Im deeply inlove with that person!
What should i do?
2006-11-23 02:08:03 · 14 answers · asked by Jeckers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex and I were married for about 1 1/2 yrs. We argued about 85-90% of the time. Notice I said ex. Did I love her? Yes. Was the relationship/marriage fulfilling and fun? NO!! In relationships I have found people argue because of 1 simple thing. Selfishness. Every arguement stems from selfishness if you trace if back far enough. My advice to you is if you two can't learn to compromise then DON'T even think about continuing the relationship especially don't think about marriage cause that will last about 1 year after the "honeymoon" phase wears off.
2006-11-23 02:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the cause of these arguments? What happens during these arguments? Have a think about this and why you want to be with this person. Do you have kids with them? If you do think very carefully before doing anything. Think about your own behaviour and how you repsond to things. It is normal to argue in a relationship but is the problem itself getting resolved?Have a good chat with the person and agree at the beginning that you will not let it develop into an argument. Don't say 'you do this and you do that' just try and be as calm and possible and stay positive.
2006-11-23 04:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a healthy argument is good for a relationship. but if i had to argue with my husband most the time I would rather be alone, my advise to you is try to sit the person down and start by being calm and have in mind no argument. after you both are sitting calmly explain how you feel and how much your in-love, if it does not work get counseling. my feeling about this if you stay and keep arguing that what they call insanity, doing the same over and over again expecting different results.
2006-11-23 02:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is going to have it's ups and downs and classic arguments but life is too short for continuous arguing. Arguing takes it's toll on you both mentally and physically. Everyone deserves to be in a loving and emotionally healthy relationship. Constant arguing diminishes the health of the relationship. Continue to love this person but go your separate ways. Good luck.
2006-11-23 02:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her,cos it's the only solution for you to know each other more so you both can work out the difference and stop arguing,
2006-11-23 02:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm the person for you shouldn't be argueing w/ you all the time...you make think they are the one and you prolly do love them but do u wnat to deal w/ that forever? no, theres plenty of time to find someone new(you sound young) tell her how you feel.
2006-11-23 02:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by b a b y : ) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to talk through things.
I know how this goes exactly.
(Don't listen to these other people when they tell you to find someone new, I know it's not that easy) ;)
But, if you really do love this person, and would continue to stay with them, you have to settle differences. Let her know how you feel, what you don't like, and let her know you're willing to work through things as long as she is. (And stick to your word!!)
2006-11-23 02:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rrrobyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel && try not to argue much when your "lover" starts something you finish it by saying you just dont feel like arguing && you could even at in that there right but you should really talk it about it with them
2006-11-23 02:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by mOcHa-j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the root of your arguments, and learn how to handle disputes in a healthy way/
2006-11-23 02:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Slexie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u better get some counsling, or you will end up losing that person, one of you are heard heading and u need someone else to talk with you
2006-11-23 02:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋