When my man wasn't home I went thru his box of photos and old letters and found some things I wish I hadn't. Letters from his ex girlfriend talking about the sweet things he'd say to her.. exactly the same he'd tell me, and in one she rehashed their whole 4yr relationship he'd cheated on her with about 10 girls and thats just what she knew! I havn't had any problems in 6-7 months with that but now I'm wondering if I'm just blind. She described him as never home and he is home almost all the time with me... so maybe he changed? He is always saying how he wants me to have his kids, but he'd said the same thing to her... the way he'd act with her is just so ugly and although he isn't that bad with me... i'mm afraid hes going to get worse. i can't tell him i snooped but should i break it off or give him a chance... maybe he changed?
2006-11-23 01:43:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget you saw the letter, if you love him and you're sure that he loves you and you were happy before you read the letter then just put it behind you. Everyone has an ex, what matters is that he's with you now.
2006-11-23 01:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I don't condone u snooping... wise up. Both of them have done U a huge favor! A Zebra doesn't change it's spots! What spots u ask? Exactly, cheaters cheat... haven't met one yet that doesn't! Ur not blind, your gut is telling u to BEWARE!
The big, no huge warning sign Should be his line about U having his kids! Oh, Please Don't Tell Me U Buy That Line in the year 2006! That is the most over used line to get into and stay in a girls pants!!!
And your next line about he isn't THAT BAD with U... tell me why U think so little about yourself that it's OK for a cheater to treat U like crap! Who told U that U weren't Special nor Enough?
U want someone to tell U the Zebra changed his spots... and no one can do that. I think U already know it. But let's say the Sex is good, he occupys your time, and nothing else is around to interest U otherwise. Honey, the longer U lay with dogs... U catch Fleas...
Count U Blessing & just move on... U can't change men no little boys like that. Somewhere they learned it was ok to treat females like dirt. Don't fall for it, be wise and enjoy the ride. But life is too short to be laying with a dog. He's only going to cause U heartache somewhere down the line. An U'd be a FOOL to have his baby...
Babies should be created by parents who not only want them, but who have the resources to care, love and the commitment to be parents together. Don't bring a baby in the world to try to hang onto a guy. No baby deserves that. This is a great opportunity to improve U. To not fall prey to guys who have these huge character flaws. U have to believe U deserve so much more.
2006-11-23 05:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't break him off solely based on the information you got from a bitter ex. It might not be true, or it could also possibly be exaggerated. I also believe that once a cheater always a cheater so just be careful, don't be suspicious , but slightly guarded. But If you say he hasn't gotten like that with you yet then wait it out at the expense that he could possibly hurt you. It is very lame that he's not original enough to use different lines on you, which kinda sucks but he doesn't sound terrible. The thing about change is that people can and will change, it is just unlikely that people will stay changed if you know what i mean. Wish you the best.
2006-11-23 01:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would leave it for the time being. Take on board what you have learnt and bear it in mind. Why ruin a good relationship over something in the past.
A relationship is built on the future not the past. Your bloke may have changed, but until you give him a chance to prove it you'll never know for sure.
Also understand that you are not his EX so you are in a completely different situation and you react differently to things than what she did.
Give it time until you are comfortable and then suggest that he throws away the box, start looking through it in front of him (Just in case there is anything worth keeping etc) and see how he reacts.
Hope this helps
2006-11-23 01:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh-hmmm...That's what happens when you snoop around... Reality can really be shocking,huh? Well let me say that as a guy, we tend to have our "playing" period... It is a sort of trial and error stage. We get into a relationship, see what it is like and get out if we don't like it... It might be what happened to your boyfriend... He used to play a lot in the past but now he is very willing to settle down... With you. So why not give him the chance? I suppose that he has not done anything bad to you yet. So I think the guy deserves a little trust and understanding from you. And one more thing... if you still had doubts, talk to him. I mean talk to him properly, tell him your fears about your relationship, and ask him about his plans for the two of you.OK? Have a nice day...
2006-11-23 01:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by ayskyubx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn! U snooped through someone's personal letters? Well that was just wrong! Here is your answer. Do you equate yourself to this former girlfriend? If you do then he is going to cheat on you. If you are totally independant and a totally different person I would think that he chose you for you. Quit snooping baby and if you can't trust the man then you need to leave the relationship.
2006-11-23 01:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by troll_house_kookies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ive snooped soo many circumstances, via telephones, drawes, under the mattress, in there motor vehicle, even in wallet, now i recognize i sound like an obsessive loopy lady, yet once you have a feeling that your guy is cheating you cant help your self, each time ive had this sense and snooped around ive constantly stumbled on somethng to coach hes cheated, i think of on occasion snooping is a sturdy element, who knows what you will discover. yet on occasion you like u didnt when you consider which you such as you didnt discover what you stumbled on lol.
2016-10-04 07:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it dosent mean he changed, but if you are keeping your man happy, then he dosent have a reason to cheat, most men cheat because they arent happy or the want new stuff in there relationship, he was just probaly sick of his or and she wasnt keeping him happy
2006-11-23 01:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give him a chance.
2006-11-23 01:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by kayla b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don\'t say anything tel it be your secret
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