hey guys,
I'm really having a hard time breaking up with my boyfriend. I am not happy and we - as a couple - do not get along that well... I don't love him anymore and this burden has become unbearable... We've been going out for a year now and I want to find a way to breakup with him without hurting his feelings... Any advice?
Thanks
Zen
2006-11-23 01:44:46 · 15 answers · asked by stuck 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this relationship isn't working in MANY ways. I don't think that you can break up in a way that will be guaranteed not to hurt his feelings. You see, you're not responsible for his feelings. How he takes it is his issue.
Just be as explanatory as you are in this question and let him take it as he will. To twist an overused breakup cliche' "It's not you, it's not me, it's US". You might want to tell him that he's a good guy if he is, but not the right guy for you.
Contact me if you'd like a little additional assistance. For the love of God, don't do it today. Holiday breakups suck.
Get this settled and find yourself a good date for New Year's Eve.
Good luck.
2006-11-23 01:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1
2016-05-05 15:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is hard to do. Maybe he feels the same way you do but don't want to hurt you either. There isn't any easy way that I know of. Don't do it over the phone though. Even if it is the easier way. I don't think that it is very nice. Calmly take him somewhere quiet and nice maybe a restruant or your house or his depending on privacy and quietly and calmly tell him I am really glad for the time we had together. you are a really great guy. What attracted me to you first was ___________. I really like ________ about you. However as much as I have liked and enjoyed our time together, lately I feel that we aren't getting along well anymore and I just need to break-up. I think we need to go our seperate ways. He may tell you that he wants to stay with you. Or he might say can we break-up for a few months and then try again. Only you can make those decisions. I hope that this helps you. Good luck.
2006-11-23 01:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Shell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
harm united statesare by no skill ordinary. there is not any way around the heartbreak. it relatively is the two the guy get super pissed or relatively depressed. in the event that they don't then you relatively would not have been in the relationship with the guy in the 1st place. tell her promptly up ''i be attentive to we've been relationship for a 300 and sixty 5 days now, and that i only don't experience a similar approximately you.'' the certainty hurts, besides the undeniable fact that it relatively is greater valuable than mendacity or having her wager. in case you're too scared, then i assume you ought to do the classical, ''deliver a music''. detect a music the expresses the way you experience and tell her it relatively is the way you experience. provide her time to appreciate what you're relatively attempting to declare. If she has any questions, do not hesitate to respond to them. it relatively is the least you ought to do for not telling her promptly up. additionally, attempt keeping off the words ''i don't be attentive to'' stable success :)
2016-10-12 23:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by dusik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to break up with someone and not hurt their feelings on some level. You can't stay in a relationship that is making you unhappy . At the end of the day you will both be better off going your seperate ways.
2006-11-23 01:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Someone will get hurt to varying degree and I think, mostly it will be your bf bearing the brunt of it. You should have a heart to heart talk with him rather then continue leading him on. You have to be fair to him.
I'm sorry, there is no way both of you will come out of this without getting hurt. The only good advice I can offer is, try to be civil about it.
2006-11-23 01:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no way of breaking up with a person and not heart a persons feelings, the best thing you can do is beak up with him now and not later dont try the avoiding stuff it only makes it harder and it will make him hate you.
if you feel it in ur heart tthat you re fed up tell him face to face so that he 'll know that uz serious. theres no easy way of breaking a persons heart coz either way you gonna loose a bit of you with that person if he asks why you are leaving you will know if to tell him the truth or gve him a fake reason the one thing you should never do is SEND A FRIEND TO TELL HIM THAT ITS OVER BTW THE 2 OF YOU he will not accept it. he will either fall out of friendship with that friend or feel embarassed coz everyone knew you were breaking up except for him.
break up with him in a way that will maintain his dignity and urs coz there are some guys who dnt take break ups that easily
2006-11-23 01:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by valery p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to do it without feelings getting hurt. Just do it and get it over with. It will be like taking a splinter out. It will hurt but once it's out you'll be much more comfortable after the healing process is over.
2006-11-23 01:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by neilinhp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you say that you do not love him anymore probably ... you didn't loved him...because,believe me,love is immortal!lets better say you do not feel this heat and passion for him!
Advice ..If he is a logical man tell him how you feel and that u don't want to play fool with him by pretending !!
tell him that he must respect your decision and try to end up in a "good way"
2006-11-23 01:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by El Gato 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its possible that you will be unable to avoid hurting his feelings but at the end of the day you need to do whats right for you.When you finish with him I would advise no contact at all as this only prolongs the inevitable and makes the hurt and confusion last longer for both of you.Be brave and make your decision ,stick to it and do not give out mixed signals to what you want to do
2006-11-23 01:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by knowsitallandabitmore 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋