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Question

Does it make a difference?!?
Well i have a boyfriend of almost 2 years now. We have been thru ups n dwns n all around. He loves me n I definetly love him!! But my Mom and also his Mom believe that we shouldnt be together, becuz of our age difference he is 18 and I am 15. Bt our birthdays follow one another. His is in april n mine is in may. I love him with all my heart and its not perfect but we are getting there. We are working on a lot of things at this current moment also. Like we are working on trust and communication. And now on top of all that we have our parents to worry about. They believe our love is just temporary, but I believe that it is forreal even though I am younger than him. They say im not mature enough for him. But I have done a lot of mature for him but they dont no that I have. I want to make this work so bad but we have so much of a difference wit each otha. We got to worry about the law but that isnt really a factor.I know what we have to do to solve these problems bt he is bein negative...

Additional Details

5 hours ago
He is on house arrest so we really cant see each other besides at school. And he has a bad past with his ex girl before me like he was really in deeplove with her but then she broke his heart by cheating on him!! And now he has a lot of trust issues and doesnt like for me to go out and have fun n stuff n he is always scared that he is going to get hurt once again but I ALWAYS tell him that I am not like that and I would neva do dat to him but he always compares me to her like well she said da same thang but im not her but you no it takes time. He treats me good but sometimes he doesnt becz he doesnt want to see me hurt him so he holds bck how he feels and how much he really does love me to save himself. but wen he gets off house arrest we are going to get couples counseling but until then we r gonna try our hardest to make it work da best way it can. What do u thinnk? Can u help me?

5 hours ago
WHAT DO U DO WHEN U LOVE THEM? N THEY LOVE U BT UR PARENTS DNT LIKE THE IDEA THEY SAT U CAN B TOGETHA N IF ITS REAL 2 YRS 4M NOW U WILL FEEL DA SAME BT JUS NOT NOW. BT I DNT WANT TO GIVE UP WITH OUT A FIGHT AND ESPECIALLY ALL THE THINGS WE'VE BEEN THRU Y WULD WE GIVE UP NOW AFTA ALL THE OTHA BAD THINGS THAT WE HAVE EXPERIENCED TOGETHA!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?!???

Answer 1

Your parents are correct in some of their thoughts, being a parent I understand what they are saying to you. Now being a young parent, I remember what it was like when I was your age and your thoughts and feelings as well. So I will give you advice based on what my past, similar to yours, has taught me and what I have learned. You feel that you are truly in love with him and I believe that feeling is valid. However, the love you feel and the person you choose to be with when you are 15 is much different than the person you will choose or feel to be with when you are 21 and yet again 27. So understand as much as you love him, he is not sounding as though he would be the best person for you. He has relationship issues, and not sure but obviously has done something that is not in the best interest or he wouldn't be under house arrest. There is a huge age difference between 15 and 18. 3 years is not a big difference when you are older, but it is when you are younger. You at 15 should be happy, living life to the fullest, not worrying so much about things of this nature. Relationships all have their ups and downs and people who really are committed yes work through them, but relationships also shouldn't be a fight to be together, meaning they shouldn't always be work. Now maybe you feel yours isn't but if it isn't now, it seems to be going in that direction. Try, just try, taking your parents advice and back off for a bit. Yes it will hurt and take some time, so don't think you should be happy immediately, but after some time, for everyone it is different, weeks, months, you may find you are happier with someone closer to your own age and without all of the relationship difficulties you are experiencing now. Parents don't try to do or say things to hurt their child, they try to give you advice based on their wisdom, which comes from their experiences. I wish you the best of luck as I don't think you will take this advice as to the extent of your love for this boy, however you may look back upon it and think, hmmm.... **** luck to you whatever you decide to do.

Answer 2

Hey, I know how you feel about the parent issue.... when I was 15 I met the man of my dreams, he was 26. He has been hurt too by another woman. When my dad found out he freaked, but after I had sat down and had a chat with him, he understood. I told him that it was true love and that I am grown up enough to have a full time relationship. 2 years later we are still together, and we are happier than we have ever been! My advice is to talk to his parents and your parents and explain the feeling you have for each other

Answer 3

Its stressful to assert without assembly this lad. i'm hoping he ditched the lass for the main appropriate reason and not the incorrect...you! i might check out the situation as much as you may. Ask him why he broke up along with her. If his answer is "when you consider which you like/love me" then do no longer purchase it. Love is a reasonably super be conscious being thrown around. Love is something that's given with super devotion and in maximum circumstances via the years. The concept of love on the initiating sight is tragedy and when I say tragedy, I propose crashing right into a turn pike at one hundred mile an hour without a seat belt. get to nicely known this lad awhile. or you will possibly desire to be that different females photograph being faraway from MSN. superb of success to you.

Answer 4

The hardest thing is the right thing...
I'm telling u from experience just like people told me i didnt listen but i hope u will...
It will end in tears sweetie..
He is not right for you i know u think u can help him through this that u will be the one to make him see girls arent all bad ive had 3 relationships always im the one who understands ive always tried to help ive been there for them ive missed out on nights out with the girls i lost alot of friends but all i acred about was one person and that was them i ahd their interest set well above mine..
You probably wont listen just like i didnt but believe me there are many men out there who deserve you...
He is not one of them....
Do you want to miss out on your friends etc...
even when u know u wouldnt do anyhting does he make u feel bad so u dont go out my bfs did it to me it works and i missed out on so much and it was worth it at the time i'd do it again but its no life to lead...
Parents even though you dont think now they care about u unconditionally they love u no matter what more than u'll eva understand untill u have kids they want the best for u they ahve been young they ahve been what ur going through dont shut them out be honest talk to them...
I know uve been thru alot believe me but its not a reason to cling on to him does he make u happy more than he makes u sad?

Answer 5

it is hard to against you. i also feel that when i am young. i don't listen to my parent's advises because of love we feel. i facing like a great bottle, at last i win the bottle.

but you know what happen after all, i was not right because i also get a quarrel with her and i was surprised what she did. she replaced me with other guy. i'm very sad for that situation but you know who help me to forget what i've been suffered, is my parent.

just remember, we can replace our boyfriend and girlfriend or even our friends nor our parents.

you are too young to face a bottle like that. since it is too early, make your own way to forget him. i know it's hard to forget to whom we love. but remember our parents is looking good for us. nobody parents are making you bad. they are seating us away from temptation. and they are not hiding if we need them. that is our parent.

thanks for listening.

we, the parents are looking good with our child.

Answer 6

Got bored half way through but as far as communications go you should probably start with an English 1 class & if your special education school doesn't offer that, start with basic sentence structure and spelling. Hope nothing but the best for you and your boyfriend.

Answer 7

i think that only you can rezolve that problem

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