There is this guy and he walks me to all my classes and becuz I am a dedicated Athlete I run Home(over 1.6 miles). He always runs with me.He asked me out one day but I said I was busy so he says if we could a different day. My friend says he is only gonna use me cuz she has had bad past experiences(she was raped) and thinks I am still a virgin(But I'm not). I can kick his *** at a race(I race cars) and he still comes back. He comes to all my games/meets and thinks it is so cool that I can snowboard, rok at lax, do gymnastics and still be top of my class. Do you think he is serious about wanting a real relationship?? I don't need no more fake guys. Why do guys only want to use gymnasts for sex?? Should I say yes??
Should I listen to my friend?? I like him but she makes him seem so bad.
2006-11-23 02:25:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason guys like gymnasts for sex is because they generally can contort into great positions and can spread their leg really wide.
As far as this guy goes, only you can decide. You can do a better job of judging his sincerity than any moron on this forum. Besides, you have to live and learn on your own. Don't depend on strangers for guidance.
2006-11-23 02:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the first things you need to know is where your friend is coming from. Rape is not about sex. It is about domination and submission. When your friend had to endure that it changed her whole outlook on guys. While you always need to listen to her just be aware it is not a given that this guy will do that.
Does he want sex? Of course. Any guy that is attracted to a girl would love to have sex with her. What he does about that makes all the difference.
This guy really likes you. He would not hang in there like he has. But I suspect you are finding him a bit needy. While it may seem that way it is just that he cannot tell you how he feels so he may end up over doing it. The last thing he wants to do is take a chance you will say no I am not interested in being more than a friend. So he just hangs around and hopes that you will show interest.
You ask why guys always want gymnast for sex. You no doubt have a great body. Very well developed because of all the exercise. Who would not want it. And a gymnast....well what could she not do? LOL
Worry about this guy only if he shows any sign of being domineering. If he insists that he run with you even when you say you would rather run alone. Anything along those lines then you should beware no matter how he trys to laugh it off.
But if he always respects your wishes just know this. He may find you attractive and would love to be your boyfriend but that does not mean you have to be his girlfriend. But if you know that will never happen you really need to let him know. Don't lead him on because he may be falling in love with you.
And never ever have sex unless you truly have a close and intimate relationship with a man. You will never be sorry you didn't but you could be very sorry it you do.
2006-11-23 03:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do u like him enough for u to consider not listening to ur friend's advise? Also, it looks like u have so many good things going on with ur life already, sports and good grades. Do u think those won't be sacrificed if you get into a relationship with this guy? Remember, if u begin to love somebody, u r giving that person a license to hurt u in the future. If i may advise, get to know him better as just a friend. If he remains to be a nice guy consistently then maybe u could take ur friendship to a higher level. If it's only sex he wants, in time, even as ur friend, he will slip and would hint about discussing stuff about sex. Most fishes may be caught by their mouth.
2006-11-23 02:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin saver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with sex, at least not yet. You are into a lot of activities that most women aren't, therefore, you are a rare find. He is probably into you because of the activities, not the resulting body you get from being so athletic. He sees you as someone he can have fun with and hang out with. Your friend is bitter, justifieably from her own bad experience, but it does not apply here. Go out with the guy, he likes you for who you are, not gymnastics.
2006-11-23 02:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be genuinely interested in you and took a lot of effort to get to know you. Well, there's no use second guessing his intention. You can only have the answer to your question if you try to get to know him. The thing about being cynical and over-defensive, you tend to miss out on opportunities, in this case, to have a meaningful relationship with someone. He's not asking you to marry him! And I'm sure you can take care of yourself. On the other hand, if you don't want to take the chance, then don't but you'll be wondering for the rest of your live whether you have passed a lifetime opportunity for happiness.
2006-11-23 02:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course Ashlea, all guys want sex. That's how our minds are wired - somewhat differently than yours. But it's also true that he may like you for your brains as well as your athletic ability.
Don't confuse going out on a date with commitment or sex. A date should be a date, and you may find you have more in common than just athletics.
2006-11-23 02:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try because he can turn out as nice guy , but be careful if u dont want to get hurt. Y friend says bad stuff about him cuz she had a bad "experience" and it usually leaves a scar on anyones life so its not unusual that she is overprotective
2006-11-23 02:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by ocean3pacific 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with your feelings on this. Your friend has a understandable warped view on men and relationships. She needs help. However, I think that you should be the "judge" of how sincere he is. It sounds like he has more than just a passing interest in you.
2006-11-23 02:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by kamikaze_4021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why to judge him coz of what ur friend told u ? maybe the guy really likes u .... give him a chance and see what he wants , what if he is a nice guy .. and u didnt go out with him just coz ur friend told u he wanna use u . and these days sex is not hard to get trust me i know that for sure .. go out with him and see and then judge always follow heart good luck
2006-11-23 02:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is that tales are told that gymnasts are so finely toned and tuned, sex is phenominal with them.
Go on a date to see what he is like, and decide from there, but go prepared
2006-11-23 02:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋