With 2 different girls, one being my cousin? is it confusion, after 3 years we'v been together,
2006-11-23 04:23:17 · 49 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
our daughters 9months old now.
2006-11-23 04:33:41 · update #1
thanks to all that replyed to my question i have resolved it and we have broken up,
2006-11-23 15:57:02 · update #2
HEEEEEEEEEEEELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 04:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is no reason to cheat. I don't believe that at all. So many men will cheat more often when a woman is pregnant than any other time and mostly their excuse is "well you wouldn't never have sex with me" but do not fall for it.
Didyou run out and cheat? No then why should he. I am sure you are more scared than he is. Pregnancy and childbirth is scary to think about with us women. (Most)
He is just wanting you to forgive him so you will have him. But if he is willing to cheat on you now at this time then he will cheat on her later saying well " all these bills well i just can't handle them and that is why i cheated".
3 years is a long time and i see no reason in him cheating cause when he could get out there and get someone else pregnant? I would not talk to your cousin no more. Sometimes family can be so much more dirtier than strangers. Cause she knew you 2 were together and she should have sent him on his way.
I am sorry you are going through this and i know you proably love him so much but if he is hurting you so bad i would get rid of him.
Don't let him be aggravating you right now and move on or try to work it out but things like that will always make you 2 fight and you will never forget being cheated on.
Good luck and congrats on your baby
2006-11-23 04:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to be asking isn't whether or not being scared to be a father is reason a reason to cheat. The question you need to ask (and pursue until you REALLY have the answer) is why you are allowing yourself to be treated like a common ****. Why are you so degraded, so dehumanized, and so self-loathing that you'd ever even consider accepting a man like this in your life? Are you REALLY so hard-up for the attention and affection of some man that you'll stoop this low to get it? Where's your dignity, your self-respect, and your instinct to take care of yourself and of your little nine-month old? Because Sweetheart, I'll tell you...if YOU won't take care of you, then who on earth will?
Where, pray tell, are your parents? Did you grow up in some kind of a loveless home with abusive beasts who didn't love you and starved you for love? Why do you have no connection with God? Why don't you have any friends in your life with sense enough to ask you whether or not you've lost your mind to consider staying with this lecherous jerk? Please don't make any decisions about your future until you know the answers to these questions.
Meanwhile, run...don't walk...to the nearest phone and reach out SOMEone who is old enough, wise enough, and caring enough to be your guide until you get through this mess. This is not a time to go it alone.
2006-11-23 13:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?????? ARE YOU CRAZY????? If this guy is scared of being a father the last thing he should be doing is having sex. This guy is a piece of crap if this was his excuse. You know the answer to this, I am sure you are not stupid. Women want there to be a logical explanation when their boyfriends cheat, but there are no excuses for this. There is absolutely no excuse for a man to cheat!!!! Men who cheat are jerks. There is no confusion or anything like that. He just wanted to have sex with someone else. It is not your fault, you have done nothing wrong. He is the one that did this. He needs to take responsibility for what he did and be honest about this.
2006-11-23 04:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by sarahharris25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No definitely not. I don't understand your husband/boyfriend's logic. It may be a good idea to talk to him heart to heart and try to find out the real reason. If you both still want to make it work, maybe try some counselling, if not, maybe splitting up is the way to go. You have a daughter right, so you want to make sure she's in the most loving possible environment, and if you're only staying tohether because of her, it's not exactly the best reason. I'm really sorry to hear about your troubles. I wish you the best of luck with everything.
2006-11-23 04:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by flycreature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be very difficult for you to hear, especially as you are pregnant, but this is absolutely no excuse for him to cheat. If it was a mistake because he got freaked out and he was truly sorry then he wouldn't have done it a second time. He's not happy, and he can't make you happy. I know this must be breaking your heart but you are so much better off without him. It's not just you you have to think about now, it's your baby too, and your baby will be damaged emotionally if he or she is brought in to a tense, unhappy environment. Your partner will cheat again, if he's done it twice and you take him back then he'll think that he can just keep doing it and your baby will be taught that it is okay to cheat. You can not stay with this man, you owe it to yourself and your baby to leave him. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
2006-11-23 04:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. There is NEVER a good reason to cheat. Lots of things in life will cause stress and fear. If the only way he can deal with that is too screw someone else, you need to find a mature and loving person to share your life with. He is obviously neither of these things and not the person for you. If you stay, you'll be teaching your daughter that this behaviour from men is o.k. and she'll be doomed to repeat it. don't do this to yourself or your daughter.
2006-11-23 05:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a shame you've broken up. i think the first year of being new parents is the hardest thing ever. my son is 8 1/2 months now and my partner and i haven't had it easy but we talk and we work through things because being a parent is hard especially for the woman as her life changes instantly. the mans life doesn't change much at all and this is hard for both parties to get to grips with. you should talk about your issues because it is fixable you just need to understand how you're both feeling and what to do about it. a new partner is rarely the answer.
2006-11-24 07:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a reason to cheat it's just his excuse for cheating and guys and girls come up with all kinds of excuses when they are caught cheating, you have to decide if what he has done is acceptable and do you want this cheater in your life. Personally I would drop him like a ton of bricks the ones that I would first drop on his head.
2006-11-23 04:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by jojokiowa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING is a reason to cheat, you and your daughter deserve someone better than your partner and your cousin should be totally disgusted with herself
9mths old and he's still scared?! excuses, excuses more like
2006-11-23 04:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not being a father shows ur a real man as you can cope with responsibilty running away and cheating because you are scared of being a father shows you are no more than a child urself
2006-11-23 04:29:32 · answer #11 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋