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Question

right here it goes - im in a realsionship and yeah its still early days 1 week we have bein toghther lol. he is mad about me and is soo lovley he's perfect and such a gentlman and looks after me , but i dont have many feelings for him and this has happend with the past 3 relastionships tht i have bein in and its really bugging me because i realllllly realllly want to have feelings for him and make it work , i think it might be because a boy proper broke my heart last year so i dont think tht i am allowing my self to love anyone any more && it really sucks! does anyone no how i get out of this or any other tips , please !!1!! help meee thnxoo

Answer 1

try having sex with him and take it from there

Answer 2

oh dear me, what a pickle!

my friend is exactl the same, everytime she finds a guy who likes her she puts up this emotional wall and doesn't let anyone in! I think that your putting too much pressure on yourself at the moment, just because this has been a trend in other relationships doesn't mean its gonna be the same this time. If you are constantly thinking about how you feel, where this is going and the way you feel about someone chances are it is going to put pressure on the relationship. If you have had your heart broken then it is only natural that you are going to feel apprihensive going into a new relationship. I would sit down with this guy and tell him exactly how your feeling, about your past and that you really would like to make a go of it but it takes time. He sounds like a wonderful guy so I am sure he will understand. Take your time, enjoy yourself and if it is meant to be it will happen.

My mam always used to say to me "you could spend half of your life looking for Mr Right, but in the meantime you might as well enjoy yourself with Mr Wrong!"

Good luck I hope it works out. xxx

Answer 3

Hi,
I too have this problem, I have dated a few women since my last long term relationship, and all of them had feelings for me that I could not return, I think that this guy is not the one for you I'm afraid to say. When you meet the guy who is for you, he will bowl you over, and you will not be able to control your emotions!

I also feel that maybe your worrying to much too soon, as its such a new relationship, I think you maybe expecting a little too much out of your self, I cannot imagine anyone being that in tune with there feelings that they can pin-point the moment when you let yourself fall in love.

I hope this helps in some way,
love n light xx x

Answer 4

First of all it has only been a week........give it time. True feelings have to develop, they are not always naturally there. As far as the guy who broke your heart.......don't let him prevent u from having happiness, let that go. It's a little like life.....u can't live afraid of dying, and u can't get into relationships afraid of breaking up. Focus on the fact that he is a great guy, enjoy that without fear or suspicion. Remember u deserve to love and be loved and if u take down the protective wall u have up u will allow yourself to "feel" again. Good luck. :-)

Answer 5

That sucks for you. I surely have been in the comparable place. the sole advice i will grant is which you date the dude as quickly as and notice if he's surely a good and honest guy or woman. If he does something that pisses you off don't be afraid to assert so. Love is all approximately taking unfavourable aspects and in case you could no longer then i might lock up my heart and throw away the biggest in the mean time.

Answer 6

i think you are just being too hard on yourself.

i mean come on its only been a week - dont force yourself to have feelings but also dont hold them back

infact dont think about how you feel just yet. just take a deep breath, relax and enjoy your time with him. if hes a nice guy and if hes doing the right things, the feelings will come to you themselves - trust me you wont be able to ignore that warm feeling.

i was like that when i met my guy - whos now my husband. coz i was heartbroken from a relationship 2 years before i met him, i guess i was really holding back and scared deep inside that hes so nice yet what if i dont get feelings for him ?

so just relax and go with the flow....

use long baths, herbal oils and classical music to calm your nerves and try not to think of 'your feelings' or worry about how you are feeling.

good luck

Answer 7

Yep I think you know you are not really ready yet give yourself some more time. Take it easy do not force yourself
when you do meet someone you will naturally just be like 'Cor blimey this is fantastic and all those feelings that are meant to be there will be. This is your body's way at the moment protecting you from more heartache and stress. Enjoy.

Answer 8

A relationship does not grow on trees and its the same as emotions, you have to work at it to get better results. Give it time you will grow closer and closer as the days go by. Imagine if he was not around and how you would feel. A BIG FISH does not come around that often.

Answer 9

do the kindest thing for him and let him go. without knowing it you are stringing him along.
just tell him your not ready for a relationship yet and after only a week you can't really call what you have with this guy a relationship anyway.
you'll know it when the right guy comes along - trust me.
a broken heart takes time to mend, and in time, you'll be ready for a proper relationship with the right guy.
xxx

Answer 10

Maybe you've rushed into things, look your young and probably sexy, sample different men. he's a gentleman right, boring you need some one who's going to excite you, the James bond type. who's going to make you feel sexy and wanted, and all that love stuff comes later when you tame him. whats the point of a guy who's one thing and with little else to offer. See what you really want and if he's really it than go back to him, if he loves you he'll understand.

Answer 11

You're on the rebound. I bet if you chuck him you'll start missing him, but you should. No point in forcing yourself to have feelings. It's like a bloke trying to get an erection when they can't, it just has the opposite effect. I think you're just scared of being single. I'm single and it's great!