My grandfather is really mean to me. Everytime I see him the first thing he does is insult me by calling me ugly or stupid! And, when I do good in school he always just makes fun of me and twists it around and he doesnt even act proud of me. Its so annoying! And I know I shouldnt let him get to me but he does. Well I have to go down to his house for Thanksgiving dinner later and I really dont want to. Should I fake sick to get out of it? My mom doesnt like him either and she said I could try that. Or should I just go down and ignore him? I really dont wanna go at all, because when I ignore him he just does it more!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 04:34:50 · 11 answers · asked by Sally 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
PS- HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
2006-11-23 04:35:28 · update #1
The only reason I still go to their house is because Im forced too! And my grandma is usually mean to like she calls me fat or something when Im not fat at all.........
2006-11-23 04:43:36 · update #2
They are so evil that its hard to talk to them cuz they dont like my mom.
2006-11-23 04:48:18 · update #3
We've tried talk to them and it doesnt do a thing. THEY KNOW THEYRE HURTING ME!
2006-11-23 05:02:56 · update #4
I would go for satisfaction of telling the old s.o.b. off. Your mom knows how he is???? Why in the hell has she as the adult told that mean old man to lay off. My mom would have, i certainly would if anyone was to be mean or insulting to one of my kids. I would not care who it was. You should not have to put up with that cr*ap from no one, He must have realy self esteem issues to put you down. I would let him have it. There is no excuse for him.
2006-11-23 04:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough one. The first thing I want to say is we've all had a bad relative or two, you are not alone. You seem like you are trying your best to handle this maturely. Congratulations for that.
If your grandfather is really that bad, you may want to ask your mother if you can do something different today. Thanksgiving is a beautiful holiday - you need not have a traditional dinner to give thanks (though I do like the traditional dinner!.) You could do something nice with other family or friends. Why don't you try to discuss this with your mother; see if she can explain to your grandfather that his treatment of you has gone too far. She could ask him to think about his behavior and give thanks today that he has a family at all. He should certainly be thankful for a smart, healthy granddaughter who does well in school.
I don't know how old you are, but this is a situation where being younger than 18 is annoying, because if you were older you could do your own thing for the holiday.
Please know that your grandfather may be old, cranky and scared, and may not know how to relate to you. Try your best to deal with this. I know it's hard... It almost seems like you are the mature adult here and he is the bratty kid, doesn't it?? I hope your Thanksgiving is very happy. Take care.
PS - have you tried complimenting him when he insults you? Make it a little game.
2006-11-23 12:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your mom doesn't like him either and she said you could try that. So does this mean your grandfather is your fathers dad and he is making you go?
If so it sounds as though your dad is as bad a his father!
You have probably already left or found out you can stay at home.
My suggestion is if you have to go to button up and try not to be near him and ignore him. You must understand your grandfathers insults and such are a direct reflection of how insecure he is with himself. He is actually feeling most of what he throws up at you about himself so if he can put down a child he is in fact trying to make himself look better/feel better.
Your grandfather is a sick man (you are not a sick child) you are a beautiful person who God made and you know what honey God doesn't make junk or ugly. Only your grandfather makes junk and ugly which he obviously is.
Good Luck and keep your sweetness in you don't let him unnerve you because that is what makes him feel powerful.
2006-11-23 12:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of life is dealing with people you don't like. So act like an adult and do what you know you should do. Remember, most people only get the benefit of having 2 grandfathers at most. Some even less.
At my mother's funeral last December, my 40 yo nephew made the statement that not many people have the benefit of having their grandmother in their lives for the first 40 years.
Yeah, it ain't always pleasant, but he's always your grandfather.
2006-11-23 12:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About an hour before you go over there, go to Taco Bell and get a big bean burrito. Eat the whole thing. Once you feel the gas coming on, make a point of sitting or walking by him each time you fart.
Works for me.
2006-11-23 12:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ignore him if you absolutely must go to the Thanksgiving dinner. but I have a question... if he treats you so bad, why do you still go to his house? anyway happy Thanksgiving and good luck with the old man
2006-11-23 12:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by sea_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing, next time he says something you just say "stop being so mean to me because when you are an old senile fart I'll probably have to take care of you!"
Unless he is so rich that he can take care of himself then in that case say "I hope you know that you sound like such a low class ignorant *** when you talk to your own grandaughter like that!" He'll either shut up and repsect you more for standin g up for yourself or he'll kick you out and you don't have to be around him anymore. Stand up for yourself girl! You'll have to do it many many times in your life.
And oyu know what I don't believ in do onto to others as you want done to you," you know to treat others as you want to be treated. When you are nice and timid around people they treat you like crap, you must demand respect and don't take crap from anyone.
2006-11-23 12:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That SUCKS!
Grandparents aer supposed to spoil you, not be mean!
Tell your parents that you don't like how they treat you. You'd rather be at home alone than with this miserable side of the family and be insulted all day.
2006-11-23 13:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the cranky old man. If you have to interact with him just keep a smile on your face.
2006-11-23 12:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about your dad does he know. Maybe your mom should tell them how you feel. But if nothing can be done today maybe you should talk to them or write them a letter saying what they say hurts you. Maybe they don't realize it.
2006-11-23 13:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋