I have recently cut of contact with a FWB relationship with a younger man, i'm 11 years older than him. This lasted for a year and whilst I really care for him I am in love with a man who has a girlfriend and is living with her for the past 3 years. I have tried to break away from the both of them recently by meeting a person in a nightclub and having sex with him but he doesn't contact me that often.
When I told the younger man of this he got really upset that I would give myself away so easily as he put it and he was also upset that I only chose to tell him and not the unavailable man. He also told me that he loved me and really cared for me and my kids (met them a couple of times) I am divorced.
The younger man then informed the unavailable man that I had been sleeping around, he said he did it because he didn't really care for me and he has a point he doesn't. I have since cut of contact with the young man,do you think he did it cos he cared for me? Should I be friends?
2006-11-23 00:12:57 · 6 answers · asked by yyyut g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he probably does he told him cos he wants you to see that its not worth chasing this guy as he's already involved with someone else and wont leave her for you.
However he may have seen it as if he couldnt have you then he didnt want the other guy to have you either....
I dont know really depends on the personality of this guy
Do what u thinks right and start meeting new people.
If you didnt rush into things you wouldnt be needing FWB
A man will respect you more
One night stands hardly eva work out so if your looking for someone stable who can be a rolemodel for your kids and provide for all of you then you need to think about where your looking
2006-11-23 00:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have way to many relationships going on here and it may be a good idea to take a break from them all to give you time to evaluate your situation and feelings.
A man that is already attached is not going to give you any commitment you may want never mind the morals involved.
The younger man seems to have told this unavailable man to try to get you to himself though that is not the way and by the sounds of it you may like him, but you dont speak of loving him.
Having sex with someone else is not going to help you to break from the other 2. You've got to do it because you know its best for you.
Tough place to be in, good luck in finding what your after.
2006-11-23 08:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by mjastbury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to distance yourself from both of these people, the younger man and the man who is using you. Just because he cares for you as a friend and is concerned about you doesn't mean that he wants to have a romantic relationship with you.
I think the best thing you can do is move on with your life. Meeting men in bars for sex is dangerous destructive behavior. It isn't a good example to your children. Neither is being in love with a man in committed relationship.
Look for someone who isn't committed. Why don't you join a single parents group and see if you can't find someone unattached. Consider a local dating service. or look for speed dating groups in your area.
You deserve better than a man who uses you and you deserve more for yourself than a man who loves another woman.
I also would recommend you don't expose your children to men you are dating until you are more sure of your relationship with them. It's hard on kids if they get attached to men who move in and out of your life.
2006-11-23 08:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive god will come 2 u eventually and take you up the *** !!
2006-11-23 08:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by padge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he cares, mayb its an infatuation?
2006-11-23 08:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Li 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did it because he is jealous
2006-11-23 08:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋