My husband is Muslim and preys 5 times a day to the east. He prays quietly, for about 15 minutes each time and has a beautiful soothing voice. Unfortunately the east is located right behind my PC in the dining room. The apt is very small so there’s no place else for my PC. His 2 adult sons have moved in with us they also pray there. They are much more extreme Muslims and their preying gets LOUD, SHRILL and can go on for over 30 minutes each at a time. The boys liken themselves to being young Imams (Like Ministers in Christianity for example) and from what I see they think they know more about Islam and are better Muslims than their FATHER! The problem: Though it’s a small apt do I have ANY rights here? I feel that if I ask that it be done elsewhere my marriage will be in jeopardy. Still, I’m sick of trying to drown out their annoying ramblings with my earphones. Why can’t they respect that I don’t always want to hear that?!
2006-11-23 03:29:00 · 17 answers · asked by Jackie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First just so you know...I refer to the SON'S praying as shrill ramblings b/c they do not have the eloquent soulful, depth that my husband's SAME prayers have. Also the sons have NO IDEA what they are saying! They DO NOT speak Arabic. They are the kind of Muslims that just use rote memory to recite the Quran in it's original form (Arabic) but they do not understand ANY of the stories of the actual words/book. And, yes this sounds insane to me too but it's true.
2006-11-23 03:58:38 · update #1
Oh and I have been "respecting their praying". This has been going on for almost a YEAR.
2006-11-23 03:59:40 · update #2
I assume you now have a working definition of the term, "Bad decision". Think, and do what is best for you and your sanity.
2006-11-23 03:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Age is only slightly proprtional to spiritual wisdom, so its not entirely impossible for your sons 2 kno more than ur husband; even tho i doubt th@s the case here.
In a "perfect world", nothing should be able to get btn the love u and ur husband have 4 each other. since we're here 2 create a "perfect world", i think u should bring up this issue. after all, in the back of ur mind, u'll have the perception th@ this can break the love the 2 of u share, and b'cos u perceive it, it becomes a possibility.
Why not seat ur husband down and chat 2 him about. its best 2 not worry about him misunderstanding, bcos then th@ becomes a possibility. clear ur mind and just have a clear perception of the info u are about 2 bring across. its not even necessary 2 pre-plan what u'll say; as long as u believe th@ u can bring across what u're about 2 say, u can leave the rest 2 the universe and this'll be enuff.
and the discussion is not a one-sided convincing exercise, its a chat 2 see what the best resolution 4 all participants is (i dont think ur daft jackie, th@s just 4 clarity!)
since u kno ur sons well, u can decide whether or not u talk 2 every1 2gether or speak 2 them after with their dad present 2 relay any decisions made.
Peace, love and all the best!:-)
PS please have tolerance 4 other responses 2 ur questions: no-one's "perfect"
2006-11-23 03:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by pensive07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did u know ur husband was a Muslim when u married him? Does he respect ur wishes as a human being. U might not want to work on ur PC when they r in prayer that alone is disrespectful of u to their beliefs. U husband has to decide that ur apt is too small for all of u and u should suggest about finding a bigger place since the young ministers moved in they should share a bit of their father and ur responsibility which is also part of their religion to take care their household and honor their parents which unfortunately it also includes u a non believer of their faith. U stepped into this manure and only u can rectify it respectfully and tactfully. Work on ur humble husband and get a bigger place otherwise take the punishment humbly like a good Muslim's wife.
2006-11-23 03:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just need to tell your husband that you respect his prayer time but you feel that perhaps him and his sons need to find another place to pray and I'm sure their must be a mosque nearby they can go to. You all have to live together, if you are being tolerant of their praying then they should also respect your wishes as well and understand that you all need more space and this is not working.
2006-11-23 04:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by crash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I's unequally yoked as well, I married an fiery athiest before I became a serious Christian It isn't easy. I think you may be stuck and have to buy a laptop and a lawn chair. Just be glad you are not forced to hide your face behind a burka. My husband has became more reasonable over time maybe yours will too.
2006-11-23 04:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Maxine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jackie,
and happy thanksgiving.
I can see how that would be a problem.
It seems it is good that you have this forum as an outlet anytime of the day.
As a believer and want to be follower of God, there is much to learn. I am always listening to the opinions of others, and seeking to understand why others hold such beliefs. It is good to challenge all ideas. The truth will hold up to any challenge of course.
The thing is this......yes, you love your family and care about them and all, however YOU PERSONALLY are responsible for having faith and trust in the creator.
The claims of Islam are transparent. The claims of all religions can be understood if one examines thouroughly the claims of the authors of such writings in any religious setting.
I am a believer in the Way/Truth/Life-Jesus.
*I will give you a link to research for yourself. =)
I hope and pray that you will earnestly examine all the claims that are made from the religion that you are in, as well as other beliefs.
The thing is...LIFE IS ETERNAL. GOD IS GOD, AND HE IS REAL
2006-11-23 03:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by LIVE4TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of worrying about whether or not they respect your rights, why not demonstrate Love to them, and give them respect that they haven't yet even earned? Really, is 30 minutes in a day so much to give? Jesus' teaching was that if someone asked you to go a mile, you should go two. In other words, give - more than is required or expected.
You may be able to win their respect, which could lead to something better for all of you. It only requires enough Love to set aside your own needs for a short period of time.
2006-11-23 03:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by jewel_flower 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You could always sell the PC and buy a laptop. Unfortunately, I don't think those kids are going to abandon their religious praying so you can be comforatble.
2006-11-23 03:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've got to agree with the other gentleman, ma'am. That was a very bad decision.
I'm surprised your husband didn't have you convert to Islam.
There's a lot more of shocks awaiting you, ma'am. Cultural shocks which will prove very painful.
Since the apartment is, obviously, yours and your husband moved in with you first, then brought in his sons, you might need to tell him that you cannot have this going on. If I'm not mistaken, there's a green card at stake, too, isn't it?
You might want to consider surgical remedial steps quickly, ma'am; in your own interests.
Have a nice day.
2006-11-23 03:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Daimyo 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Its your apt so you have the right to complain. But discus it peacefully na... Told them to pray on other room or speak to your husband to buy bigger house. It is his responsiblity after all to have his own house for you.
2006-11-23 04:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Yunni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i understand u're having a hard time adapting - but that's not ur husband's fault or his kids' fault. you should have done some research on islam before marrying him and should have made up ur mind if u will be able to live with islam in your home. I'm not judging you, i'm just curious how on earth did u decide to marry him if u obviously knew nothing about his religion.
by the way, if u would stop wearing earphones, u might in time become interested in what they're saying ........... who knows, u might love it
anyway, i wish u happiness and luck to work out ur problems
peace and blessings :)
2006-11-23 03:33:54 · answer #11 · answered by Regina 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋