i always say the nicest and sweetest things to my bf, and he likes it but he hardly compliments me, i asked him about why he doesn't and he jus says he's not the complimenting type, he said he feel awkward. but i don't get it. i even asid it's probably cos he doesn't find me attractive no more but he said thats not it.
i want someone who can make me feel good, i'm jus asking for the odd compliment here and there, not constantly. it's really bothering me. does he not find me attractive no more, or are there some guys who are jus like that?
2006-11-23 00:15:07 · 12 answers · asked by DaRkAnGeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he genuinly is the uncomfortable type, who is maybe to shy to say things like that. I think you need to remember though, its not compliments from your boyfriend that makes you beautiful. Feeling good, and feeling that you look good needs to come from you. Don't let the fact he doesn't tell you you're attractive, make you think you're not. Tell yourself you're beautiful instead, and your confidence will reach a new level and you won't feel the need for him to compliment you. He should, being your partner, but if he doesn't, its okay because you are still attractive anyway.
2006-11-23 00:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by tahanni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together, sweetie? After that initial super-close phase, things tend to go this way. When you guys have some time together when you are both feeling relaxed, gently mention how much you appreciated it some time that he did compliment you, or how great it would make you feel if he did it from time to time. Remember that they are not mind readers and tell him what you need rather than expect him to catch on that you want him to act like you do.
Honestly, most men are not great at this and you can't hold them to your own standards. Women are just more vocal and expressive. Appreciate all the nice things he does for you, even the tiny things, and try to remember them next time he doesn't respond the way you want.
2006-11-23 08:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some people are just like that.
They were raised in houses where they were rarely, if ever, praised.
Because you stated that he knows of this character flaw, but is doing nothing to change it, he probably won't change.
Think about this, if he doesn't compliment you, he wouldn't compliment his kids. And children raised in pessimistic, non-praising households, generally grow up to be bitter, sad, pessimists.
Is that what you want for your children? If I were you, I would sit him down and put it just like that, then let him think about it. He will either attempt to change himself, or you can decide if you want to live that way.
Good luck
2006-11-23 08:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are people like that, I do not find myself in the complimenting mood very often and my husband isn't handing compliments out left and right either. But this is why it doesn't bother either of us we both have the same views on what we want and need, so it works for us.
2006-11-23 08:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot guys think of themselves as a man's man and don't like to say nice sweet things because they are tough guys. All women enjoy being complimented by their bf as they well should. So maybe this guy isn't right for you.
2006-11-23 08:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by bethanybuilder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should definetly get a different BF! Trust me I have been there before! You probably are very pretty, but if he don't complment you he probably don't like you or think you are attractive. Get a different boyfriend!!
2006-11-23 08:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just nice to receive a nice word here and there. my fiance always has something nice and positive to say to me and it makes me feel good. if he cant do this for you then i would find someone who appreciates you and move on. i doubt he will change.
2006-11-23 08:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are like that. believe me, my boyfriend is one of them. try for a week or two a test on him, do not say anything to him, he'll start asking you if you're ok!!
2006-11-23 08:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to find someone who sees your qualities. Find him or let him find you, make yourself single,soon
2006-11-23 08:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save time and misery. Dump him. Now.
2006-11-23 08:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋