he and i were supposed to go to germany the week that he died. i feel terrible because i never wrote to him or called him.now i feel like it is my fault.
2006-11-23 03:33:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all nothing is your fault. If you allow regret to take over it will and it will also bring you down and it's very hard getting back up if you let it control you. I'm really sorry to hear of the death of your great grandfather. I know the feeling of losing grandparents. I have none left from both sides. I just lost the last two grandparent last year. My grandmother died in March and my grandfather died in April. They died a month apart from each other, and I was extremely close to them. I didn't have a chance to say goodbye to them, but the one thing that I have is their love and the memories. No matter what's taken away, you still have the memories of that person, and nobody can take that away from you. Just because he's not here in person does not mean he's not with you. His spirit will always live on no matter what. It's going to take some time to get over, but believe me you will be able to go on. The pain will always be there because you'll miss him, but over time things will get better. He wouldn't want you feeling regret and blaming yourself so don't do that. Would you want someone you loved to be here on earth feeling regret and pain??? He doesn't want this either. His love is still with you, allow it to heal you and know that things will be alright.
2006-11-23 04:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never blame yourself,he loved you very much.think of the good times you spent with him.no one can ever take your memories away,they will be there for ever.i don,t tell many people this,but i lost a baby.i know the whole world will know now.lol.but when this happened i was a re ck.i planted a rose bush out the garden,and when it flowers it brings good memories.i find this helps,when you are feeling sad go and sit by it,and think of him.you could get one that flowers around his birthday.i hope this helps you,thinking of you.take care.and remember its not your fault.
2006-11-23 08:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you didn't get to go Germany with your great granddad
I know he miss taking you. You need to know this, and know this for real. Your great grandfather Knows and Knew how you feel for him. He knows you LOVED him. Please don't dwell on the I should of , could of. Its so not worth the energy. You need to focus on you and the loss that you just had. Love him all over.
You know that he Knew, you know that, don't lose sight of that. Try not to cause anymore pain to yourself, its not your fault and really would your great grandfather support what your feeling?
No. he would hug, so feel that hug,
I feel your pain, you will be in my prayers
2006-11-23 03:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will see him again in the resurrection. I am sure he loved you as much as you loved him. The bible says time and circumstance befells us all...Things happen that we don't anticipate and we are gone. Life is fragile and we should live every day as if it were our last...always tell loved ones they are loved.....and be kind to everyone for you never know if you will ever see them again.
Stop blaming yourself.....he wouldn't want you to carry that burden. Live a good life in honor of your grandfather as if to make him proud.
2006-11-23 03:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. It's nobody's fault. God just wanted to take him with him. Just think of it this way, he's in a better place. You'll get to see him again someday. I'm so, so sorry though. Keep on going you'll get through it. = )
2006-11-23 03:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Makenzie♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, dear. =(
But it is not your fault. Things happen for reasond unknown. Just know that he is not completely gone-just his living body from our world. He's still with you in heart and spirit. Pray to him at night with God and tell him how sorry you are and you wanted to go to Germany.
Sleep well, my dear.
2006-11-23 03:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Emirii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes some time to get over and its not your fault its not like he was like she didnt wite or call so ill jus go ahead and die it s not your fault
2006-11-23 03:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
try getting over it with reading the bible or praying to god to give him one chance or you could try thinking of all the good times you had toghether
P.S hope you feel better soon
2006-11-24 14:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by >ILove*****< 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with the memories that you shared with him ,am sure everytime you remember him it brings a smile, to your face that u can live with .
2006-11-23 03:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋