 1

First Corinthians Chapter 7 is the guide from Paul...

There are other reasons than adultery - such as neglect, or if the unbelieving spouse leaves you.
I am remarried and we looked into this extensively - my first wife cheated AND left me - my new wife's ex-husband was a non-believer, an alcoholic whom she stayed with 15 years until HE left. I think those are critical issues, however, I am not a counselor or Pastor.
This is hypothetical, right? I think you should speak to one who is knowledgable (a counselor or Pastor) before you consider other steps in your relationship - you want to be sure to be right with God above all.
I would think the criteria however, is who left who, and the relationship issues - but don't use them to justify, use God's eyes.
If he left, remarried, and has clearly had sex with another then I would say she is free to remarry if she has been faithful.

Answer 2

Divorce is not ok in Christianity.

In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Apostle Paul offers a list of sins that will keep a person out of Heaven. Listed among these is adultery. In Luke 16:18 Christ defined a man or woman who has divorced and remarried as also being an adulterer.

Answer 3

Only if the other spouse is dead or is committing adultery with another person.

If Wife 1 is deserted by Husband 1 and he files for no fault divorce which Wife 1 can't stop or contest and then Husband 1 marries Wife 2, he's tecnically commiting adultery and now Wife 1 can consider herself divorced from Husband 1 due to meeting the case of Adultery.

But, this is only theoretical. God has the final say in the matter.

Thus, Wife 1 has to stay celbate and avoid all sexual activities until her original husband defiles himself FIRST.

Answer 4

Friend, There are many verses in the bible concerning marriage & divorce. Some try to use Matt. 5:32 & Luke 16:18 without really understanding what it means. Now Friend I will be saying things that many Christians may dis agree on, I am a Christian myself for over 36 yrs. so I have had to deal with this question from many people, I am not a Minister, But I do Have The Holy Ghost, Those scriptures I gave you sounds like a woman or man can not divorce their spouse only if they commit adultry, or fornication. I will not type out these other verses, But in Moses Time, He said in adultry to give them a divorce in writing, see Moses was even faced with it, But Moses goes on to say for the hardness of their heart, in other words, Their heart has been harden because their spouse had cheated on them, Therefore they could put away their unfaithful spouse. But now we come to the new Testament & we see Jesus & the Apostles had to deal with it too, I will give you verses to read Heb. 13:4 Romans 7:2-4 Romans 1:10 1st Cor. 7:9-39. Now Friend please read 1st Cor. 7:10- 17 very close, This is talking about if you have an unbelieving spouse do not put them away if they are pleased to dwell with each other, But if the Unbeliever leaves, let them go, For a Sister nor a brother is under Bondage, bondage to what? In Bondage to their marriage vows. Because their unbelieving spouse left, That will free that woman or man if they are not reconciled back to each other, if there is no reconcliling then they are free to marry only in the Lord. Why, Because the unbeliever left on their own self, That frees a woman or a man to remarried, Now if she or he threw them out & the unbeliever did not leave on his or her own will, Then you will have to see If there is any reconceliation(not spell right, sorry) Then that person that is not the guilty one is free to remarry, Now my friend, You said (SUE) was divorce from her husband, but you don't say why, Look at that first. I see where you said her ex is remarried, Then SUE is free to marry again, & if Sue is a christian she has to marry someone in the Lord, in other words, not another sinner, You don't state why they were divorced, If it was due to abuse, She had every right to put him away & visa versa, & to remarry. God does not expect someone to live in fear all their lives, If it is because they just could not get lone together, & Sue divorce her husband, Then She is free to remarry, & so will her ex be free, Because God will not let anyone be in Bondage of marriage, But now if there was cheating On Sue part, & she divorce her husband, she is already in adultry, That would let her ex remarry, & if her ex remarrys, Then God will not expect Sue to be in bondage, so she can also remarried, I know this is a very touhcy subject & many may disagreed, But I laid out the verses the best I can. I hope this helps you One more thought if Both was a Christian, & they seperated or divorce, Then they are to remain unmarry or be reconcile back to each other.

Answer 5

Yes Sue was free to marry when he got married to another and her ex the one committed adultery. Read in the holy bilble king james version that it is better to marry than to burn. Re:1Corinthians7:9 verse. Re: Hebrew Chp. 13. Adultery is the only reason given for a divorce and that was because of the harden of man's heart. Reading also the book of Romans and Hebrews will help with this understanding about marriage.

Answer 6

What is the only Scriptural basis for divorce among Christians?

Jesus Christ, in his Sermon on the Mount, stated: “Moreover it was said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ However, I say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Mt 5:31, 32) Also, after telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)
Today, generally, distinction is made between “fornicators” and “adulterers.” According to modern usage, those guilty of fornication are unmarried persons who willingly have sexual relations with someone of the opposite sex. Adulterers are married persons who willingly have sexual relations with a member of the opposite sex who is not their legal marriage mate. As shown in the article FORNICATION, however, the term “fornication” is a rendering of the Greek word por·nei′a and includes all forms of illicit sexual relations outside of Scriptural marriage. Hence, Jesus’ words at Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 mean that the only divorce ground that actually severs the marriage bond is por·nei′a on the part of one’s marriage mate. The follower of Christ may avail himself of that divorce provision if that is his desire, and such a divorce would free him to marry an eligible Christian.—1Co 7:39.
A legal divorce obtained where there is no proof of adultery might end a marriage legally, but in God’s sight it does not free one for remarriage. (Mark 10:9) If one got a legal divorce without proof of the mate’s adultery, remarriage would amount to adultery in Jehovah’s eyes. We read: “Whoever divorces his wife [without evidence of adultery] and marries another commits adultery against her, and if ever a woman, after divorcing her husband, marries another, she commits adultery.”—Mark 10:11, 12; compare Matthew 19:9.

Now, assuming that one actually has a Scriptural basis for the legal divorce that is being obtained, he still is not in position to “date” or “court” someone else if the divorce is not final. He is still married. Divorce laws differ from place to place. In some lands and states the parties to a divorce action are completely and legally free immediately. In other places the divorce does not become effective for six months. In yet other places, the divorce does not become final for quite a period, such as a year, after a temporary or interlocutory decree is granted

Answer 7

I can only speak of the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.

Other than "adultery" (i.e. "sexual relations with someone outside of the Sacrament - while the Sacrament is valid") - NO divorce and remarriage is ever allowed or valid.

The vows are pretty specific....and they are, in fact, binding "until death do us part")

The only way to re-marry is to somehow prove "nullity" - or, that the Sacrament is invalid, thereby it never really took place.

This is what an "annulment" is all about.

Unless a defect in Sacramental Form, Matter, Minister, Subject or Intention can be proven...."Sue" is still married, canonically and biblically, "til death".

Answer 8

The Bible tells us that if you divorce you are not to re marry. Only if your spouse dies then you can re marry.

Mark 10:11
He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.

Mark 10:12
And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

1 Corinthians 7:11
But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

Answer 9

Marriage to a divorced person is ok for a Christian who can think for his or herself. Some catholics still haven't gotten that, most protestants have.

And didn't jesus say, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"? John 8:2-11

Answer 10

Divorce is only justified in the case of adultery but, it is not mandatory. If the divorce was not justified by this, you would be committing adultery by marrying the woman. Period.