Ok well my moms boyfriend i ******* hate the living **** out of him! okay well he hasnt done anything bad to me i just hate him and umm well he like always has to touch me on my shoulder and calls me baby and sweety **** like that i ******* hate that thats why i try to avoid him but that **** doesnt work so how do i get him to stop i hate his guts!
2006-11-23 03:50:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i cant tell him straight my mom would get mad at me! and he'd probably think i hate him that it would make him leave! i cant do anything except keep my mouth shut i think i hate him because i love my dad and hes irreplaceable and maybe sub conciencly i feel that he is trying to replace my dad
2006-11-23 03:57:22 · update #1
no i dont disrespect him or anything like that i try to talk to him as less as possible and idk what my problem is
2006-11-23 03:58:45 · update #2
i just dont accept him into this family
2006-11-23 04:00:09 · update #3
If he hasn't been anything but nice to you then you sound like nothing but a spoiled rotten brat.
2006-11-23 03:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just giving this guy a chance. You may hate him because you feel he is trying to replace your father. I went through the same thing once upon a time. I tried everything I could to get along with a woman's 5 kids and I was able to do so with 4 of them. I didn't want to be their father just their friend. But one of the daughters hated me so badly it eventually tore us apart. If that's your goal you should be ashamed. Why not talk to the guy and see just what kind of person he is? At the same time you can tell him that you don't like to touched. I am sure he will be glad to stop. Who knows you may also find that he could become one of your friends along the way. So open you mind to the possibility that could happen. I am fairly sure that he would like nothing better than to just get along with you since he is trying hard enough cause he cares for your mother. But the ball is in your court do you want to try to act like an adult or keep your childish self from all that life has to offer?
2006-11-23 12:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by groundpilot43061 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult getting used to having someone else around after your parents split up. What happened in their relationship was because of their own issues and not because of you. Your father is still your father, no one can deny that. But that doesn't mean that you have to hate this other man - it's not fair to him or to yourself. In time, you may become friendly with him and may consider him a step-dad, eventually. All new relationships take time, and it sounds like he's trying a little too hard. But don't over react and set things off on the wrong foot, because then it's harder to make peace again.
Look him straight in the eye, be calm and mature and tell him directly that you will treat him with respectful courtesy for your mother's sake, and that you expect the same from him. Tell him that just because he's in a relationship with your mother doesn't make him anything to you. Tell him that your name is ___, and that you are not his "Sweetie" or "Baby".
I suggest having this conversation in the presence of your mother, so that she is fully aware of the fact that he has been somewhat inappropriate with you, and at the very least making you uncomfortable. This way she also sees that you are handling it maturely and not trying to put her in the middle of it. She will also then be fully aware that you are establishing very clear boundaries with him.
If you get emotional and/or say something only to him when mom's not around, he'll probably twist it and tell her you were being a little ***** to him. If you go to just her, she'll think you're whining and trying to turn her against him. That's why I suggest being as "business-like" as you can and making sure they are both present.
It is a big challenge that lots of kids go through, but it will work out in time. Just use your head. No one's asking you to deny your father, so don't take it that way. The relationship you have with your father is now completely separated from your relationship with your mother, that's all. Just hang in there, maintain your dignity and you will be fine.
2006-11-23 11:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have a GF w/ kids, and its pretty tricky sometimes. I think that some guys believe that they should automatically step in and be the Dad, but I realize that these kids already have one. I dont try to take on that role. I have gotten in heated arguments with them before, but mainly on safety issues (the boys ar pretty rambunctious) and to try to back up their mother.
What it sounds like this guy is doing is trying to be your friend. I think you may just need to speak with him, and let him know what your boundaries are, and your reasons for havin these boundaries. Commuication is the key here.
Let him know how you feel rationally. he will respect you more for it, and so will your Mom.
2006-11-23 12:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this is the way you talk to him, I'm not sure why he's so nice to you.
Just ask him nicely to call you by your given name. Give your mom a break. Everyone deserves some happiness.
2006-11-23 11:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good luck my daughter is going thourgh the same feels
2006-11-23 15:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by robert899295 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit him with a negative ....**** face, **** head, Fother ****** *** hole....see what he thinks of you then.....
2006-11-23 11:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by trueheart14225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try ground glass in his drink.
2006-11-23 11:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by terry t 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u might have to get use to him
2006-11-23 11:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by ningamdo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋