My man is 23yrs old and hasnt had a job for 2yrs.
I am not with him for the money (because he has got any) but it does put a strain on the relationship.
We can't go anywhere together without me willing to pay 4him. I've given him 250(i joke you not) job application forms within 3.5 months.
Guess how many he has sent off!!
NONE.
We try to have fun without spending money but now i'm running out of ideas..i mean how many times can you go for a walk or go to the park
What can i do?
2006-11-23 02:45:35 · 29 answers · asked by Lexilicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes a lazy fart of a tosser
2006-11-23 02:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by adam r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking the *!$$ out of you. If he can't motivate himself then no one can. I'm sure he'd a nice bloke and all that, but 2 YEARS! do me a favour - anyone can get a job if they try hard enough. Give him an ultimatum - get a job or get out. Why should you be spending all your hard earned cash on a lay about? You'll only look back and end up really resenting him and yourself for letting this situation continue. Good Luck!
2006-11-23 02:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a LEECH! Apparently, he is not MAN enough to take care of his family. He is getting a big ego having you work and he doesn't! Why should he bother getting a job? Stand your ground! You have tried to make this marriage work out by helping him with the job applications. Obviously, he doesn't care. So, why should you? Kick him out! File for divorce today! You have the money! You have the control! You pay the bills! Bye bye husband! Trust me! In the end, it will be worth it getting rid of this freeloader! :)
2006-11-23 03:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Magnolia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him is the simple answer. Sounds like he is not going to change and is using you as a meal ticket. Have you tried asking why he doesn't apply for jobs? Might be a good idea. He sounds a lazy so and so leaving you to bring home the bacon. He can't love you or respect you so go find yourself someone decent who will. Good luck.
2006-11-23 03:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know which he is, lazy or tosser, maybe both by the sounds of things. Do you really want to be with a guy without no ambition? Any normal person would be embarresed living off his girlfriend. I'd get rid of him if it was me, but each to there own!
2006-11-23 02:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Zoe M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him asap. He sounds like a waste of time. Why would you, honestly, like to support a guy like this. You will be better off on your own and probably won't take long before you meet someone who deserves you.
The chances of meeting someone whilst you're with him are very small.
Do it otherwise in five years time you are going to look back and think what the hell was I thinking!
2006-11-23 07:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by little_friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got to have some serious words with him girl.
sit him down, and tell him that seriously you want him to start working because you dont see a future if he keeps his behavior like this. tell him he HAS TO FIND A JOB or he is risking your relationship. you want to respect him and look up to him. if you two were to go on for longer, say few years down the line buy a house, have children, its all gonna cost money
me and my husband work our *** off and just about manage to run the show and we havent even got kids - so let me tell you its NOT EASY.
he needs to get his act together - give him a deadline if you think he wont budge otherwise.
tell him to get off his *** and do some work if he wants you to respect him.
good luck
2006-11-23 03:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the lazy bum the ultimatum. Either he gets a job or your leaving him. By the way, your not doing him one favor by always paying his way. Your making him dependent on you for his survival. Why are there so many women these days that tolerate this? I find it most baffling.
2006-11-23 02:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Paul Simon's "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover," and take notes...esp. on the chorus! You need to find someone who respects you enough to pull his own weight. If he's not disabled, he can work and should. Unless you actually *enjoy* being used like this.
Love people, use things--not the other way around.
2006-11-23 02:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god..2 years? i think you seriously need to think if this is the right man for you.. does he not have any goals, aspirations, want to look after you for a change?
If theres not genuine medical reason y he is not working and you have tried your upmost to push him then your fighting a losing battle...maybe when he realises he is losing you it might give him the wake up call that he well and truly needs!!
Its not fair on you
Good luck hun...
2006-11-23 02:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by so bored at work 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋