i went to a soccer game one night, with people not from my school. this girl came up to me and said, "my brother thinks you're hot, and wanted me to give you his myspace. he's too much of a chicken to tell you himself." and she gave me a piece of paper with a link and walked away. i didn't even know who he was. i went back home and added him, and he's REALLY REALLY REALLY attractive. he talked to me a little at first, and commented my pictures about how "gorgeous" i am and stuff. i get that a lot, not to be vain or anything. he asked for my screen name. i am only 14 years old, and a freshman. he is a 17 year old junior. BUT i told him i'm a 15 year old sophomore because i was afraid he'd think freshman are lame. he's kind of a little bit of a pervert, but all guys guys his age are so i'm not worried. he wants to hang out at the mall this weekend, and he just asked me on aim "do you kiss on the first date??"
i'm kind of nervous. how do i act? what should i say? what should i doooo?
2006-11-23 04:51:46 · 34 answers · asked by lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest, you're too young and he's too old to be dating a freshman.
2006-11-23 05:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CAUTION'S the watchword. Of course you are in a mall, a public place, in broad daylight (?), with a reasonable amount of public (?). However, you should keep some safe and helpful, responsible and powerful, friends within easy reach, as a measure of precaution, JUST IN CASE, there is a need from the social security angle. After all, you neither know the girl who gave you the note, nor the guy, and whatever the girl said, need NOT necessarily be true. Hope, it's not a bait, don't wander away to lonely places. More-so, since, as you say, you are "gorgeous" (attractive and beautiful) and lots of people have already given you this compliment. YOU NEVER KNOW, IF SOME DANGEROUS PIMP OR HOOKING AGENT IS NOT ON THE PROWL. I may get a pretty bad rating from some brave, daredevil youngsters, but I am only trying to fulfill my social and moral obligation, towards my fellow human, who is some-body's beloved daughter.
2006-11-23 05:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kiss him, one thing about guys that are older is that they are 1. either genuinely interested or 2. they only want you because you are "fresh-meat" not meaning a freshman but that you are inexperienced and usually still a virgin= tight p****. so you need to find out whether he wants YOU or your body or a combination of the the two. haha k im a sophmore that really is 15 and my boyfriend is 17 turning 18 on the 1st, and we've been together for a long time. we didnt do anything for a while and it worked out really well. We got to know eachother before we did anything so we had a stronger connection. My advice, don't kiss on the first date, get to know him, try to see what he's like. Yes guys are pervs but theres also those pervs who are only after one thing. Watch his manerisms, how he interacts with you, are his hands ALL OVER you? or is he a little timid and asking you questions about yourself? does he try to kiss you or give you little half smiles? or does he genuinely listen to you and seem interested? Just dont kiss on the first date, keep him wanting more. It'll make you more interesting and help you figure him out a lot easier. and if the date goes really well, a little kiss on the cheek wont hurt ;) good luck babe
2006-11-23 04:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, he wants some ***. Baby your 14 and he's 17 even though he thinks your 15 he thinks because he's 2 years older than you he can pull wool over your eye's. Look he might like you for real, but to ask you if you like to kiss on the first date he's trying to feel you out. Sometimes kissing on the first date can make a guy think you'll go all the way on the first date. So don't be nervous. If your comfortable go out with him, Be yourself with a little maturity,Trust your instinct about him, and only if you want to kiss him, but feel him out on the date first. Don't always fall for the really really really attractive guys because they are charmers. WATCH OUT :)
2006-11-23 05:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel? That is what really matters in this whole situation. Do you want to kiss him on the first date? Do you feel that you could tell him how you feel? No woman should do anything they don't want to do with a man. You two may not be women and men yet, but you're getting there! The only thing you "should" do is whatever you feel comfortable with. If this guy doesn't like it? Then move on! As long as you like him and he treats you right then go have some fun. I hope that this has helped you. Good luck and have fun with life!!
2006-11-23 05:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by *Balanced*Sweetheart*Always* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST.. be honest with him.. tell him that you fibbed a lil and that you're actually 14 years old. If he doesn't have a problem with it, and still asked to meet you at the mall.. go for it! My boyfriend is 3 years older than me, and things are great!!! As for the kiss on the first date.. if it feels right.. and in the moment.. go for it!! I hope this helps!!! :)
2006-11-23 05:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jun!or 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men at that age are insecure u should see if he can be responsible enough to give u space if he knows u r 14 he might try and take advantage of ur body so keep ur wits about u and dont think that just because he is attractive online hes attractive offline i dont know him so i cant say anything else except he might be a good person thats y i said give him a chance
hope my advice helps ! :)
Dont let him put his hands all over your body
2006-11-23 04:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by pitapat_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, first of all, you shouldn't even be telling him a lie about your age, who cares if you were 14 or not. Second of all, you're only 14 :) you're too young to even be thinking of dating guys, he's 17 he'll soon to be going off to college, so I say you should concentrate on your school work first before going out with guys.
2006-11-23 04:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I think it is nice that he wants to go out to the mall, a mall is a public place where you guys can get to know each other, tell him that you don't kiss on first dates, make him wait and appreciate it when the time comes, take it slowly and enjoy the nice friendship or relationship that might come out of it, good luck girl and try not to lie about anything else.
2006-11-23 04:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by AleOmar 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are contradicting yourself. You say "he's kind of a little bit of a pervert, but all guys guys his age are so i'm not worried."
Then you say "i'm kind of nervous. how do i act? what should i say? what should i doooo?"
Hes too old for you. If my son whos about to be 17 started dating a 14 yr old, Id have a problem with that.
2006-11-23 04:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If this guy likes u then he likes u for who u r. Tell him that u r a freshman. Cos if he finds out another way, he'll think u r a liar and might break the relationship that u might develop. Im a freshman 2.... If he backs out cos u r a freshman then u shud be thankful that u told him and realized what a jerk he was.....GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-11-23 04:55:16 · answer #11 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋