What would you do?

Question

You have been a carrer since you was 6 and finding it really hard to cope as your mother ilness has got worse
you have derpression and social phobia
You do see a thearpist and on medication
your a bit a loner you havent got many friends and cant find many people who are going though similar things?
you have sucidal thoughts
You are confused most of the time
what would you do? how would you feel you try and make yourself feel better?

Answer 1

I'd take each day as it comes, and not berate myself if it is a bad day, but congratulate myself that I got through it. I'd keep a diary of each bad day and give myself points for every one I finally got through. Sounds a bit like Yahoo Answeers? Well, so many addicts on here, the points thing does work for self-esteem! I might even set goals for myself to get to a higher level and try to find a little humour in my misery.
I'd go for long walks or bike rides or swim - any form of exercise where I wouldn't have to meet other people and just get the benefits. (Swimming is o.k. because even though there are usually lots of other people there, I wouldn't have to talk to them.)
Because I feel lonely, I would get a pet; a cat would be easier for me because, on a bad day, I probably wouldn't be able to give a dog what he or she needs; and cats can cope with that. In fact a cat would understand me, and try to relax me. I'd make a memo to make sure I remembered to feed my cat; but if I forgot that one day, or wasn't able to get it together, my cat would understand.
Or I might get a bird. Even some fish would be nice; watching them swim around for hours would relax me too, and they don't need much care. Trouble is, I need love, and fish aren't really very loving to anyone who can't live in their tank!
Once I felt I was coping better and had some little badge of courage to invisibly wear (e.g. reaching my set goal of level 2 or whatever...) I'd be able to give more to my Mum and helping her wouldn't be so hard as it is now. Once I saw her responding to the new me, she might feel so much better and we'd both be happier. I am sure my Mum worries about me too, so I'd feel the need to be strong for her, and for myself.
I'd promise to never stop my physical work-outs because I'd believe they were making me stronger; both mentally and physically. And I'd tell my pet everything that was bothering me knowing my pet would never judge me.
And then I'd tell myself that I am brave and amazing for having come this far, and I did all a step at a time, by hard effort and strong will-power, so I can sincerely feel proud of myself!
A big pat on the back; a big self-hug and a big kiss for Mum and my pet.
xxxxx

Answer 2

Pure Pink It has been a lot of responsibility for a person to have a career since they were 6 years old. Try to love yourself. Meditate on your life and how you can overcome the stress in your life. It is bound to be difficult to have your mother sick as well. Keep on seeing your therapist and taking medication that you need. Set yourself a goal or two to reach. Get those thoughts of suicide out of your mind and replace them with something wholesome. Try to find something good about each day. Keep on until you can say one day-'I am truly happy and although life is never easy it certainly is worth living" Learn some new crafts and read since this will take your mind off of stress. If you get stressed out don't be too hard on yourself. Realize that you are like everyone else and that you are only human. Make up your mind right now that you will enjoy your life.

Answer 3

i care for my sick daughter so i know how you feel,sometimes you feel like you have no life because you cant do the things that your friends are doing and you should be doing but is there not a medical team who deal with your mothers illness like community nursing team or something like that and have you looked at the possibility of some respite care to give you a break and some much needed time for yourself.I understand you have a social phobia but could you mange some quality time with a few of your friends.Forget the sucide you have loads to live for like i say im in a similar situation but look to get some restbite and sometimes the community nursing teams will send someone to your house for the evening so you can have a break and maybe go out i hope things get better for you and you start to smile again best of luck for the future

Answer 4

I think this is a very individual question and everyone is different.

When I feel stressed and down I do my best to concentrate on positive aspects.

I think if you're a carer it's important to take some time out to be yourself too.

Surround yourself with supportive friends.

You say you don't have many friends. Have you considered a support group? Or joining a club? This wuld give you chance to get out of the house, be with people and make friends.

Feel free to message me.

Good luck

Answer 5

Take it one step at a time.

Start doing some exercise down the local gym

Join a couple of clubs.

Go on a holiday.

I used to be depressed, lonely, completely suicidal.

Now I am travelling around the world and having the time of my life, my shyness completely gone.

Believe that life can change and it will.

Live in the moment.

At this very moment, right here right now, what problems do you actually have?

Ask yourself this and you will realise that problems are just mind made dramas which dominate when you exist in a past / future oriented despair.

Answer 6

its a tough question
if it were me i would try and get rid of the bad feelings, seek help from the doctor and they can help you get in touch with people and groups who have been through the same. try and find people to talk to who have experienced the feelings you have, at the same time you are making friends and getting out a bit. depression can be helped with tablets but i wouldnt bother, they are merely a supressant, they dont take the feelings away, you need to try it by yourself, thoink of whats good and whats bad in life, good things always come up top and make things seem much better and always remember nothing is worth killing yourself for. if you want someone to talk to or hang out with drop me an e-mail, me and my other half are always up for chatting. dont fret, there is always an answer to every problem.
as for caring for your mother, keep up the work, its hard but the benefits are all because of your good work.
take care and good luck. you are never alone.

Answer 7

this is a hard question you need support.
You should be proud of yourself for being such a caring person and know that you are a special person in your own right.
Try to do something possative for your self each day. Take a nice long hot bath with bubbles or something nice to pamper your self each day.
You deserve it.
But do try to get help and support from a profesional or family member there is no shame in asking for help.

Answer 8

Could you join a carers association for support and friendship? Perhaps try and speak to a health care professional that is involved with your mother
Please talk to someone xx

Answer 9

Get some respite care for your mother and go on a well deserved holiday with some quality friends.

Answer 10

Surround myself with good friends and some nice family members if available or look for a life partner to share my good and bad times with!