I only had one guy that was brave enough to ask me out in person, all the rest were writing notes and haveing other guys ask me out for them. its just strange?
2006-11-23 04:07:17 · 11 answers · asked by teenagegypsy123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats just not true at all, im 17, and i hate not doin it in person, i always make sure im doin it face to face
2006-11-23 04:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by ...ilchineálach? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are boys with new toys when they finally grow up.
So: At your age, boys are a bunch of scared little monkeys. They worry about their pride - otherwise known as ego. Don't underestimate how scared they are of women in many ways, and how little they know about the opp sex.
They send notes or approach you sideways because they are afraid of rejection, probably far more than women can ever be.
At least, someone is asking you out even if it is in a roundabout way.
After all, even Grace Kelly - because of her overwhelming beauty which probably scared a lot of guys - never had a date in high school. (She was a movie star who married the ruler of Monaco.)
2006-11-23 12:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by montrealissima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys just dont want to be turned down, which is really embarressing, especially around their friends, its more of a security thing, but my guy asked me out and everything has been smooth sailing so far, all the others asking me over a note or phone call, lets say it was over very fast. just wait til a guy grows enough balls to ask you in person, because then you kno they are secure, they really want you, they arent afraid to be turned down, especially if its you. it all works out!
2006-11-23 12:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by flirtinbabe286 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEAR........not of girls.........rejection and havin to tell your buds, she turned me down.....that's almost as bad as a kick in the balls. Here is something that will work......(it worked on me, so I know). Next time a girlfriend or someone asks you our for someone else or you get a note.....just respond, "I can't say unless that person asks me themselves" if they can't then the answer is NO!!!!! So, its thier choice to get up the nerve or sit home alone..... You gotta give boys a little nudge......If he can come up to you an ask directly.....then he really want so spend time with you......
2006-11-23 12:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they're nervous. If you think about it, it's much easier to ask out on a note or e-mail. If you are really upset about it, deny. If you like them, make the first move.
2006-11-23 12:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same reason they're not afraid to face the armed enemy,but we are afraid of asking out girls.Well,at least that's me.Chicks are freakin' cruel sometimes.I guess I figure they'll say no so I don't even bother.I don't know.
2006-11-23 12:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Vtmtnman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are shy just like us.They don't want u to say no.But all the guys i got asked out they ask me in front of my face it's weired. guess they think I'm so nice that i wont say no.IDK
2006-11-25 11:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by I luv my BF! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to turn them down when they ask you out in front of their friends, you are telling all the other boys "NO" as well.
If you say "Yes" then you are perceived as "Easy" and "Tramp."
So tell the boy that if he want to ask you out, to do so in semi private, out of ear shot of everyone else.
Still be choosy as to who you date, you do not need a bad reputation at any age.
2006-11-23 12:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of rejection. Don't worry. Hopefully, they'll grow out of it in time!
2006-11-23 12:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are just as nervous as 'us girls' are..they just don't want to get turned down.
2006-11-23 12:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by abcdefg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋