Me and this guy have liked each other ever since we were 12, and we are now both 20. We both knew that we liked one another but never said. We first met seven years ago but it was the fact that we were in two different states that kept us apart. Three years later we meet again and tell each other how we both feel, but mind you we are still apart as he went off to university up north and I'm down south, but he tells me he has a girlfriend (he met her at uni) He has now been with her for three years but keeps giving me the vibe that he still has feelings for me. What should I do?
2006-11-23 03:56:25 · 14 answers · asked by Suga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry I forgot to mention, The guy I have been in love with for 7 years had graduated and now lives 5 minutes away from me, What should I do?
2006-11-23 04:52:40 · update #1
Live your life.
Don't wait for him.
Go out - have fun - have boyfriends.
If it's meant to be, he will come for you - but don't sit around waiting for that to happen.
2006-11-23 03:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best(maybe the hardest) thing to do is to just be friends with this guy and see what happens. You are miles apart so it may be easier than if you had to see him everyday.
Think about it this way. Real feelings usually withstand the test of time and you will end up together eventually (maybe after schoo ).If you persue this'vibe' all he will be able to offer you now is a 'part time closet' relationship in which you would have to accept being the 'other woman' as you already knows he has his girlfriend. Remember the guy who cheats with you is the same kind of person who will cheat 'on' you.That would REALLY HURT. Don't let your feelings allow you to accepot being 2nd place in his life.This may be a clue that this guy is a 'player' if he has a steady girlfriend and is gving you the 'vibe'. Maybe he knows how you feel and wants to 'cash in' on that, nothing more.
Since you don't know for sure, consider all possibilities.
Plan B would be to demand that he leave her and commit to you. But then could you really love or trust someone who would drop someone after 3 years just like that. This girl is probably giving her all to this relationship and if he could do that think about what he would do to you. Woman to woman, put yourself in her position.
Try to develope relationships of your own (friends), become a rounded person involved in activities. More likely than not you will eventually meet someone who you can have a good relationship with.
I know its easier said than done, but try not to get involved with this guy until he's free to 'commit' to you.
Good luck.
2006-11-23 04:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give yourself a chance to be happy. If is meant to be it will be. You can not keep living your life and your youth thinking about this love from the past. I am sure the two of you are different right now. You are not the same girls of seven years ago neither is he the same boy. You live only once. You are loosing precious moments of you life that you can not take it back because of him. You might be stopping other guys from approaching you because of him. He has a girlfriend for 3 years I am sure he is in a serious relationship. Please honey, move on with your life. Give yourself a chance to meet a great guy that will be with you everyday, helping you with what you need, supporting you with what you need. Enjoying life and enjoying places with you. This is what is love. What you have right now is not love and is not bringing you any good things. Remember, you live only once.
2006-11-23 04:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but be there for him just a friend and a shoulder to cry on....at least this way you can still keep in contact with him.
Relationships at uni don't really last...people change courses and change as people full stop and after their degree go their separate ways . It is unlikely that this may be 'the one' for him. If the relationship breaks up and he leaves her for good and after he has got over her...it is then you can tell him how you feel
2006-11-23 04:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dame 7 YEARS!!!!! do u think he can just move on after that long of time........
but i think u just feeling that vibe becaues u also (as u said) love him. but u need to find someone to be with it only does more damage to both side when u are in a long distance relation ship
2006-11-23 04:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't look back in years to come and think "what could have been" you will reget not doing anything, you owe it to both of you to talk about it you never know he is probably thinking the same thing. Don't let the opportunity slip by.
2006-11-23 05:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by rodeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is the one then the other girl should be long gone regardless of the distance between the two of you. Make it perfectly clear you are a solo and not second fiddle.
2006-11-23 04:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to talk to him, ask him how he feels, tell him how you feel. If you two are to really be together, it will happen when the time is right.
2006-11-23 04:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out how serious him and his girlfriend are. If they aren't to serious or if they are having problems then tell him how you feel. If ya'll have known each other for that long then I'm sure he isn't going to hate you for expressing yourself.
2006-11-23 03:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are infatuated to him if he loves you he wouldn't tell you he has a girl friend just remain good friends and look else where for your soul mate
2006-11-23 04:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋