when someone communicates their feelings, whatever method they use, they are best helped when the people who love them accept their feelings, acknowledge their feelings, and help them seek ways to solve their problems.
the very worst thing we can do is teach our kids that their feelings are wrong. i watched a boy this weekend get his new trophy caught and broken in a door. he was 6 or 7, and burst into tears. his father instantly laid into him for crying. it was disgusting and abusive - altho i know the poor dad had been treated like that as a kid.
when you son cries, hold them, let them say what's wrong, repeat what they say back to them without judgement. offer encouragement and love. there's no quicker way to stop tears.
make a boy feel like those natural feelings that bubble up in him are bad or weak or shameful and you will make a screwed-up boy who might not cry in public.
you make someone strong by encouraging them to try new things, supporting their efforts, ignoring their mistakes, treating them kindly. when your child feels confident, when he knows he can try new things and master them, he will feel awesome about himself. and, he should choose, as much as possible, those things to try to master.
2006-11-23 06:01:58
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answered by cassandra 6
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is this a newborn were talking about here or a little girl about 4 or 5 or even 6 years old?
for 6 year olds, i would send them to their room, if they are spoiled take everything she likes out of her room and hide it until she is ready to move on through the day... if its a newborn, rock it to sleeeeeep not that big of a deal!
2006-11-23 04:08:38
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answered by Alexandra 2
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