Why is this happening to me?

Question

All of a sudden, I am being completely ignored by everyone in my family. I walk round my house trying to talk to either my mum or my brothers and they just give me dirty looks and tell me to go away. I've tried asking what I've done wrong and they just shout and swear at me. Please help me, it's really upsetting me.

Answer 1

Its about time your mum acted her age and actually adressed any issues with you! Tell your mum you want to know what is going on...;

Answer 2

My sister went through this. She had this uncontrollable urge to insist that we were all ignoring her and then in the next breath, would insist that we were talking about her behind her back. She would barge into a room where we'd been laughing about something, and shout that she knew we were talking about her. She had a really huge insecurity problem and the more we tried to help her out of it, the worse it got. She kept asking what she'd done wrong and there was nothing we could say, because she hadn't done anything wrong. We couldn't understand why she was asking such stupid questions.
It sounds to me like you are going through exactly the same situation as my sister, and you are feeling very insecure of your place in the family. I can only suggest that you just take a step back and watch whats going on in your family. Sit back in conversations and let it flow around you. Don't get confrontational and don't let yourself be drawn into any sort of argument. Eventually, someone in the family will ask if you are alright. You could say 'No' and try to explain, but that will generally turn into another shouting match, so personally, I would suggest you simply say, 'Yes'. and leave it at that. They'll probably look at you as though you've grown two heads, but smile and shrug as though you have no idea what they're on about.
Eventually, life will continue, but you'll be much calmer about it. You are part of a family and it's really up to you to find your place and realise that your strength is your ability to overcome an annoying situation. It's much more difficult than it seems and will take time. Just remember to keep calm. Take a deep breath and smile and if someone asks 'What're you smiling at?' tell them you're not smiling at anything in particular, you're just happy. And leave it at that. Hopefully, it'll work. But like I said, it takes time and it is so difficult to keep the peace!

Answer 3

Families...Can't live without them and sometimes can't live with them...

Firstly give careful consideration as to what you might have done recently that may have 'ticked' them off... Should you honestly not be able to think of anything... Then approach your Mom and ask her/tell her how all of this is making you feel...

A) If you find out what you may have done then address it with the whole of your family together.

B) Should after you talk to your Mom be none the wiser then go-to your brothers in turn and say...

For whatever I may have done I am sorry...

If you have absolutely no joy from this then you should seriously consider contacting maybe another close relative or even a family friend to act as an advocate/mediator...

But I'm sure there is a feasible explanation for the whole thing...

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to hear your family for some reason have decided not to talk to you,it's so hurtful,especially when you don't know what you have done.
I don' think by the sound of it that there is any use in trying to speak to your mum or your brothers at the moment,as they have already ignored you.
Does your mum have a best friend or maybe one of your brothers who you could approach and try and find out what it is you are supposed to have done, without telling on you?
I do hope you manage to find out what it is and your able to put things right between you all,it's such a horrible thing to do to anyone.
God bless.

Answer 5

First I am sorry this is happening to you especially from your mom. If you do not know what has happened that they are acting so childish and mean to you over, and will not answer you this is sad. If you go to school can you speak to your counselor at school and ask for their help. Maybe in a safe environment like school have your mom called in where she cannot just yell at you or swear at you; this way finding out what her issues are. Keep in mind nothing you did should cause this type of ignorance toward you. I would seek help from either a counselor at school a grandparent aunt uncle....someone that can get her to talk with a safety zone. God luck to you and I am sorry you are facing this.

Answer 6

the next time that everyone is in the same room, you need to stand by the door so that no-body can leave and say to them okay. I've obviously done something to upset you all, but can you please let me know what it is because I don't like the fact that they is an atmosphere in the house and I want to put things right.

Alternatively you could start with your mum and then work around the family and catch them when they are by themselves and say can I talk to you, because I need to know what I've done to upset you. Or leave little notes in their rooms saying that you want and need to speak to them

Answer 7

man, that is the same thing that happened to me.... My dad, im only 10 right? so my dad hit me in the arm for what i didn't do and it was pretty hard, it was right where i got my recent Flu Shot and he slapped me right there and made me cry... But guess what? He didn't care he just walked out of the room like a proud little priss! But enough about me this is about you..... Write them a note or something... Go on a vacation and write them a note on the kitchen counter or the refridgerator saying:

"parents, i have taken a break from this prison. I am going to.. wherever you are gonna go and then just write, i will come back once i get a call from you saying i love you and saying it like you mean it, or start to cry.... Give them a very serious note.... Trust me i did it once and i went next door to my neighbors.. he didn't expect a thing after he slapped me. but then he called said i love you and started to cry a little bit.. but yeah thats what you should do...GO FOR IT! ITS BEST FOR YOUR FAMILY!

Answer 8

I would let things cool down a bit. And, think about what you may have done to anger them. If you can't think of anything - give it a little time. Do your chores, clean your room, whatever.

You won't get good communication if everyone is angry. Once things calm down - ask the person you are closest to about the situation and do so with caring and respect, don't be confrontational.

Answer 9

try to sit down and talk to your mum this seems unfair. if your mum wont talk then try a letter if this does not work then try to get on with your life it will be hard honey buts its the only way. may be when your mum and brothers see that you are not brothered about there behaviour they may stop to me this feels like a bit of bulling. try to stay clam and focused hope you sort it out good luck

Answer 10

They must think you've done something terrible, but it's very childish of them not to discuss it with you. Perhaps you need to get one of your brothers on their own and ask him.

Brothers tend to look out for their sisters, even if it means upsetting mum.

I hope you get to the bottom of it soon, it sounds like an awful situation to be in. Good luck.

Answer 11

Has anything significantly happened to your family or around the home to warrant this unprovoking behaviour? Have you changed anything about your personality (e.g. appearance/dress/talk) that may be interpreted negatively?

Bottomline, discuss this matter with them. Let them know how the situation is affecting you and ultimately making you feel.