work at a grill and and several guys I work with are always calling me "chiquita, mamacita, bonita" etc. Being a sweet and charming gentleman is all fine by me, but what gets me is they are in relationships/married and they behave this way. Saying how they love me "te amo" and they are very touchy feely and say stuff to eachother in Spanish and then say my name so I know they are saying stuff about me, but I don't know what. They will call me sancha (mistress), amante (or amamante??)-is that lover? And I say "mentiroso!" and they will grab my sides, rub my back, etc. I tell them to stop and push them away yet they continue. I already have another job lined up and am quitting this week. They tell me they are just playing It bothers me a lot because they are indeed in relationships and I don't know why they act this way! Anyone else have any similar experiences?
2006-11-23 05:09:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also tell them "tienes novia/esposa" yet they do not seem to be bothered. I feel horrible for their wives!
2006-11-23 05:10:27 · update #1
Hispanic men are pigs about women. They beat their women if they even look at another man. But they think it is OK to mess around themselves. They come from a male dominated society where women are subjegated to the men. Therefore they feel you are just a piece of meat they can mess with. I know, I work with over a hundred mexicans and have befriended a few and they confide in me their beliefs.
2006-11-23 05:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This indeed is sexual harssment in many ways. First the touchy-feely WOULD NOT be sexual harassment if they stopped doing it the very first time you told them to stop. The talking about in spanish is also sexual harssment. Saying stuff about you when they know you think it is uncomfortable is very bad. I am glad you found a way to get away from them by quitting your job. But think about this, these silly men are driving you away from a job you love, when you put it that way it doesn't seem fair does it??
Best of Luck to you,
Kayla ⥠⥠â¥
2006-11-23 13:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by kay 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they have crossed the line with you then it's sexual harassment. That line is yours to define. I can tell you that what you have described would have definitely crossed the line with me. I do not like touchy feely people. I do not like for my personal space to be invaded. I don't really appreciate men that are my co workers telling me they love me even if I dont believe them.
Talk to you boss and file a report.
2006-11-23 13:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by bunny 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
f it makes YOU feel unomfortable, then it doesnt matter that they feel they are just joking and playing around, they have no right to act that way towards ou. therefore i would say, yes it is sexual harrasment. i feel bad for their wives too, but if u dont want to quit ur job, u need to tell someone in charge because this behavior is unacceptable. hope things work out for you
2006-11-23 13:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for getting another job. Yes it is sexual harrassment if you feel uncomfortable and you have asked them to stop but they don't. Don't waste any more time thinking about it, get a job where you feel comfortable.
2006-11-23 13:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sexual harassment. You need to report it to your boss and hopefully it will stop. You should not have to leave this job because of those people. Sexual harassment is every where so you must address the matter now.
2006-11-23 13:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by volkswagenf 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They are probably teasing however it is sexual harrass,emt if you feel uncomfortable. Your employer needs to stop this from happening. They are the party responsible for keeping you free from harrassment
2006-11-23 13:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel harrassed by it -- it is harassment. No one else can answer that for you. What is harassing to one person isn't to another -- and vice versa.
2006-11-25 16:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by BShakey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reason for not liking what they startles me.
You dislike it because they all have wives not because they are infringing on rights of yours. Thank God you got another job anyway.
2006-11-23 13:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is definately sexual harrassment. I would report it regardless that you are leaving this job. This is uncalled for.
2006-11-23 13:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋