Like what do you think of it, Have you had an expereance with it.
2006-11-23 02:16:09 · 13 answers · asked by bluetike 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My good friend never had children but she adopted one really beautiful baby girl that grew up to be a great adult, the second died at 17 months from MS it was really sad, the 3rd child was a sweet child but she was a drug addicts child she has an adnormal brain that didn't come to light until she hit puberty its pretty rough on them right now. This is the second adoptive parents I know that have run into this situation. Adoptions are wonderful thing but check on parental background as much as possible before a permanent adoption.
2006-11-23 02:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had anything to do with adoption. But, I'm for adoption when needed. I'd rather see someone give up their child for adoption to be loved by a family instead of being aborted. And if it be that someone would like to adopt a child, all the power to you. I've heard it's a seriously long procedure and very hard to get the "child" you want as well as costly. I think it's a great option for certain reasons and certain people.
2006-11-23 10:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I believe that adoption is very admirable.
Unlike other responders -- I have more than firsthand knowledge. I've adopted one little girl, working on getting another one, and now considering to eventually work on adopting a son. My sister is adopted. My wife was adopted. We found her birth mother and discovered that she too was adopted.
I'm not going to brainwash my child, but I would like to think that she will do the same.
People have children; others choose adoption.
It doesn't have to be a choice of having children because you can't have your own. And it shouldn't be that way.
Feelings are mixed when you get into the details. Giving versus getting; domestic versus foreign; baby versus older child; foster children/parenting.
My view is that every parent should have to undergo what all parents who adopt have to do. You have to prove you can be a good parent. You have to prove you can financially take care of a child. And finally, if I have to be fingerprinted for the sole reason of giving a child a good home. D*mnit, everyone should have the pleasure of giving up their fingerprints to the FBI. I love having my life summed up in a multiple-page document with all kinds of documentation which includes my lack of a police record and financial statements.
Governments and legal systems make it rough to adopt. Society sets all kinds of double standards in place for adoptive families. The only plus side in this has to be that people want the opportunity to love a child so much that they go through all this public scrutiny.
I'm proud to be counted among those -- but please don't say I can't continue my genetic code so I'm settling for second best. I'm doing what I want to do; it's my conscious choice... and it's my primary choice.
2006-11-27 01:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by sir_galahad_ks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great thing to do if you can't have children and if you don't want to HAVE children for whatever reason. There are so many little kids out there in need of a home. You should be able to provide for the child both financially and emotionally before you decide to adopt - it's not just a thing you do.
I have always said that if I'm going to adopt (which I'm very open to doing) I would do it before I have children of my own. It's easier for your own child to accept the adopted one as his/her bother/sister. I think when you have your own children first then there are a lot you have to do (especially if your children are still small) like answering a lot of questions.
But it's still a great thing to do, no matter when you're doing it.
2006-11-23 10:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it gives a chance to have a family of their own. I do want to adopt a child and when i do get a chance i might just do it. They need love and caring people in their life. I think it is a good idea bc it gives them parents and it gives adults who cant have any children to be able to get children. I think it is a good thing i know it may have some fawls but everything does and they will fix those flaws soon but it still have more pros then cons so i think that is a great alturnitive then killing the children. At least it gives them a chance to live and have a productive life.
2006-11-23 10:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adoptions is GREAT i was a adopted as a child to a great family ..i would not have turned out a well as i have if it was not for my adoptive parents ....i am now as adult a adoptive parent and i love it it a great way to give a child a forever home and family ..we would love to adopt again maybe a few times ..we want a big family
2006-11-23 10:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by proudsisterspirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is a positive one because I do have an adopted son. I adopted him when he was two months old and he is almost 35. He was the greatest thing that ever happened with me. I love him so much that it is impossible to put into words. He is married to wonderful lady and they have two children and it has made my world complete. When he had children of his own, he felt that he needed to know something about birthparents, so I helped him find his birthmother and they have a friendly relationship, but I will always be Mom. I always told him that he was special because I had a choice and I chose him, but I know that God was there all along and chose us for each other.
2006-11-25 01:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had experience with it, though I was not adopted, my cousin was. I'd rather go with adoption than abortion, and I think that as long as the baby lives a better life than the biological parents could give it, that's fine.
Private adoptions are the way to go, because you pick the people who adopt and care for your little baby, not the court.
2006-11-23 10:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't take care of the baby I think that adoption is the best thing. At least you know that someone that really would like to have a child will now be able to have one and you won't be killin anyone!
2006-11-23 10:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by lilmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i have no connections with adoption. I feel like this: Who would really want to carry a fetus to term and then give birth and then turn around and give it away? Then it will always be on your mind "where is that baby of mine that i gave away"? I wouldn't want to do this myself and i don't see how others do.
Before i would give a kid up of mine i would rather abort. This is my opinion and i am entitled to it.
2006-11-23 12:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋