I have a problem, I really can't choose anything. I have a friend who loves me crazy. He is my friend for almost 3yrs from now . I used to tell him that he is my best friend, but for god shake he is in love with me ever since I am with my bf. I don't know what I did to him to make him think about me 24/7. I met him at univ, I blocked him out of my life. I don't want to love him because I have bf. We been together for a year, I really love my bf, he loves me so much. The thing is, I told my bf this guy is after me for having sex. Because of that my bf doesn't want me to talking to him. Ever since I been with my bf for a year, I never told my friend that I had a bf, only after 4months later. After he knew I had bf, he is totally crazy on me. I hate his friendship before, and I even told him don't talk to be about sex. He used to tell me I was just his friend, but he like have sex with me only. stupid eh? Now that friend loves me for LOVE, not sex. My bf doesn't know :'(
2006-11-23 04:09:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is before my friend used to be crazy about having sex, but now he is like saying He loves me so much. He even told me, if something goes wrong with my bf and me, he told me, you can always come to me. what does this means? crazy yo, this guy is making my mind confused. I didn't tell my bf about this, I really can't explain to my bf that this guy is after me. The same guy who asked me to have sex with him. I feel like I might spoil my relationship with my bf if I tell him about this. god there is no hope. Even this friend, I feel sorry for him. He is really in love with me, I can't help him, and can't love him because I love my bf. I told my friend, go find a gal, but he doesn't listen, he only loves me. :'(
2006-11-23 04:16:37 · update #1
....What? This is kinda all over the place...
From what I can get out of this, stop talking to the crazy friend and stay with your boyfriend. A year has to mean something so don't ruin it and stop talking to this weird "friend" of yours.
2006-11-23 04:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's actually pretty common for a guy to fall in love with a close female friend (that's actually why some guys make friends with a girl in the first place - he couldn't get you to date him, so he decided to be your friend and to wait it out)
He was hoping all along that you'd change your mind and go out with him
As for this 'only wants you for sex' thing - face it, that's what your boyfriend wants you for too, right? That's going to be true with ANY man - at the end of the day, men date women because we want sex, that's just how it is.
2006-11-23 04:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, been there and finished that so the following is going. you want to inform your proper pal that at the same time as you're taking care of her deeply you also care on your boyfriend and now stay with him. If she chooses to ignore the actuality that she continually is fascinated in the incorrect men and could no longer take your suggestion then, she ought to no longer basically ensue at her convenience to cry on your shoulder. tell her you'd be there for her, yet that ya'll want to be certain a time to fulfill it really is better for you both. She is being very self based to dump on you at any hour at the same time as she will be able to no longer pay interest to what you should claim firstly. for sure you do want her satisfied or you'll not advise her about those "undesirable" boys firstly.
2016-10-16 10:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, but you don't love him... you need to cut him off and not talk to him. The worst thing you could do is go on trying to be his friend because it will kill him the more you talk about you and your bf etc.
You have to choose which one you want in your life more, and keep one of them as your bf, the 'friend' doesn't sound like he is going to settle for being friends. He will keep trying, and possibly sabatoge your relationship with your boyfriend so he can have you for himself.
Trust me, get rid of him.
2006-11-23 04:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the question is or the entire story. If you really care for your boyfriend you should distance yourself from your friend. People start to change once they know you are not available and sometimes you become more attractive to them . You know what is best, just do it.
2006-11-23 04:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... so basically, you don't like the "friend" of yours romantically speaking? then there shouldn't be any problem since its just one-sided (on his part). Tell him that you're better off as friends, and if he doesn't want that, say buh-bye to your friendship - if there is such. If he stalks, that's another story....
2006-11-23 04:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Stanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this English?
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2006-11-23 04:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, ahhhhh. to tell you the truth it is totally up to you no one here can give you a reason or opion that could help you. you just have to sit down and think about this hard and long
2006-11-23 04:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If you love your boyfriend, then just be aquantinces with your friend. If you really like your friend, then think about the qualities of your boyfriend and friend and decide which one you like the most.
2006-11-23 04:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friendship is when one of the parties cares of the well being of the other, mentally, physically, and espitirually so dump that friendship even though it may hurt.
2006-11-23 04:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by che_karlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋