Should I try to like her??? she has said many mean things to me. I used to like her so much, then when she made me feel like crap I started to hate her and now she is all nice to me again but I cant forgive her and I cant get this hate out of my heart. What can I do?
2006-11-23 04:14:43 · 14 answers · asked by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she is playing games with you. First making you hate her, then being all nice so people will think your the bad one. My suggestion is to be nice to her no matter what. Dont play the game by her rules or you will lose.
2006-11-23 04:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did anything specific happen to cause her to change, then change back? Is your sig other aware of her hateful behavior towards you?
Not sure if any of this matters but it seems she stuck her foot in her mouth and even though shes trying, she cant take it out. The damage has been done. Not your fault.
You cant help who you like or dont like. But you can control how you treat them. Regardless, she is still your monster in law. Be cordial and respectful. But you dont have to like her.
2006-11-23 04:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says to forgive even if the other party does not repent. Easier said than done. She sounds bi-polar, one min. this way the next min. that way. You do not have to like her, see her, talk to her, or anything, do talk with your husband about HIS mother and ask why when mommy was being mean to HIS wife why he did not come down on her like a ton of bricks, my husband sure would have and has before.
2006-11-23 04:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one is having a problem and cannot stand someone then they cannot stand themselves. The problems sometimes lies within ourselves. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Forgive and pray about the situation and let love repair the the hearts of the two of you.
2006-11-23 04:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi initiate the mood off perfect by giving her a praise, her hair seems impressive, or lovable perfect she's donning, and so on. If the bbq is at her abode, ask to assist her out. you could also ask in develop what you could carry. stay sensible contained in the face of negativity, perchance reply with such issues as oh properly it will be worse, it will be raining. Or enable's purely count number our reward that we are all mutually and so on. shaggy dog tale round such as her and don't be snappy to her son. purely keep in mind that if it wasn't for this woman, your husband does no longer exist! wish this helped, reliable luck!
2016-11-29 09:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... I understand.. I had... exsactly the same problem, she treatme like ****.. and as soon we give the news I was pregnant. she try to be nice to me.. but fake off course she still hatesme. well too late, for her. also as soones I knew I was pregnant I planned to move,with my husband to another city, and now we are happy very far away from her.
by the way, she doesnt know our daugther yet and she is 17 months know, she hatesme so much , that she hasnt express yet that she will like to come to see her granddauther, but I can care less . my advice just ignore her..
2006-11-23 08:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My MIL is the same way. So... when I'm around her I put on a smiley face and grit my teeth every time she talks to me so I don't say anything nasty back to her. Then I go get another drink! MIL thinks I have a drinking problem, but I only drink when she is in town.
2006-11-23 04:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by DoubleDMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm in the same boat also.one min she wants to know my family,the next she walks past in the street.well she blows hot and cold so much.my children,her grandchildren were starting too get affected.when nanny was,ent even sending xmas presents,birthday cards,they wanted too know what they had done.so for my children's sake,i told her too sling her hook.so you are not on your own.join the daughter in law club lol.its a mother in law thing.hope this helps you.
2006-11-23 08:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there,,you and i are in the same boat. my mother is law is deceptive and controlling. she continually says she is going to commit suicide if she doesn't get her way. nothing like that to ruin a holiday. i have tried my best to involve her in our lives with out letting her wreck everything, but sometimes i think she gets off on pissing me off. now i just tell her how i feel. that way my emotions are not all bottled up inside making me sick...literally physically sick. don't let her ruin you. tell her how you feel and what it will take from her to fix it.
2006-11-23 04:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law is controlling, manipulating, and selfish. She says one thing in one sentence and something totally opposite in the next. Her love for her son is is based on conditions. He sees it as "normal" because she has ALWAYS treated him like this. My advise is to be sociable to her. You don't have to be her friend, but you should be sociable.
2006-11-23 17:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋